Not like before...

Hey guys, maybe some of you can offer me some input. Right now I currently live with my girlfriend, its the first time that I have lived with a girl that I have been dating, we both work full time and we have a dog together etc... anyways I noticed alot of changes between when we didn;'t live together and now. For instance, I had WAYYYYY MORE SEX .. now she often ''doesnt feel well'' , I have to put up with her bad moods in the morning when she doesnt have coffee.. no sex during that time of the month etc. Irritability, she isn't as romantic anymore . Does it always get so un-interesting when you move in together. This is new to me... ahhh lol


FiveOh

ha ha ha yup!

She thinks she has you hooked,maybe time to shuffle the deck.It would certainly get better with marriage.:)

LOL yeah once the ring goes on the finger youll have more sex than you can handle and she will never be moody.

**** guys, don't tell him that shit!

I;m all for ****ing a person around but THAT is serious bidness! lol

OH OH your hooped LOL

hahaaa get used to it.

I recommend an Anti-E, your estrogen is out of controll.

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Originally Posted by FiveOh

Hey guys, maybe some of you can offer me some input. Right now I currently live with my girlfriend, its the first time that I have lived with a girl that I have been dating, we both work full time and we have a dog together etc... anyways I noticed alot of changes between when we didn;'t live together and now. For instance, I had WAYYYYY MORE SEX .. now she often ''doesnt feel well'' , I have to put up with her bad moods in the morning when she doesnt have coffee.. no sex during that time of the month etc. Irritability, she isn't as romantic anymore . Does it always get so un-interesting when you move in together. This is new to me... ahhh lol


FiveOh

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How old are you guys?

It shouldn't be like this. But it is rarely one persons fault, take a good look at the way you act towards her. Try doing chores, even if its not "your turn", how often do you tell her you love her or take her out to dinner.

or you could offer her a kitty like in rags avi LOL

Hey you know how hard it is to find a free kitten these days.

I've had 3 long-term relationships in my life and in all three sex was no longer available to me in either the same quantity or quality after we lived together for a while. Once they think they've got their hooks in you, things change for the worse. That said, I think men probably start to take women for granted in other ways in the same situation.

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Originally Posted by PdH

I've had 3 long-term relationships in my life and in all three sex was no longer available to me in either the same quantity or quality after we lived together for a while. Once they think they've got their hooks in you, things change for the worse. That said, I think men probably start to take women for granted in other ways in the same situation.

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not me man. Finding a hot ass babe who can cook; clean and suck my dick like a hoover vacuum is NOT a girl I take for granted :D

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Originally Posted by PdH

I've had 3 long-term relationships in my life and in all three sex was no longer available to me in either the same quantity or quality after we lived together for a while. Once they think they've got their hooks in you, things change for the worse. That said, I think men probably start to take women for granted in other ways in the same situation.

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thats not true, my girlfriend wants it all the time, i'm often the one that says no.

you guys just have to be better looking :p (that was a joke)

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Originally Posted by natenator

not me man. Finding a hot ass babe who can cook; clean and suck my dick like a hoover vacuum is NOT a girl I take for granted :D

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Damn straight....I guess im lucky, Im not the most romantic devil, Im pretty lazy around the housework etc, and i still get more than i can handle at many times.....lol...Damn redhead.....4 yrs living together....;)
But i am sexxxy!!!!:tu

I have lived with three women and had a couple more somewhat longer ones...

1) Some are hornier than others.. the horny ones will want sex, no matter what. The "normal" women will want less sex than men in the long run.
At this point, I don\t even attempt a relationship with a girl who "likes" sex or does it to please you...

2) I find that there is often a "game" involved.. you show affection, they become bitches and vice verca. Most women have been the nicest when they felt that I didn't love them as much. Its stupid, but a lot of women (and probably ) men work that way.
Perhaps your just being a pussy, let her take control..

3) maybe you guys moved together too fast.. done that. It can reallly take momentum out of a relationship.. suddently she or he realizes this was too early.

4) She is banging the pool boy and you simply don't do it for her?:

use it as learning experience... not everyone is meant to be together.

I am recently a single man..
But when the ex and I were living together.. and she wasn't affectionate towards me.. More than likely I did something to piss her off. Just wait it out a couple of days. Take her out for dinner.. Go to the mall and buy her a pair of jeans.. or a t-shirt.. That should lift her spirits somewhat..

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I am recently a single man..
But when the ex and I were living together.. and she wasn't affectionate towards me.. More than likely I did something to piss her off. Just wait it out a couple of days. Take her out for dinner.. Go to the mall and buy her a pair of jeans.. or a t-shirt.. That should lift her spirits somewhat..

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by doing this u are paying for sex.
if this is the route u choose, then find a hot hooker. at leats then they will go away when u are done with them.

no man shopuld have to buy his gf or wife something to get sex. just hot up POF u will find lots of horny women who want something discreet

You mentioned your girlfriend works full time. Maybe at work they put a lot of pressure on her and shes stressed out.. Or maybe she is drained by the time she gets home to you. And on her days off, maybe she just wants to sleep to get caught up?

There might even be a possibility that the dog is stressing her out. How old is the dog? You both work full time and have a new addition to the family. I've bred dogs and dogs pooping and shitting all over the floor.. It's like having a kid...

Physique, yes, you are right about buying dinner. Taking her shopping. All that leading up to paying for sex... I was thinking maybe it could be a nice gesture or a special night they could plan for. Get all dressed up and go some place nice and get some 1 to 1 interaction.. But again, you are right.

Another idea....Maybe you guys could plan a goal together. Both pitch in a few bucks every month (that way you're not paying for sex lol) Go to the mall together and get some travelling ideas. Set up a trip, a place and date. Than, both of you will have something to work towards and talk about.

