need some advice....

[MIAGIONJUS]

so me and my gf had been dating for close to 6 years and her and i had been through soo many things together... we started dating in highschool and pretty much dated all through university doing long distance of about an hour, until she graduated this past apri. By this point we had decided to move in together and had even been looking up places and everything, we'd been planin on traveling and stuff too. Begining of may rolls around and she goes away with her mom and sister out west to visit some family for a week or so. she comes back and informs me that she wants to move out there and look for work in september instead of moving in together like we had planned. At first i was like wtf and we were very very close to breaking up, i was obviously pissed but eventually i came around and suported her.. got a place with some buddies and everything was golden the rest of the summer. We went away together, partied and had a blast. I thought for sure we would be fine despite the huge obstacle distance would be throwing at us. We then planned on me moving out there in april and traveling and then getting a place in calgary. Sept rolls around... i help her pack, we have our last days together, everything is still golden at this point. I even take her to airport and shes all crying and stuff telling me how much she loves me and that she will miss me so much. So three weeks go by and we're on the phone talking and she being weird and shit.... like depresed or somthing... so i ask her wats wrong a few times and finally she spills the beans... "i wanna break up.. i wanna be on my own.. its not u its me....ur a great BF but i need to be on my own.. etc" so im like wtf why wouldnt u do it three months ago. So we said our goodbyes and that was it.Three weeks across the country from me and she throws it all away. needless to say i feel like shit and cant sleep, eat or study... hardest thing ive ever done. wat are your thoughts on this situation... what whent wrong.. i dont get it.. im pissed off and confused...

[Houstonbc]

**** man thats a rough one i feel for you bro....the only thing i can think of is buddy women are very strange like she said man its not you its her so really theres not alot you can do. You could keep trying to pursue it but in my past experiences that usually doesnt pan out that well it works better to sit back try to pretend you dont care that much and sometimes they will realize that they messed up big time and beg for you to take her back. Good luck bro i hope whatever you do works out for you keep us posted.

[Bowlcut]

That is rough.

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[pinhead]

Sorry for the heartache bro. It's not what you want to hear, but mostly this happens when another guy is involved. I'm a bit older than you and have seen a lot of stuff like this happen. The chance is higher than not that she's seeing someone else.

Best to let go on move on. When the pain and anger stop, then you can say you're over her.

[Ritch]

Sorry to hear that. At the very least try to get an explanation from her. I don`t think it`s o.k. to tell someone you`ve been with for 6 years "it`s not you, it`s me"... Perhaps one of the ladies here will chime in here and give some advice. Hopefully you can take good care of yourself in the meantime. Stay strong.

[BAM]

Sorry to hear about your troubles. .

[gsxr750]

Sorry bud.. hang in there.

[champcar99]

Sorry for the heartache bro. It's not what you want to hear, but mostly this happens when another guy is involved. I'm a bit older than you and have seen a lot of stuff like this happen. The chance is higher than not that she's seeing someone else.

Best to let go on move on. When the pain and anger stop, then you can say you're over her.

PIN is right ..After reading your post I have too agree with him...

"we're on the phone talking and she being weird and shit.... like depresed or somthing"

that sentence alone pretty much means "another guy" do yourself a favor and go **** her friends she left behind...kidding but WTF... **** them all...lol..lol..I would ..but thats me...

[spankmonkey]

PIN is right ..After reading your post I have too agree with him...

"we're on the phone talking and she being weird and shit.... like depresed or somthing"

that sentence alone pretty much means "another guy" do yourself a favor and go **** her friends she left behind...kidding but WTF... **** them all...lol..lol..I would ..but thats me...

Hate to play devils advocate and I feel for the breaking heart dude, but it does not have to be a guy and from the post there is no way to state it is a guy. That is your opinions and you are welcome to them.

Maigionjus, they are all right about one thing though, you need to move on with your life and get your priorities straight. The pain of breakup is the shits and you will move through it like a champ. IMO spending time theorizing about why will only drive you crazy and taking vendictive actions like ****ing her friends will not make the situation any better for you. Sucks but this part of livin.

Keep your head up

[Gettin'r'round]

This is will more to you later on. Be thankful she didn't pull this once you moved out there, got married, or worse had children. A broken heart is soon healed. Once children are involved that mistake is forever.