Would you consider this cheating?

[rob66679]

I have been with my current gf for 2 years. We've had some ups and downs, but for the past couple of months everything seems to be going great.

Last night, she was over at my place, and when she left, she forgot to log out of her email. And yeah I snooped. Probably shouldn't have, but I did it.

Back in October she sent some random guys on craigslist from the "men seeking women" section her photo and a hey i'm so and so. There were no more sent messages other than 2 or 3 to one guy, and the last one was "Sorry but i think you wanted something that i didn't."

This sort of bugs me, but I know we were a bit rocky, but I was working on relationship, and here she was looking for other options.

What would you do? Should I tell her what I did and what I found and how it upsets me? Or just drop it?

IMHO.... You already know how this is gonna end.
Theres a big difference between surfing a site, and creating an account and corrosponding with potential hookups.
IF....IF.... She had met someone she liked things might have worked out differently, and for all you know maybe they did and she covered her tracks.

IMHO she already cheated, and will again. Its either in someones character or its not.
So if shes just a sperm receptacle, maybe thats OK.
If its serious, be carefull bro.

[countrychic]

Meh just wait and see......plus if she leaves it open then she is just asking for you to look anyways.

The way I look at it is....if you have a solid relationship and you trust each other then you should be able to ask and talk about it, if she isn't doing anything wrong then she shouldn't get offensive. If a person has nothing to hide then it shouldn't matter if the email is left open or not, it's when the defensiveness comes that I would be questioning it.

[dremen]

I have been with my current gf for 2 years. We've had some ups and downs, but for the past couple of months everything seems to be going great.

Last night, she was over at my place, and when she left, she forgot to log out of her email. And yeah I snooped. Probably shouldn't have, but I did it.

Back in October she sent some random guys on craigslist from the "men seeking women" section her photo and a hey i'm so and so. There were no more sent messages other than 2 or 3 to one guy, and the last one was "Sorry but i think you wanted something that i didn't."

This sort of bugs me, but I know we were a bit rocky, but I was working on relationship, and here she was looking for other options.

What would you do? Should I tell her what I did and what I found and how it upsets me? Or just drop it?

Ditch the bitch man, ****ing **** was on YOUR computer looking at OTHER guys while you were STILL together.

Kick that bitch's ass to the curb my friend cause it sounds like she's just going to hurt you in the end.

Then again does she swallow? If so maybe keep her around a tad longer

[_Z_]

it's not cheating........yet

would be hard to trust after that.

[Durk]

You think he knows everything shes done? While shes not on CL she is probably hooking up with guys she meets at the bus station, or methadone clinic on her way to work lol

[CanadianIron]

it's not cheating........yet

would be hard to trust after that.

If you went to a terrorist website and dropped a line offering your services in north america to blow some shit up, but you havent done it yet... you can still go to jail for conspiracy....

This is conspiracy to cheat... she's a loser. If you went to a club and fished for a one night stand, she would flip out, even if you failed at nailing anyone.

[Memo]

if i cheated on my gf but now i feel guilty and want to stay with her, should i kill myself, cheat again or break up?

[rob66679]

If you went to a terrorist website and dropped a line offering your services in north america to blow some shit up, but you havent done it yet... you can still go to jail for conspiracy....

This is conspiracy to cheat... she's a loser. If you went to a club and fished for a one night stand, she would flip out, even if you failed at nailing anyone.

^^^^^^^ Great post.
Agreed 100%, reps for you.

[_Z_]

If you went to a terrorist website and dropped a line offering your services in north america to blow some shit up, but you havent done it yet... you can still go to jail for conspiracy....

This is conspiracy to cheat... she's a loser. If you went to a club and fished for a one night stand, she would flip out, even if you failed at nailing anyone.

sure it's conspiracy to cheat, I'd dump her in a heart beat as i wouldn't be able to trust her after that and I'm a little paranoid and possessive to begin with
but conspiracy and actually committing the act are different types of events
if the OP had seen pics of some guy balls deep in his GF he wouldn't be posting here wondering if he should be upset or not lol.

[CanadianIron]

Obviously it would have been worse if she actually cheated, but she took a few steps towards that and IMO she isnt a very respectable woman. I dunno, im a pretty possesive dude, its all or nothing with me, I expect the same commitment from my girl that she can expect from me.