Common law - Can anyone recommend next course of action?

[scubadiver]

So I have a similar experience to the OP of the thread on "would you consider this cheating".

http://www.canadabodybuilding.com/fo...ad.php?t=13755

Bummer because we've been living together and engaged for 2 years, been together for 6.

We talked and she said she's not sure what she wants and we've had problems for the last year and a half - lack of communication, lack of intimacy. I guess she feels she's selling herself short by settling for me (although all her friends tell me they're telling her she's making a huge mistake). Anyway she's given me the engagement ring back and said we have to figure out where we go from here.

The question was do i stay or do i go...I'll never know if she screwed the 3 black guys she was talking to. She says it was just curiosity because she's never been with a black dude, but she would never cheat. it was just online for shits and giggles and boredom. 2 of her ex-girlfriends who i stayed in contact with said she told them she screwed them and she said she had no guilt about it because I trusted her completely. Could they be telling the truth or being bitchy? I'll never know.

So I've decided to move on. Since we're common law and own a house together, for which I've made all the mortgage payments, do I need a lawyer or can I save some money and just split our assets 50/50? Then again I'm told common law there are no rights to 50% split as what you buy is yours, so I'm thinking legal advice would be good to get but try to avoid going to court.

My biggest fear is although she works full time and makes 30,000 bucks a year, I make twice as much as she does and she could ask for alimony as I paid the mortgage and her car insurance because I wanted to be supportive and have her pay for her night school and credit card debt. I don't know how to protect myself from this one.

Any advice? Perhaps someone can recommend a good legal person in the Mississauga area I can go to for advice? PM if you don't want to put a reference here.

Thanks.

[RagingRandy]

Common Law = Married
Get a good lawyer and get some advice.

If you have doubts of whether she will\has remained faithful, it is best to move on.

[guest]

Common Law = Married
Get a good lawyer and get some advice.

If you have doubts of whether she will\has remained faithful, it is best to move on.

ditto,

the black guy thing is disturbing.

[CanadianIron]

Put her in a 50 gallon drum and bury her.... kidding... but she definately cheated on you, no question about that.

Lawyer time...

[Durk]

That is super rare for a friend to rat her out. I would believe the friend 100%. Saying things like shes "just curious" pretty much means I am cheating, but I still want your money if we break up. Maybe even hire a PI to get evidence to save you from a financial Trouble.

get rid of her before she gives birth to your first son Jamal.

[PdH]

The fact that she may have cheated is irrelevant to the division of property. I'm a lawyer and I'd advise you to get a lawyer that specializes in family law forthwith. It's going to be messy and costly. I don't think alimony is going to be a major factor for you, though she may try. The courts have ruled in favour of self-sufficiency for many years now.

[gicantor]

If a slut cheats you should not have to pay a dime. End of story.

[natenator]

If a slut cheats you should not have to pay a dime. End of story.

And if a guy cheats?

[gicantor]

And if a guy cheats?

Then she is entitled to half cause he's a douchebag and should have kept a lock on his cock

[natenator]

Then she is entitled to half cause he's a douchebag and should have kept a lock on his cock

Hmm. If she cheats, she gets nothing but if he cheats he gets to keep half.

I see how your logic makes sense...