I need to talk

[Big D]

I always have trouble expressing myself, so i'll give it a try.

I've been with my gf for 6 years now,
the past 2 years it just seems like we've grown apart.
we never get along anymore we argue enough. and I feel like all my love is gone.
I just dont feel happy anymore.

now I got a new job, i'm out of town, and tonight I couldn't hold it in anymore so when i called her i had to tell her how i felt. we petty much broke up, she dosent want to but I just dont see how we can fix things? we've tried to fix things, it works for a few weeks then everything goes back to arguing again.

I just dont know what to do.

now I just feel like shit, cant even hold my food in

[MMASTAR]

sometimes people stay togther because there comfortable, not because they are in love, if the feelings have faded it may be time to say goodbye, it might hurt for a while but chance are you will both move on and be happier in the long run, if your not in love its better to end it now rather than carry on just because or before someone gets accidently prego, sometimes were just better to cut our ties and look for the next one. it hurts but no point staying together just because its easy.

[Delt King]

If you're not married cut it off now.

[gojimmygo]

Try not to be hard on yourself bro, it would be worse for her if you stayed with her and didn't like her. good luck

[Victor85]

All i can say is "stress kills!" and the longer you go along with issues that affect you in a negative manner(relationship/s) the shorter you will live. Do your self a favour and do what you want to do and what makes you happy. (My 2 cents) Good luck.

[#8]

dude. you and me need to hit the STRIP CLUB. lets GOOOOOOOO!! it will be a blast

[natenator]

go get couples counciling. There's an underlying reason for this. 6 years is a long time to just throw something away. Working on things takes effort. You have to remember each day to work on your issues otherwise you do go back to regular patterns.

If after counciling it doesn't work then its time to part ways.

[ironwill]

Great advice Nate!!!!, i agree also.....

[natenator]

FYI: The reason I can say what I said is because I experienced it. My ex and I went to therapy together for a number of months and what it came down to was I was the underlying issue in preventing our relationship from going forward.

I had stuff I needed to work through (which I've indicated in a previous thread) and to do that was going to take time and she deserved more than what I could give her at that time and for however long it took me to work on me and still in the end it was not set in stone I would be ready to move forward with her.

One thing I know it relationships take work and effort and there WILL be rocky times. It's how you deal with those rocky times that determine your future with that person.

Another idea is maybe a trip away together?

[MMASTAR]

go get couples counciling. There's an underlying reason for this. 6 years is a long time to just throw something away. Working on things takes effort. You have to remember each day to work on your issues otherwise you do go back to regular patterns.

If after counciling it doesn't work then its time to part ways.

If a relationship is going to be that much work is it really worth it?? he says he hasnt been feeling it for 2 years, so lets be real and call this a 4 year relationship with 2 years of being there because its comfortable, love should be easy, personalitys should work together, i dont think any couple should have to work overly hard to be in love, its just not worth it IMHO. Love should come naturally