Do you think trust can be regained in a relationship once it has been broken... more than once?
Has anyone been achieved this with a partner?
What can one do in order to successfully help your partner trust you again?
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Do you think trust can be regained in a relationship once it has been broken... more than once?
Has anyone been achieved this with a partner?
What can one do in order to successfully help your partner trust you again?
it's a pipe dream to fully trust someone who doesn't share your bloodline.
trust is just a word man........ you can never really trust someone to start with.... if they break your trust more than once its time to say goodbye....
more than once? nope.
one time betrayed... depends on the circumstances...
example: if a chick ****ed some other guy... no deal. substantial breach of trust
There's some in my bloodline I don't fully trust, for good reason.
As to BBbox's original question, I think trust can be restored if there is only one indiscretion, but any more than that demonstrates a pattern that is beyond the malfeasor's capacity to remain trustworthy/monogamous without significant professional help. It's a far deeper personal issue.
^^^ holy shit those are some big words
lol. They're just words Bro.Quote:
Originally Posted by waderow
malfeasor?
deceiver, delinquent, etc.
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Originally Posted by BBbox
Trusting a woman= Joke.
trust is earned not given freely, and once it is broken very difficult to repair if it can be at all
I am asking this question in terms of trying to get someone else to trust you again... not trying to trust another person
So, essentially what you're asking is how to manipulate someone.
uhhh not really... im asking what kinds of things a person can do in order to HELP someone else regain their trust in you....
for me trust is tied with respect. behave in a way to show her you respect her ... and hope for the best
OP this would be a lot easier if you told us what you did to breach the trust in the first place....
if you were late for a big party that you promised you'd be on time for it's a lot different than nailing 10 chicks on the side lol.
Come on Bro. She doesn't trust you. You want her to trust you and are looking for tools or strategies to utilize so she will trust you. That's manipulation. I'm not judging you, I'm just saying. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by BBbox
trust is earned. and if broken, all that work earning it ..is gone imo to a great degree.
.....I will forgive but I never forget
I agree with Pdh and Gymrat.
You lost her trust, and now want to find some quick fix to get it back again, but there is none. It is earned, and the only way, if ever it is regained will be through a time of healing, and proper conduct on your part...if she even gives a **** at this juncture.
Moral of story.... do not ever put yourself in a position or situation where your commitment to the girl could be questioned.
trust is earned, and once broken it is impossible to fully trust again, unless you're a fool.
i often say a man/woman have only one thing that can't be taken away, it has to be given, and that is your word.
you can loose everything, but if you loose your word, it is your reflection that will haunt you for it was you who broke it.
never make a promise you don't intend to keep, never shit where you eat and always listen to your guts.
too few people put value in their word today. too few people fail to understand that their word equals responsibility.
wade said it best. dont put yourself in the situation at all. thats when mistakes are made. you cant **** up if you arent there to begin with.
just put the other person first all the time or some bullshit like that. i cant even imagine leading that boring of a life where i cant go out and just do something that i feel like doing with ZERO intention of cheating on whoever im with. if someone cant handle that i want to go out for some beers with the models that i do promo work with, then its not looking good....
^^ didnt you say youd done shit before that made her not be able to trust you in situations like that?
Of course you should be able to do all the fun things like going out with other girls and having girl friends etc. Its just that there has to be some gaining of trust back before that can happen. I just dont know how one goes about regaining trust to get back to that level.
^^ if you want to get it back to that level you are going to have to sacrifice lots of good times that might make her question your loyalties. if you REALLY want to make it work you're gonna have to make her your number one priority over your own fun.
i cant do that. im far too selfish
^^ no kidding, your selfishness has been more than evident through your various relationship postings and shenanigens
I guess the best solution is to NOT **** up in the first place and maintain trust throughout a relationship (obviously)
I just hope I wont regret losing this one forever
^^ dude you are on a FAIL streak with this "loose" situation. get your shit together.
^^ yah... i guess im caught up thinking about all the loose ladies I encountered at the bars this weekend ;)
keg is having a staff party this weds......lol
i would be in much better shape physically if i didnt drink so much.....but **** it feels good to unwind after shitloads of work.....
^^remember to take pictures. Already got someone lined up?
nah im not into anyone new at all i just really like getting ripped. i made some good friends with some of the other guys there already. should be a blast.
Wednesday is St Pats isnt it? Should be good times for all. Love the slutty green outfits.
orrr you can just take her with you so she can see you behaving?Quote:
Originally Posted by #8
isnt' that what a relstionship is about.....going out and having fun together. Of course doing your own things is great as well not everything has to be done together...if your going out on your own bc you want to be up to no good you just threw trust out the window!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by #8
Trust can absolutely be regained in a relationship. I know from experience, I lost the trust and regained it back and it's now stronger then before.
I'm not saying it'll be easy but #1 You need to decide that you'll do whatever it takes.#2 You need to trust yourself first and by this I mean you need to know fully who you are and what you stand for and other people need to know what they can count on you for without you having to tell them. And #3 You need to be your word and by this I mean do what you say your gonna do. I'm an ex bodybuilder and now work as a relationship Coach, and so many guy's don't get this one. If you say something to your woman Do IT! Even if it seems small to you. Because women test their men to see if they can trust them or not. So BE YOUR WORD.