Asked a girl out for the first time in a LONG time

[cheesesteak]

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[MMASTAR]

Chill out man, just concentrate on you, being happy and lifting for now, when the time comes things will happen for you. You sound depressed and if you cant be happy on your own your not ready for a relationship anyway, just chill for a while.

[cheesesteak]

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[ubcpower]

lol

[cheesesteak]

lol yeah I had a meltdown... save my embarassment and not post again

[Andre]

lol yeah I had a meltdown... save my embarassment and not post again

Don't be that way... you got my all psyched to read about one of your adventures... let's hear it!

[cheesesteak]

Here I'll look like a big bitch but anyways....

Liked this girl at the gym for awhile. Talk to her all the time. Today she mentioned that she loves to eat donairs. I said "I'll take you out to get one sometime" and she raised her eyesbrows like "oh really ****face?" and then said "you can bring me one here". I just said "hmmmm" and walked away. I even left out the other exit to avoid seeing her on my way out.

If I wasn't so smitten with this girl I wouldn't have given a shit but I've liked her for a long time. Even had to listen to her talk about how she had crushes on other guys. So I felt like a complete ****ing fool for tipping my hand letting her know I like her and she acted like a superior being and rejected me pretty hard. I always thought the talking about other guys in front of me was disrespectful but I let it slide. Now I see how she really is.

I'm starting to think that I should just give up with women. I suck at trying to flirt. I look like Sloth from Goonies (right tex? lol). If I were a closet homosexual I would be fine with having no female attention but that isn't the case. The whole reason I started to train was to get girls talking to me and I find that I talked to 100x as many when I drank all the time as opposed to now when I don't.

My brother gets girls wanting him all the time. Makes them do all the work. Unfortunately he doesn't like me very much and the advice he gives me I don't think he has my best intentions for. Like for example he said my personality was shit and that I talk too loud (lots of people say I talk too loud) so he said I "should be like that Jay [Cutler] guy and only talk when you absolutely have to". We watched some of From Jay To Z and my brother was laughing because it's his video and he seems like he doesn't know what to say to the camera (think how people say Jay acts like a robot). So I'm supposed to act like a robot, only caring about training and winning. Doesn't seem so bad but I'm still not sure if that is genuine advice or him trying to blow smoke up my ass to get me to go away.

So cliffnotes:

- got oneidis with a girl
- she rejected me in disgust
- i flip out on this board because i have nowhere else to vent
- further my career as rookie in the game of life

[nitrous]

i dont think it was that bad.. you explained it well... my tip... dont go to your brother for advice.. if he wants to give it he will give it but dont go out of your way to try to get it..

as for the girl when she was talking about boys she likes blah blah you should have talked about this annoying girl that is hitting on you.. one that was hot but too annoying or some BS like that... or bring up an ex that was a stripper taht you just ran into again recently.. but if that isnt like you at all then dont use that.. gotta use something that is true to you but shows that girls like you.. you arent desperate trying to find a girl cuz girls are all over you.. but if she wanted to hang out for friendly get together you would..

however you are past that point.. at this point your only option is to take it a step further.. if she begins talking to you again make fun of her a bit.. jokingly not in a mean way.. tell her she looks funny the way she is lifting a certain exercise or something like that.. if her hair is long tell her you think it would look better short cuz you dont like it.. something that she could change if she really wanted to that way it isnt as harsh ya know..

to win her at this point you have to just make yourself look like you arent desperate.. you have options.. and you are superior.. she doesnt want to feel like she is doing charity work to hang out with you.. she wants to feel like she is lucky to be around you..

know what i mean?

[waderow]

you want everything to fast cheese. you need to have patience.


Here is the only advice I can give you:

you build it, and they will come.

[69challenger]

you want everything to fast cheese. you need to have patience.


Here is the only advice I can give you:

you build it, and they will come.

Gotta agree with this

[cheesesteak]

The way she rejected me made me feel that there is no shot in hell. She gave me a look like "what the **** did you just say? YOU think you can get with ME?". I think I'd rather just ignore her now instead of playing at being friends. What she did, in my eyes, is disrespect me both as a friend and as a man. She could have made up some trife bullshit about seeing someone (I wouldn't have known) or just say "yeah maybe" and never followed up. Instead she makes me look like a idiot.

If you knew what I looked like (I got a journal in the log section) saying I have girls wanting me is not a very strong angle to use. I like what wade said, "you build it, and they will come". If I had some body/looks I could build off that. Right now I have nothing going for me that someone else can't beat. Financially, independantly, appearance wise. So I figured this girl (I would rate her a 4 by the way) was easy pickings since she doesn't have much going for her either from what she's told me.

[JifeLacket]

Sounds like she is a totallll deckkk/playing games or something stupid. Next time if she asks for a spot drop it on her face!

