Breakups...

Has anyone here had to break up with someone when youre both still really in love?

My girlfriend and I broke up this morning. We fight often and have some trust issues. Neither of us were that happy anymore. We both still really love each other though. Weve broken up before, gotten back together, tried to make it work but it never really seems to fall into place. Breaking up was one of the hardest things weve both had to do...

Anyways some suggestions for ways that have helped you dudes get over that kind of thing? Other than "go bang random hotties"?

If you love each other and its meant to be, it will, sometimes we just need to take a step back to see things from a diffrent angel,

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Originally Posted by BBbox

Has anyone here had to break up with someone when youre both still really in love?

My girlfriend and I broke up this morning. We fight often and have some trust issues. Neither of us were that happy anymore. We both still really love each other though. Weve broken up before, gotten back together, tried to make it work but it never really seems to fall into place. Breaking up was one of the hardest things weve both had to do...

Anyways some suggestions for ways that have helped you dudes get over that kind of thing? Other than "go bang random hotties"?

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take some time apart. you both have issues and must resolve them before going back into a relationship. if you dont resolve them I guaranty that same problem will arise in the next relationship.
Also dont be afraid to go consult a psychotherapist.

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Originally Posted by BBbox

Has anyone here had to break up with someone when youre both still really in love?

My girlfriend and I broke up this morning. We fight often and have some trust issues. Neither of us were that happy anymore. We both still really love each other though. Weve broken up before, gotten back together, tried to make it work but it never really seems to fall into place. Breaking up was one of the hardest things weve both had to do...

Anyways some suggestions for ways that have helped you dudes get over that kind of thing? Other than "go bang random hotties"?

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Well IMHO if you BOTH still love eachother a lot then I say get back together and agree to go get couples counsling bro.

Love is very hard to find now a days and again IMHO if you guys want to be together then WORK at it harder then you work in the gym.

Sometimes(most times lol) us guys need to back down and just do what she wants if we really love her and want to be with her. I don't mean be her bitch and let her do whatever she wants, i just mean we need to be very open and understanding.

I wish i had a woman that loved me, ya sad i know....more pathetic i think.

Don't be like me bro;)

Hang out with your guy friends who are mature and wont just take you to clubs to **** sluts. Hit the gym hard, play some sports...etc

Maybe you should work on you first.

What can you do to have more peace with yourself?

What can you do to love more your self?

What can you learn from this break up?

Love is really important but isn't everything in a relationship, communication, trust, respect, honesty are very important as well.

May what both of you need right now is time apart to deal with your own stuff and this break up.

Maybe one of you should get a sex change?

You really need to work on your self like warlock said.

Who has the trust issues?Sounds done.Best therapy is to get ****ed.

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Originally Posted by kloan

Maybe one of you should get a sex change?

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My gf and I just broke up again a couple days ago. Exact same issues as BBox. I feel ya dude.

Life is shit sometimes

:(

don't ever assume someone loves you just because they say it...

i fell for it for almost 4 years and the bitch cheated on me multiple times...sound like love to you? that's why you can't fall for it all of the time.

if you fought all the time, maybe it wasn't love.

If you've broken up more than once, chances are it's not meant to be. Don't deprive yourself of some gorgeous girl with a heart of gold just because you're worried about "what if's"...trust me, it's a ****ing nightmare! I've been in a long term relationship since I was 17 (with maybe 3 months between gf's) and regret it every once in a while.

^^ she is a gorgeous girl with a heart of gold. Thats the problem. I just cant get my shit together.

and jersey.... she found out about you and one of the super hottie hots at the keg eh? Sorry to hear about that bro.

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Originally Posted by #8

My gf and I just broke up again a couple days ago. Exact same issues as BBox. I feel ya dude.

Life is shit sometimes

:(

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were you expecting different?

get over it and finally move on.

Man up and do what ever it takes to make it work. If you dedicated your life to her happiness and well being and forgot about yourself for a few seconds, you could probably make this work and be happy.

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Originally Posted by natenator

were you expecting different?

get over it and finally move on.

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you know they will be back together within 2 weeks after he has ****ed someone else as usual :)

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Originally Posted by CanadianIron

Man up and do what ever it takes to make it work. If you dedicated your life to her happiness and well being and forgot about yourself for a few seconds, you could probably make this work and be happy.

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whatever it takes? so then just be her bitch?

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Originally Posted by BBbox

you know they will be back together within 2 weeks after he has ****ed someone else as usual :)

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as usual? jeez man thanks.

ive been behaving so ****ing well for a while now.....ive even been carrying around my extending baton to beat away the cute girls so i can run away

:yeah

^^ except for the one girl your gf caught you with which is why you broke up i assume??

well at least you can put the baton away now that youre single

Just curious BBox are you OCD diagnosed?

what makes you think i have ocd?

You seem very obsessive about quirks in other peoples relationships like Jersey messing around with a stripper, or another guy getting head from a stripper in front of his girlfriend, and probably a bunch of other examples that I am much to lazy to think up.

