I'd like some advice.

[RagingRandy]

She is obviously an immature child. If she is actually willing to change she needs to make restitution for what she has done. I think her selling the car and giving you the proceeds would be a good first step. People need to stop making excuses for her and being lenient. She will never grow up until people stop treating her as a child. She needs to start owning her responsibilities.

[dremen]

I say quit leting this ****ing bitch walk all over you bro. Sorry to hear of your situation right now, but IMHO any man that has his funds under a womans name is just ASKING for trouble.

You sound like a really nice guy so maybe you need to cut this chick out of your life FOR GOOD and pick yourself up again and try to rebuild everything. Like if you don't cut ALL ties to her ASAP she's just going to **** you over again for sure and if you let it happens it's not going to be anyone elses fault.

Start a new buisness or get a different job, save up your cash again and go break some ****ing powerlifting records bro, like SMASH EM UP...lol

This chick is poison bro so worry about you and YOUR future, not her.

Best wishes big guy

[daande]

If you think shes worth it give her a chance. However, get all your bank accounts and shit in your name. Do not give her access to your money. She ****ed up once with it which is more than enough **** up's when it comes to money. Would you invest your money twice in with an investment broker who lost all your money once?

[Flexxx]

As for the money aspect, if you get paid back, and you stick around keep your accounts seperate. She obviously does not have the responsibility to manage hers. 2 years of not paying GST. They send MANY letters and phone calls about that. Trust me I run a business as well and had my accounts seized years ago for no payment (I wasn't making enough money to pay them).

As for her as a person. You might be more understanding than me, but I might be selfish or possessive, but if my wife ever cheated on me, or worse yet, planned a sexual escapade with coworker, she would be out of my life for good. I have always trusted women until they give me a reason not to. Once that happens I could never trust them again.

Sorry to hear you are getting stringed around so much, women can really mess with us. Gonna need years of therapy by the sounds of it to trust one fully again.

Not sure how old you are, but she sounds very immature, even for a 21 year old. I always found the young ones nices to look at, but as soon as they open their mouth it kills it for me.

[Rhinobolt10]

Hey Guys,

thanks so much for everyone who replied and took the time to read through my post, no matter what you said or how you said it, I appreciate every word.

I'd like to take the time to respond, and I want to make sure I'm not coming off as defensive or anything like that, as I really appreciate everything that everyone is doing for me here.

Once again, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

BTW, I'm mid 20's and we had the bank account in her name as it was already set up, and we generally keep everything in 1 account as cashflow for us is generally a nightmare.

[Rhinobolt10]

Well if shes now putting in the effort to try and improve herself through therapy and better the relationship, theres no reason to cut her off and leave. She obviously cares about you and the relationship or she wouldnt have agreed to go.

As for this business vacation, if it were me, I would ask her not to go on any anymore. If thats possible. Again she needs to earn your trust again.

Shes still young and still has tons to learn, so Im sure you can be there to support her and she can be there to support you as well. So maybe you might want to bring some of these things up with her? If you have not already.

Thanks for replying.

I think we've brought up most issues and are working right now to tackle everything head on no matter what it is.

I'll do my best to support her, as in the past one of the only reasons I've had money in my pocket is because of her.

Thanks again.

[Rhinobolt10]

Leave the bitch for good. Seriously. Its so clear cut its not even funny. You have found a succubus (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Succubus).

She will drain you emotionally, financially and physically as well. You've got 99 problems son, and the bitch is the BIGGEST one.

Hey man, thanks for the reply.

You hit really close to the mark dude... it's scarey... I want to work through this.... but I'm going to keep your words in the back of my mind.

[Rhinobolt10]

Get rid of it.

Lol... thanks for the reply.

I'll give her the chance to change... and I'll forgive if I can, never forget, and if anything like this comes up again after we've worked through it... we know what to do.

thanks again for reading through everything.

[Rhinobolt10]

she's trash, be happy she's out of your life...There is nothing more beautiful than one day after the other...move on , there is a huge world out there.

Thanks for reading through everything man.

Sounds like you've had experience with this kinda crap.

You're right, when I broke up with her at the start I was the happiest I'd ever been in a while... Just as it went on, I couldn't stay away.

I'll give her a shot, and if not... I'll remember your words.

[Rhinobolt10]

Outside looking in, if you were to ever cut her loose again, wait at least until you get paid back everything she owes you.

Sounds like you've been taken advantage of on more than a few occasions, which really sucks because it sounds like you're a genuinely good person and don't deserve that kind of bullshit.

In any case, hang in there man. Hopefully it works out without much more heartache. Try not to lose sight on your personal goals either. You need to at least have that to hold you together. If you let that slip through your grip, it'll only make you feel worse. Try to use all of the negative things that have happened to fuel your fire in the gym and keep you motivated to lift, no matter how trivial it may seem right now.

DEFINATELY getting my money back no matter what. Which honestly I think will be a good thing as at the end of this summer, I'll have all my profit from the year, and last years profit as well, not a bad deal, and all I have to do is live broke for a while.

I've been taken advantage of sure, but I'm not choir boy or anything, 2-3 years ago she caught me fooling around, and after about 8 months of me working through things and making some changes we got back together... of course, the time we were broken up she managed to lie her ass off about a few things that piss me off quite a bit.

I've found it's a lot easier these days to keep my personal stress seperate from most things, I'm not using this as an excuse to cheat on my diet, tho at times I find it very hard to train.

Thanks again for reading through everything.