School Bullying

[macka]

So we are getting ready to embark on a new school year. The kids are already at each other. The other day my son is playing with a few of his cohorts when they just outta the blue start namecalling another kid. I go over and give my son shit. The other kids start beaking at me. Another parent comes over and we get into it. She starts giving me shit for giving my son shit. I flat out told her to **** off and mind her own ****ing business. I don't parent her kids and she should not tell me how to raise mine. She called the police. So I spend 20 mins talking to the police, who pretty much were going to arrest me for telling off a stupid bitch. Once they got to the bottom of the shituation, they looked at her and asked if she had a problem with me stopping the name calling by my son.
She then proceeds to say that we should just let the kids play and be kids. The cop who has 2 kids of his own looks at her and walks away. Since the cops would do nothing, she calls her fat ass hubby to come over and "sort me out". The cops hadn't left and chubs comes up and shoves me. I decked him, he was a one shot wonder. So now I have a court date, ****.

[JonnyO]

LMAO, dude I dread the day this happens to me, and you can bank on it that it will. I will not tolerate bullying. If I ever see my kid or another bullying my boy I dont know what I'd do. I replay the scenario in my head all the time.

Like what do you do if your kids being bullied? Talk to the parents? What if they dont believe you? Then what? I think if it happens just walking him to school so the other kids see me, and that Im a big dude will be enough to prevent them from messing with him, lol. I know if worked for me when I was young and people knew my old man, lol. I sent him and my older brother, who were both bodybuilders, to bullies houses and after that talk they were pretty nice to me, hahaha.

I hope all goes well in court....he came at you first and you were protecting yourself right, so...

[Big D]

ahh shit did the kids see you hit him ? not a good example for them lol.

but anyways i think bullying is horrible,
i use to tease alot of kids when i was younger, including my lil sister.
looking back at it now I really regret it.
no one deserves to be bullied.

[macka]

cops were just back, they had a chat with buddy and he's seen the light and dropping the charges as my counter charge was against both him and his wife. Talk about small town drama. The female cop was the one who said their report shows him coming at me and I only hit him once, I didn't do anything else after that. The best part is there is a mutual peace bond. I guess I'll hear all about it from the town gossips. I have no marks on me at all, he on the other hand has a nice bruise on his jaw by his ear.

[Andre Gregoire]

I'm with JonnyO, my son is 2.5 now so I guess I will have to deal with that shit in a few years. He's a small kid also so I really hope he doesn't get picked on.

[Big D]

cops were just back, they had a chat with buddy and he's seen the light and dropping the charges as my counter charge was against both him and his wife. Talk about small town drama. The female cop was the one who said their report shows him coming at me and I only hit him once, I didn't do anything else after that. The best part is there is a mutual peace bond. I guess I'll hear all about it from the town gossips. I have no marks on me at all, he on the other hand has a nice bruise on his jaw by his ear.

good to hear everything worked out in your favor macka.

[GYMBRAT]

thats funny shit macka....good for you tho bro!!!!

I also agree wit jonnyO as well, and my pops was a big boy as well.


.....my oldest boy is 18 in Nov....but I taught him the same way I was taught, if someone hits ya (and your not able to jst walk away because of certain circumstances), hit'em back but HARDER

GB

[ubcpower]

LMAO, dude I dread the day this happens to me, and you can bank on it that it will. I will not tolerate bullying. If I ever see my kid or another bullying my boy I dont know what I'd do. I replay the scenario in my head all the time.

Like what do you do if your kids being bullied? Talk to the parents? What if they dont believe you? Then what? I think if it happens just walking him to school so the other kids see me, and that Im a big dude will be enough to prevent them from messing with him, lol. I know if worked for me when I was young and people knew my old man, lol. I sent him and my older brother, who were both bodybuilders, to bullies houses and after that talk they were pretty nice to me, hahaha.

I hope all goes well in court....he came at you first and you were protecting yourself right, so...

Jonny0, as a school teacher , I have a unique chance to see the type of kids who are routinely bullied. Every parent wants their child to be popular and this does not necessarily mean having to succumb to the stigma of wearing the right clothes and having the latest accessories. Their confidence and peer acceptance is developed early in elementary and the best thing I can recommend is have your child play sports. even if they are not the next prodigy in whatever sport it may be have them play all the school sports in gr 6 and gr 7.... basketball, volleyball, track...etc Inevitably this will slot them in to a 'popular' group and give them a social network that is healthy and competitive.
Now as far as day to day teasing you must teach your child to be able to take a joke. You can not expect them to walk around all emotionally armored up and as soon as someone makes a joke about them they start swinging or flip out. Teach them to be good sports , teach them self humility ...any parent can do this by poking fun at yourself and demonstrating its ok to have fun with certain personal flaws or quirks. Everyone is human.
My 2cents as an elementary teacher

[GYMBRAT]

good post ubc.......A team sport is a very good idea for kids to start in at an early age....I agree 110%

GB

[vakker]

What did you expect from this? beaking off, back and forth doesn't stop bullying, it encourages the power struggle that the bully wants. You getting involved just encouraged it. You actually became the role model bully as you beaked off to the kids (you are big and wanted to exert your power over them) and then you beaked the mom (exerting power over her) and eventually hit the hubby (exerting power over him). You are a bully.

I'd honestly bet that your son was the aggressor, based solely on your actions in this story. They learn it from their parents.

So we are getting ready to embark on a new school year. The kids are already at each other. The other day my son is playing with a few of his cohorts when they just outta the blue start namecalling another kid. I go over and give my son shit. The other kids start beaking at me. Another parent comes over and we get into it. She starts giving me shit for giving my son shit. I flat out told her to **** off and mind her own ****ing business. I don't parent her kids and she should not tell me how to raise mine. She called the police. So I spend 20 mins talking to the police, who pretty much were going to arrest me for telling off a stupid bitch. Once they got to the bottom of the shituation, they looked at her and asked if she had a problem with me stopping the name calling by my son.
She then proceeds to say that we should just let the kids play and be kids. The cop who has 2 kids of his own looks at her and walks away. Since the cops would do nothing, she calls her fat ass hubby to come over and "sort me out". The cops hadn't left and chubs comes up and shoves me. I decked him, he was a one shot wonder. So now I have a court date, ****.