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You mentioned your girlfriend works full time. Maybe at work they put a lot of pressure on her and shes stressed out.. Or maybe she is drained by the time she gets home to you. And on her days off, maybe she just wants to sleep to get caught up?

There might even be a possibility that the dog is stressing her out. How old is the dog? You both work full time and have a new addition to the family. I've bred dogs and dogs pooping and shitting all over the floor.. It's like having a kid...

Physique, yes, you are right about buying dinner. Taking her shopping. All that leading up to paying for sex... I was thinking maybe it could be a nice gesture or a special night they could plan for. Get all dressed up and go some place nice and get some 1 to 1 interaction.. But again, you are right.

Another idea....Maybe you guys could plan a goal together. Both pitch in a few bucks every month (that way you're not paying for sex lol) Go to the mall together and get some travelling ideas. Set up a trip, a place and date. Than, both of you will have something to work towards and talk about.

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Sounds like your on PCT>.. lol

Too much work in my opinion.. I dont know the details, but sometimes its better to pull the plug.
How many of you guys here have had a women treat you like shit, play with you, withold sex etc.. and you tried to fix it, hoping its just a phase, looking for excuses ..
and then you look back and think, how the hell did I let someone treat me like this.

in the end.. if she cares, she will make an effort and there will be no excuses
there is always an excuses if you dont want something.. and never an excuse if something really matters..

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Sounds like your on PCT>.. lol

Too much work in my opinion.. I dont know the details, but sometimes its better to pull the plug.
How many of you guys here have had a women treat you like shit, play with you, withold sex etc.. and you tried to fix it, hoping its just a phase, looking for excuses ..
and then you look back and think, how the hell did I let someone treat me like this.

in the end.. if she cares, she will make an effort and there will be no excuses
there is always an excuses if you dont want something.. and never an excuse if something really matters..

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I agree. Keep playing the nice guy all the time trying to be the one to fix the issues and you will live to regret it.

Moving in with someone shows the real colours of them and you. Communicate the problems and if it gets better and STAYS better then good but if a month later it goes back to what it was... good bye!

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Originally Posted by Aar0n

You mentioned your girlfriend works full time. Maybe at work they put a lot of pressure on her and shes stressed out.. Or maybe she is drained by the time she gets home to you. And on her days off, maybe she just wants to sleep to get caught up?

There might even be a possibility that the dog is stressing her out. How old is the dog? You both work full time and have a new addition to the family. I've bred dogs and dogs pooping and shitting all over the floor.. It's like having a kid...

Physique, yes, you are right about buying dinner. Taking her shopping. All that leading up to paying for sex... I was thinking maybe it could be a nice gesture or a special night they could plan for. Get all dressed up and go some place nice and get some 1 to 1 interaction.. But again, you are right.

Another idea....Maybe you guys could plan a goal together. Both pitch in a few bucks every month (that way you're not paying for sex lol) Go to the mall together and get some travelling ideas. Set up a trip, a place and date. Than, both of you will have something to work towards and talk about.

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yeah dude, you sound like someone whose had a female train run over them a few times.

You'll wise up soon enough.

I am not saying not to be nice but you can't be a push over either.

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I agree. Keep playing the nice guy all the time trying to be the one to fix the issues and you will live to regret it.

Moving in with someone shows the real colours of them and you. Communicate the problems and if it gets better and STAYS better then good but if a month later it goes back to what it was... good bye!

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good advice big guy

Aaron is super nice... a real gentle giant... I think hes gonna be one of the nice guys that doesnt finish last, though...

HOnestly, I agree 100% with Monkey and Nate. *shudders* LOL

I have lived with dozens of women over the years... some serious, some fun, some a complete pain in the ass... I am hard to live with, especially when things arent going well in the bedroom...

In this case, I think you are either pissing her off and she is withholding sex in order to get back at you, or she is regretting moving in with you altogether...

Like Nate said, if you do manage to patch things up and it stays better, cool... if it goes back to this bullshit, its time to bounce...

At the start of a relationship, girls evaluate you superficially... when you move in together, they start noticing all the things you do wrong...all their problems are jammed into one location: home. They no longer have an escape and that freaks them out.

Nate- hahaha. Yah, I've been hit by the train pretty hard. I've been mentally and verbally abused. I will wisen up like you suggest. Good thinking.

Monkey- You are a joker. What I suggested is too much work? You think living with a girl.. is a walk in the park? Every day takes work. Hell, living with a buddie or a roomate involves work and communication. No hard feelings, but I can see why she is acting the way she does towards you. And you are right, you better pull the plug. Because if you don't, she will.

I agree with you BDH 100%... All problems are carried home. First year living with someone is always the hardest.

you guys are all tards, nobody has yet to mention the only thing that actually works on keeping your needs satisfied

CHEAT......... all the cool guys are doing it

from GSXR

have you ever considered raping her ?

Girls like that won`t change. You`re wasting your time. I was with a girl like that once and it was very frustrating. When you`re the one who always wants sex and the other dosen`t you feel like a loser. Find a girl who likes sex. They all like sex in the first 6 months, the real test is how they are after that period.

I wouldn`t push sex too much while she`s on her period. Besides that shit grosses me out.

And if you`re meant to be together, living together should make your life easier, not cause problems. It never ceases to amaze me the people who stay together, yet argue all the time. And I see this a lot.

But hey, that`s just me.

If all else fails, big D laid down some good advice, lol. Stick it in her pooper, dry!!!

You could always beg.:)I think she might be banging somebody else.

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You could always beg.:)I think she might be banging somebody else.

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Have him beg for sloppy seconds? eewww!

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Have him beg for sloppy seconds? eewww!

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Ritch,no....not for the seconds.:)If she's not so interested maybe that's exactly what is going on.Somebody else has her attention,and maybe more.BAIL!