At first I thought this was just because you had a vagina. What I really think is that you probably put your relationship misdeads on a great big pedastil of guilt. The self destructive nature of having this negative attitude towards yourself is bad enough, but it likely effected this relationship, and could hurt future relationships.

I bet subconsciously at times you felt so guilty that you let her trample your boundries, and acted in ways that you normally wouldnt with any regular girlfriend just because you felt like you owed her something. I dont think she will respect you or forgive you until you learn to respect and forgive yourself.

The way you remind other people of how they ****ed up constantly, do you think you might remind her in a similar way? Possibly without even realizing it? That would keep the vicious cycle going for sure.

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Originally Posted by Durk

You seem very obsessive about quirks in other peoples relationships like Jersey messing around with a stripper, or another guy getting head from a stripper in front of his girlfriend, and probably a bunch of other examples that I am much to lazy to think up.

At first I thought this was just because you had a vagina. What I really think is that you probably put your relationship misdeads on a great big pedastil of guilt. The self destructive nature of having this negative attitude towards yourself is bad enough, but it likely effected this relationship, and could hurt future relationships.

I bet subconsciously at times you felt so guilty that you let her trample your boundries, and acted in ways that you normally wouldnt with any regular girlfriend just because you felt like you owed her something. I dont think she will respect you or forgive you until you learn to respect and forgive yourself.

The way you remind other people of how they ****ed up constantly, do you think you might remind her in a similar way? Possibly without even realizing it? That would keep the vicious cycle going for sure.

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Originally Posted by BBbox

Anyways some suggestions for ways that have helped you dudes get over that kind of thing? Other than "go bang random hotties"?

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i've heard hookers and blow helps :pb

seriously. without trust it ain't worth a pinch.

Ya Me and Avbril broke up was still in love absolutely zero problems. 1 person goes overseas and changes sucks ass. Other then going out and banging hotties which clearly is the best advice I recomend u bang 2 hotties at the same time who are bisexual. Now other then that u can go see a councellor. But take if from me bang the hotties.

you just have to find someone to fill that void of a girlfriend... for the time being until you get over it.

going through a pretty rough break up myself.. and really thats the only way im getting through it.

I feel for ya tho bro...



"banging hotties" couldnt hurt ethier lol

Just make sure that if you do "take a break" from each other and eventually get back a week, a month, a year later; that anything you did during that "break" period is not brought up. What business is it of hers/yours if she/you slept with a handful of men/women? During that "break" she/you are a free person and are able to do whatever it is you want to without any guilt feelings.
Yes, you may wonder what she did during the break, but she is probably wondering the same thing about you. You have to be able to put it all behind you and move on....if you want to be with this person.
If not, then say your goodbye's and move on. Breaking up sucks, having past memories sucks as well...but when one door closes others will open.

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Originally Posted by Rustang

you just have to find someone to fill that void of a girlfriend... for the time being until you get over it.

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rebound girl? lol I dunno I think that just makes it more messy

^^ ya the rebound girls face should get super messy for sure

:)

I am having paralyzing regret over this breakup lately... #8 can you hook me up with that peeler to help soothe my sorrows? :(

^^ dude I have a chicktionary FULL of some of the hottest broads you have ever seen. where do you live? If you can make it to T.O. I can introduce you to some stunners.

^^ generous of you not to keep them all to yourself... you might be a good guy after all....

dunno how i feel about your sloppy seconds though

^^ after that backhanded compliment i retract my previous post.

of course im a good guy you focker. I talk a lot of shit, but my icy heart is made of gold....lol

I thought you were in London dude?
Anyways I dont want to steal all those ladies away from you... they wont be able to resist my charm and you will be left behind in the dust... Im sure you need them to smooth over your own recent breakup...

Couple counselling can really work bro, if both are committed. Sounds like that might be a bit late for you though.

I think now the best counselling can come from good buds; and just getting out and enjoying shit you couldn't do in the relationship -- partying with friends, bad food, playing sports...'me time' shit.

Unfortunatley this stuff has a latent energy and it will whip back and hit you in the face later. You just need to get your life kick-started again with some fun stuff now.

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Originally Posted by BBbox

Has anyone here had to break up with someone when youre both still really in love?

My girlfriend and I broke up this morning. We fight often and have some trust issues. Neither of us were that happy anymore. We both still really love each other though. Weve broken up before, gotten back together, tried to make it work but it never really seems to fall into place. Breaking up was one of the hardest things weve both had to do...

Anyways some suggestions for ways that have helped you dudes get over that kind of thing? Other than "go bang random hotties"?

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Thats normal to a relationship. If you dont experience any fight,jealousy or anything your relationship wont go stronger and deeper. If you still love each other, and of course your willing to do anything just to get her back. Talk to her and discuss everything you two need to know. Thats the best way to create a good foundation in your relationship. :)


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