texting is not cheating. but if you're unable to tell your wife that you are texting with your friend who happens to be a girl you've known at work for a few year (oh, and in this case, probably a decent looking girl who he has strong feelings for) then you are being unfaithful to your wife....yes. It's a different story if you were texting you're bosses 65 year old secretary who you consider you're mother who likes to know about your family, etc...but in this case, yeah, he's being unfaithful to his marriage, and isn't heading for anything good.

Myabe I am just clueless, since I never jumped on board the BBM bandwagon. But from history, the only thing I used MSN for was chatting with girls, who potentially could have gotten in a relationship with. Ever since meeting my wife, I no longer use MSN. And if I still communicated with everyone on my MSN list, I would consider that being unfaithful to her. I just saw a commercial for BBM, and its targetted towards flirting and dating. To me, that's all texting is about, unless its with your same sex friends who you are asking when to meet up at the gym etc. I don't really think my wife would approve me texting some hot little girl I met at the gym to ask when she's planning on being there.