Ever wonder if you are biologically destined to be alone?

[Durk]

I once was a fairly monogomous type of guy. I had a four year relationship and such, but as I get older I am finding it harder, and harder to stay in a relationship. Not to say that I would cheat, but I tend to lose interest and move on very fast.

Although I never really knew my father at all, I get told all the time that I act just like him, and look more like him every day. I was told that he was a massive manwhore, and year by year I just keep getting worse.

After last months fiasco I really tried to clean up my act, and I did give that one girl an honest shot, but it really wasnt meant to be. I have decided to actually focus on getting something stable and meaningful instead of whoring it up, but I feel that I lack something in that department.

Genetically some people lack the same pair bonding chemicals as a normal person, and I am starting to think that I am one of them. Am I destined to be 50 and single just like my dad?

I dont see it as a completely bad thing right now, but eventually the booty train is going to slow down lol

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This is like Jerseys "never wanna get married" thread... maybe the two of you could become grumpy old men together???

On a more serious note, it may just be something you will grow out of
Work on making yourself happy before being with someone else

[#8]

dude.....

i know EXACTLY what you are talking about. holy shit. thats some serious parallel lives going on there dude. i hear you, and i know your pain.

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^^ what happened with that

I think if you "lose interest or want to move on" thats exactly what you should do

[#8]

my girl and i are trying to work things out. she really is amazing and i need to smarten up to keep her. i just know exactly what Durk is talking about. its ****ed up....

[Durk]

We are around the same weight and athletic build. You also Italian by chance? lol I kid, but if you ever feel like moving on pm me what uni you at and if its close I will stop by and we can tear that school appart.

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scientifically, the inital "infatuation/falling in love" chemicals in your brain start to wind down after youve been with someone between 2-3 years... after that its more of a "bonding" chemical

second chemical is more calming so some dudes find it gets boring after it hits. could be whats happening with you guys

But why would either of you stay with a girl if youre losing interest, or just wanna be on the "booty train"? Just cut your loses. Still young right... eventually you will find someone who will keep your attention.

[Durk]

What I logically want, and what I dont know any other word for it (emotionally drives me perhaps) are two completely different things. Logically I want to settle down, but it seems I am using that to reason with a drive that does not want to be changed. Like I said I wasnt like this when I was younger, the last couple of years have been a steady build up it seems.

[dremen]

I once was a fairly monogomous type of guy. I had a four year relationship and such, but as I get older I am finding it harder, and harder to stay in a relationship. Not to say that I would cheat, but I tend to lose interest and move on very fast.

Although I never really knew my father at all, I get told all the time that I act just like him, and look more like him every day. I was told that he was a massive manwhore, and year by year I just keep getting worse.

After last months fiasco I really tried to clean up my act, and I did give that one girl an honest shot, but it really wasnt meant to be. I have decided to actually focus on getting something stable and meaningful instead of whoring it up, but I feel that I lack something in that department.

Genetically some people lack the same pair bonding chemicals as a normal person, and I am starting to think that I am one of them. Am I destined to be 50 and single just like my dad?

I dont see it as a completely bad thing right now, but eventually the booty train is going to slow down lol

What is the problem here man. You say you want a meaningful relationship then you say you tend to lose interest quickly?

Either stay single and keep playing the field or settle down with a sweet honey and shut up already......LOL

I don't mean to be rude bro im just very tired of guys blowing it with awesome woman then bitching about it, not to mention it makes it all that much harder for the next guy to get any booty....LOL

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dremens got it... if you want to settle down, do it... if not, just enjoy the single life for now!

Durk, dont **** over some nice chick just because youre messed about about what you want. If youre "driven" right now to play the field, thats what you should do. You will have plenty of time to settle down in the future.

And Jersey if youre feeling the same way, why bother being with the girl? Seems like you might hurt her in the end if your underlying feelings are that you dont want to be settling down. Its fairer to both of you if you let her go so she can find a guy who wants to be long-term and you can get out there and be the single guy till youre ready.

I had a similar situation with a gf, loved her but always had this underlying urge to be with other chicks. We ended up breaking up and it sucked but was for the best... let me figure my shit out and now I know 100% what I want.

The point is if youre messed up/undecided about what you want you shouldnt commit yourself to someone at all.