Good advice above, just try not to fall so quickly for the girl until you really know her maybe.. I am taking it realllll slow with this girl right now and im loving it! Not a **** and chuck situation.

[Durk]

Dude that was nothing. I think you just need to do this more often to get more confortable with it.

Honestly I would have zero game if it wasnt for my ability to respond the right way to what girls say. I get responses like that all the time it is just the way respond back to them. It is so natural for me that I barelly notice it anymore.

She said why dont you bring them here?

You should of just said with a smile on your face "what do you think im your delivery boy? Your lucky that your cuter than your funny, lets go/or what time am I picking you up etc.

Something along those lines or you could of used that line and got her to bring you one to the gym instead. She probably didnt think you had no shot in hell until you walked away dude. Learn to be indifferent it works wonders.

[JifeLacket]

I still say drop the weight on her face...

[Andre]

The next time you see her ask what her hourly rate is...

[Danger]

Dude bookmark this shit and then in 6 months or whatever when your with a hotter chick than this one just look back and laugh. I think as long as you manage to learn something from this its good experience.

[natenator]

Dude that was nothing. I think you just need to do this more often to get more confortable with it.

Honestly I would have zero game if it wasnt for my ability to respond the right way to what girls say. I get responses like that all the time it is just the way respond back to them. It is so natural for me that I barelly notice it anymore.

She said why dont you bring them here?

You should of just said with a smile on your face "what do you think im your delivery boy? Your lucky that your cuter than your funny, lets go/or what time am I picking you up etc.

Something along those lines or you could of used that line and got her to bring you one to the gym instead. She probably didnt think you had no shot in hell until you walked away dude. Learn to be indifferent it works wonders.



Word. Chicks dig witty and if you can do it and burn them subtly at the same time they'll be interested...

You: Really nice earings
Her: thanks
You: yeah, my grandma used to wear the same style.

Walk away...

[warlock]

#1 take care of your body
#2 love yourself
#3 read about a bunch of different stuff
#4 do bunch of different stuff
#5 talk to a bunch of different types of people

When #1 attracts women, #2 will give them the right value, #3,4 and 5 will make you be able to carry a conversation with pretty much anyone about anything and them if there is chemistry you will end up in #69.

Good luck

[cheesesteak]

This is all good advice. It's clear to me that I'm not ready for dating yet. Best to wait awhile and see if I can build some confidence. I still say it would be better if the girl did all the work, that way I would know she likes me and there would be no rejection.

[BDH]

Girls like that are begging for negative compliments... something to slightly disarm them and bring them "down to your level"...

[cheesesteak]

Saw her at the gym today. She got the tread next to me and was chit chatty for about 2 minutes before going "i got a date for friday" and all I did was put my headphones in while saying "oh yeah?". After about 10 minutes of just walking and not talking to her she left her tread to go on an elliptical.

Even though that was probably childish on my part I feel I got some of my dignity back by just blowing her off when she wanted someone to chat with.

[BlueStar]

Word. Chicks dig witty and if you can do it and burn them subtly at the same time they'll be interested...

You: Really nice earings
Her: thanks
You: yeah, my grandma used to wear the same style.

Walk away...

lol...

cheesesteak.. busting on chicks, in a funny way.. shows you won't be their bitch, and that's attractive to women... women are into MEN.. if you aren't needy.. and are on your own path in life.. that's what's attractive to women... but you can't fake it... you gotta live it.

when she told you to get her a donair, you shoulda got her a glass of milk in a sippy cup and said here's some milk for the little girl... lol.

[CanadianIron]

1. Get a good job
2. Buy a nice car
3. Buy a house
4. Make girls think you have cash
5. Hope for the best


Some guys need all the help they can get...

[69challenger]

lol...

women are into MEN.. if you aren't needy.. and are on your own path in life.. that's what's attractive to women... but you can't fake it... you gotta live it.



Very true

[tex]

1. Get a good job
2. Buy a nice car
3. Buy a house
4. Make girls think you have cash
5. Hope for the best


Some guys need all the help they can get... lmao.....might as well just buy yourself a girl every now and then when you get lonely....it would be cheaper.....

i say follow warlock's advice and get yourself together.....or find yourself a russian or filipino chick that wants to immigrate...... ;)

[_Ragnar_]

X2

[buildinthaskinnys]

Steak you said you didnt have anything going for you, but you do have a great asset and thats a interesting personality, I think there was alot of good advice given on this thread, I guess the only thing I could add is don't put all your eggs in one basket, play the field, ask other chicks out to eat donairs, just because one girl snubbed you once! for crying out loud you didnt ask her to give oral!! theres plenty of nice girls out there that are looking for friends, its not that you arent ready to date screw that it just that you are getting bummed out by lame people! Dont let them get you down!