Settling down...
Does there come a point in life when you suddenly feel ready to settle down, like you no longer want/need to sleep with other girls? Or do you always wish you could sleep with other girls but you just force yourself not to because your in a relationship?
I have met many nice women who would make perfect long term gfs/wives but even though they are amazing I still cant seem to find it in myself to stop the need to be with other people. Have I just not met the right chick yet?
FK NO, it like an addiction and I need a intervention (when I'm dead)
nope
yes
maybe
hope that helps
"I'll wrap my dick around your neck and start you like a lawn mower"
It may be an insecurity in yourself that drives you to seek out new conquests. I still look but realize the fleeting pleasure is not worth hurting the one I love nor jepordizing my relationship with her.
Though some may not respect the source, the Bible, this wisdom is timeless.....
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. But when I became a man, I set aside childish ways.
Those who would give up essential liberty to purchase a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.
Benjamin Franklin
I cant speak for you but I never put much thought into settling down until I met my ex. We were together for 2 years but after the first month I knew she was it.
For the first time I could see myself having kids even, just because I could tell she would be the best mom in the world. She made me feel like I could do anything, and it motivated me to step up and really get my career going. Well I have a bit of tunnel vision, and I really put "us" aside to get the career going and thats one of the major reasons she broke up with me.
But the good news is I now know that I'm capable of that type of feeling and commitement, and for once I honestly know what Im looking for, I mean the bar has been set.
And sure I've thought about screwing other girls while me and her were together, but after the short fantasy plays out in my head I realize theres no way they could make me feel the way she made me feel. I wouldn't risk it for the world.
So maybe I'm wondering, maybe you did meet girls that would make great long term gfs based on personlity, loyalty and even physical attraction.
But maybe they just don't make you feel like you don't need anyone else, and i'm just speaking from myself, but I did experience that feeling and it really changes you.
I'm at that age where all my friends are getting married or engaged, and I'll take until the end of time and risk being singlet o find someone that makes me feel that way again.
Why? Because if I'm single only I suffer, and its worth suffering to find that kind of love again. But if I settle with a "good" enough, I could quite possible make the other person suffer too, and thats just not right.
might not happen overnight, but yes, there comes a time when you would rather be with 1 awesome person. Could be when your 20, 25, or 40 or never. differs for everyone.Originally Posted by BBbox
I feel you totally on this. I was always a dog, more so worse when on.
Four years later, after meeting a great lady, and still, even when the opportunity was there.... nope.
Maybe for some, but I believe if you do find "the right one" (corny maybe) that feeling will be within control. I still "dream" but never in a million years, even when presented, would act.
Your brain has millions of thoughts a day, you can't control that. It's going to happen in your mind.. and that's natural.
As a non-believer before. Yes, it's possible.
Monogamy is not the only way and not everybody is wired to be monogamous.
Find a woman this wired for non monogamy and you both will have sex and love without having to cheat.
If you change let her know and see what happens.
Found a great girl during the summer. I havent done anything with any other girl since getting with her, and I have no intentions of doing so. We have just moved in with each other also. I never thought that I would get like this, but stuff happens.
^^ woah huge change for you isnt it- I remember a thread you made about being "biologically destined to be alone- always on the booty train". Congrats of finding that girl!
I thought you and #8 would end up as the charlie sheens of the board, just sleeping around forever. I always felt better about my behaviour knowing one of you was out there cheating on their gfs with a stripper. At least I can still depend on #8. Although his lack of diabolical relationship screwup posts has me wondering lately. *sigh*
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