Would you consider this cheating?

[rico]

I have been with my current gf for 2 years. We've had some ups and downs, but for the past couple of months everything seems to be going great.

Last night, she was over at my place, and when she left, she forgot to log out of her email. And yeah I snooped. Probably shouldn't have, but I did it.

Back in October she sent some random guys on craigslist from the "men seeking women" section her photo and a hey i'm so and so. There were no more sent messages other than 2 or 3 to one guy, and the last one was "Sorry but i think you wanted something that i didn't."

This sort of bugs me, but I know we were a bit rocky, but I was working on relationship, and here she was looking for other options.

What would you do? Should I tell her what I did and what I found and how it upsets me? Or just drop it?

[BAM]

Tough call.

[MMASTAR]

if you tell her you snooped it is over, maybe not right away but eventually it will be, so if you decide its over be the one to say goodbye, but no mention of the message, and if you feel like you want to stay together you will have to put this behind you and truly forget about it.. but than again did you see my last thread? i should not be giving relationship advice...

[LIVEHARD]

I have been with my current gf for 2 years. We've had some ups and downs, but for the past couple of months everything seems to be going great.

Last night, she was over at my place, and when she left, she forgot to log out of her email. And yeah I snooped. Probably shouldn't have, but I did it.

Back in October she sent some random guys on craigslist from the "men seeking women" section her photo and a hey i'm so and so. There were no more sent messages other than 2 or 3 to one guy, and the last one was "Sorry but i think you wanted something that i didn't."

This sort of bugs me, but I know we were a bit rocky, but I was working on relationship, and here she was looking for other options.

What would you do? Should I tell her what I did and what I found and how it upsets me? Or just drop it?

Thats a tough call !! My new lady had a few open doors when we met I said my peace and she closed them. Do you trust her ?? If I was in yous shoes I would ask her how she feels !

[L3]

things were rough with you guys, sounds like she was just shopping around and lucky for you didn't find a better deal...i would just forget about it its smooth sailing now

on the other hand.... CRAIGSLIST?? REALLY?????
heres the hierarchy of where to meet women/men, starting at the top:
1 - through friends
2 - store/coffeshop/bookstore
3 - at the bar
4 - dating websites
5 - funerals
6 - crackhouse parties
7 - rehab
8 - escort service
9 - craigslist

[rico]

as far as the snooping part, i know she would have done the same thing, and i think most people would. She's left it open more than once, but i never checked in the past, always gave her that privacy.

Weird thing for me, Is i don't know if i can ever trust ANYONE 100%. I never have in the past. I was once told it was a "low confidence" thing, but I disagree. I think just more of a realist.

So I am having a hard time with this if its ME, or HER that is the real problem.

Even myself, I surf plenty of fish once in a while, or chat up a cutie at a coffee shop, so am I any better?

[rico]

And I guess could ad, it was only one day she did this. Maybe she had a couple glasses of wine and was just playing around on the internet out of boredom?

[countrychic]

I don't know....tuff call, I would have to say somthing it would eat me up, it's a dating site..... and the same for you if your happy with your woman why are you even on flenty of fish?

Having a glass of wine and playing on the computer wouldn't push me to craigslist or a dating site for that matter.

Rocky times or not.......

[ironwill]

I don't know....tuff call, I would have to say somthing it would eat me up, it's a dating site..... and the same for you if your happy with your woman why are you even on flenty of fish?

Having a glass of wine and playing on the computer wouldn't push me to craigslist or a dating site for that matter.

Rocky times or not.......

no but you would be surfin porn with your wine glass in hand....lol

[vakker]

Having a glass of wine and playing on the computer wouldn't push me to craigslist or a dating site for that matter.

Rocky times or not.......

bang on!