I'd like some advice.

[Rhinobolt10]

you sound like a good guy with good goals, great head on his shoulders and even willing to give numerous second chances. Thing is a girl cheats and gets away with it she thinks she can do it again, girl robs your ass and its ok, she thinks she can do it again....... girl lies to you, goes and does shit behind your back, she thinks she can do it again.

This girl is not giving you the respect you deserve bro. Its plain and simple to see, she is using immature tactics like ****ing co-workers to get back at you. That is retarded!!!!!!

Do your self a huge favor, get the money back and let her go. Because when that happens she will be 22 and its clear you want a 21 year old lol......

Best of Luck bro!

I for sure hear you on being worried it's going to come up again, and I'm being damn sure she's learning her lesson. IE, seeing a therapist to figure out why she's lying, as well as paying me back every dime and running a large business for the next 7 months for basically 0 profit. I think if she pulls that off... I can ease off a bit... I hoe.

I'm getting the money back for sure, no matter what, and I'm running this business again to make sure that happens.

Thanks again for reading through everything and taking the time to reply.

[Rhinobolt10]

How much do you need her in a business sense?

Right this minute, a lot. Come September, not so much, or at all.

Thanks again for reading through everything.

[Rhinobolt10]

she's gotta go, if u take here back she will do it again, maybe not right away but eventually she will cause its in her nature...ur telling a pitbull not to fight...ur telling a dog not to chase the cat...ur telling an asian not to eat rice...u get the point U CANT TURN A HO IN A HOUSEWIFE

Well, this is the first time she's ever ****ed around on a guy... guess I'm the lucky one, and I don't think she's lying about it... which is one of the big reasons I was so floored. I never, ever thought she would do something like that.

Of course,.. I'm not above getting some revenge myself to even things out.. but honestly, I'm a little worried she'd find out, and what she'd do after that...

Thanks again for reading through everything.

[Rhinobolt10]

The two of you have been through alot and your both young ( not sure how old you are ) . Now your both seeking help . Trust me people can change in time . In fact we all change in time and by seeking help hopefully it will be for the better.

Like you said you want to be there for her now more than ever and that is what makes a relationship. It's easy to be there for someone when the times are good , this will make you two stronger in time.

I or anyone else can't say that she will change , but atleast she is trying and that is what's important right now.

Not really sure what to say .... Goodluck.

Thanks for all the kind words bud, I think we're in line with hoping for the best hear... I'm still planning for the worst just in case.

Thanks again.

[Rhinobolt10]

She is obviously an immature child. If she is actually willing to change she needs to make restitution for what she has done. I think her selling the car and giving you the proceeds would be a good first step. People need to stop making excuses for her and being lenient. She will never grow up until people stop treating her as a child. She needs to start owning her responsibilities.

I completely agree she's acted very very childishly... but, I mean, she is a girl... it's what we put up with lol.

Our big focus for the next 7 months is her making this up to me financially and emotionally... so owning up to everything... if she does it great... if not, I'll make sure I get the money, then bail out for good.

Thanks again for taking the time to read through everything.

[Rhinobolt10]

I say quit leting this ****ing bitch walk all over you bro. Sorry to hear of your situation right now, but IMHO any man that has his funds under a womans name is just ASKING for trouble.

You sound like a really nice guy so maybe you need to cut this chick out of your life FOR GOOD and pick yourself up again and try to rebuild everything. Like if you don't cut ALL ties to her ASAP she's just going to **** you over again for sure and if you let it happens it's not going to be anyone elses fault.

Start a new buisness or get a different job, save up your cash again and go break some ****ing powerlifting records bro, like SMASH EM UP...lol

This chick is poison bro so worry about you and YOUR future, not her.

Best wishes big guy

Lol... I agree, I was retarded for trusting her to not be a girl. From here on out, I'll be checking every bank statement every month.

Thanks again, for the immediate future, we need each other, and I want to be around to make sure I get my money back, then all the profit for this year as well.

