kids

[vakker]

My wife kinda jumped me with the big "we should have kids this year" idea. I am all for it but really, I am not all for it. The more I think about it, the more I don't know how much I really want to spend 20 years raising children and further, not sure if I am ready. We just bought a house, we have been married 2 years but I am also only 2 years into my career and starting my masters, I don't know how to budget my time into all of those things. I suppose it doesn't help that I've just come off cycle and sex isnt exactly the first thing on my mind, let alone sex with a purpose.

I am not sure what signs would say "hey you are ready now" though. Always one more thing to buy or fix or become.

anyone been faced with this or are all the kiddos around here "accidents"?

[Big D]

get a vasectomy, and dont tell her ?

I probably will never have kids, but i've never met anyone that says they regret having kids. they always say its the best thing that happen to them.

[MMASTAR]

kids are great, end of story, you will love it.

[#8]

no kids for me ever. im way too selfish.

kids are fun. for about 15 minutes. then you give them back and move on.

[Talo]

My two were unplanned and trust me we were not ready to have them . Just married , no house , just out of College and working in an unstable steal mill ( back in Ontario ) , but it all worked out . Almost 9 years later and we both have decent jobs ( she has a home biz ) and lots of debt , lol and that's not because of the kids.

If we would have planned for it , we def would have waited until we had some money in the bank and a house to bring them home too , but then again the more comfortable you get in your lifestyle the harder it will / would become to change it.

All in all it's something that the TWO of you have to sit down and def talk about .

BTW - they are great to have around , it's neat to see them grow up and develop their own personalities.

[#8]

"BTW - they are great to have around , it's neat to see them grow up and develop their own personalities."

^^ dogs and cats do that too.

[Talo]

LOL , yeah but hopefully you will out live your dog / cat and not your kids.

[tiramisu]

If you wait till the right time to have children you definitely won't have them.

[warlock]

I am so happy that I am not a parent.

You should talk trough how you 2 want to raise those children, education, principles that are important to you, how to discipline, what will be given what they have to get on their own, what you will do when you have a 2 year old trying to manipulate you, children may be terrific or terrible and I have seen relationships pretty much going to hell because a parent was a total giver and couldn't put a child in his place leaving the whole load to the other parent.

[gicantor]

Most guys I talk to at work say they love their kids (obviously) but if they had to do it again they would be selffish and not have them.