I met my wife on Hi5 (it was like facebook before facebook) I tried the dating sites and either got women posting up their high school pictures or nutjobs. I found asking extended network friends to work very well. I still thank my friend who set us up every time I see him.

As for plentyoffish, everyone I know who is a member on that site is looking for one thing only, bootycall.

Working at a bar, or being in a bar is a great place to get laid. But once you hit your 30s you are not really going to find quality women getting drunk at a bar. If they have their life together they probably have more important things to be doing. Last thing I want is a 30 year old attention whore, alcholic, sporatically employed bar hottie.