After that, time for the big decisions of if this can work, or if it's time to rebuild.

Thank you.

[Rhinobolt10]

If you think shes worth it give her a chance. However, get all your bank accounts and shit in your name. Do not give her access to your money. She ****ed up once with it which is more than enough **** up's when it comes to money. Would you invest your money twice in with an investment broker who lost all your money once?

I agree with you man, all the way. Right now swicthing everything around bank account wise would just be a nightmare, with suppliers and gov't and everything else.

My plans are to just monitor everything very tightly, which I am completely able to do, and just ensure nothing happens again.

Thanks for taking the time to read through everything.

[Rhinobolt10]

As for the money aspect, if you get paid back, and you stick around keep your accounts seperate. She obviously does not have the responsibility to manage hers. 2 years of not paying GST. They send MANY letters and phone calls about that. Trust me I run a business as well and had my accounts seized years ago for no payment (I wasn't making enough money to pay them).

As for her as a person. You might be more understanding than me, but I might be selfish or possessive, but if my wife ever cheated on me, or worse yet, planned a sexual escapade with coworker, she would be out of my life for good. I have always trusted women until they give me a reason not to. Once that happens I could never trust them again.

Sorry to hear you are getting stringed around so much, women can really mess with us. Gonna need years of therapy by the sounds of it to trust one fully again.

Not sure how old you are, but she sounds very immature, even for a 21 year old. I always found the young ones nices to look at, but as soon as they open their mouth it kills it for me.

She's saying she never once got a call about the gst thing... our company is a franchise, so I've heard lots of stories about similar things... our problem was she thought it was done, just her accountants are kinda dumb, and what she was paying through income tax she thought included her gst as well cause it was so much.

Long story short, we're sorting that out, and taking the last few years income tax to a different accountant to get some money back.

As soon as I can I will seperate accounts, right now we have some weeks where 30k can go in and out of the account and we need all the money we can keep in there just to keep our cash flow going smooth for a month or two until we get out of the hot spot.

I hope that doesn't sound like a cop out, but at this point I really feel a seperate account will hurt my business very much, and I owe it to employees and clients to make sure this doesn't happen.

Thanks again for reading through everything, I really appreciated hearing your feedback.

[Durk]

She is obviously an immature child. If she is actually willing to change she needs to make restitution for what she has done. I think her selling the car and giving you the proceeds would be a good first step. People need to stop making excuses for her and being lenient. She will never grow up until people stop treating her as a child. She needs to start owning her responsibilities.

^^^this

I would make like the steve miller band......take the money and run.

[physique]

As for the money aspect, if you get paid back, and you stick around keep your accounts seperate. She obviously does not have the responsibility to manage hers. 2 years of not paying GST. They send MANY letters and phone calls about that. Trust me I run a business as well and had my accounts seized years ago for no payment (I wasn't making enough money to pay them).

As for her as a person. You might be more understanding than me, but I might be selfish or possessive, but if my wife ever cheated on me, or worse yet, planned a sexual escapade with coworker, she would be out of my life for good. I have always trusted women until they give me a reason not to. Once that happens I could never trust them again.

Sorry to hear you are getting stringed around so much, women can really mess with us. Gonna need years of therapy by the sounds of it to trust one fully again.

Not sure how old you are, but she sounds very immature, even for a 21 year old. I always found the young ones nices to look at, but as soon as they open their mouth it kills it for me.

how do u not make enough money to pay them???? u collect gst on everything u sell. smart people set aside their gst in a separate account so its always there when its time to pay it.

but thats another story. as for rhino

i would cut your losses after she pays u back. but for right now severe her from the business and the business bank account. and keep all communication to a minimum. she isnt good for you. using her age as excuse isnt good man. if at 21 she has no morals, then she will never learn them. u can look at every excuse in the books and u know what to do deep down. its hard yes, but u sound like a smart man, cut your losses and move on.

who knows maybe u will cross paths again down the road and maybe she will change, but for now, i would get out