The one that got away

What with all the break up talk lately, thought id ask how many other dudes (or ladies) out there have a "one that got away"?

Dunno how common it is really, so not sure what kind of response ill get.

Anyways I dated this one chick who was pretty much perfect... beautiful, smart, high aspirations, great family
I was young (still am i guess lol) and was dumb enough to do lil shit that made us fight all the time... never invited her out to party with me, always sort of distracted by something else, she said i never acted like I "appreciated her"
Lost her over stupid shit like that and still regret it... never found a girl yet that measures up.

Anyone else have this experience?

Thankfully, don't have that experience. Happily (most of the time...lol) married to the ONE for me and I'm going to keep him for a looooooong, loooong time:)

almost 20 yrs for me already, f**k me ha thats a long time when one thinks bout it :)

highschool gf, shoulda never let her go

I have and 15 years later it still upsets me to think about....... I'll regret it til the day I find someone better... if I ever do.

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Originally Posted by GYMBRAT

almost 20 yrs for me already, f**k me ha thats a long time when one thinks bout it :)

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lucky guy

living with something you seriously regret is the worst experience you can have really

"if only..."

glad to see it hasnt happened to very many

I dont really get the whole concept of the one that got away. There are too many variables to know what would have ended up happening anyways. Life deals us cards and we play them but theres always another card to turn over until the day we die.

^^ really its about having that one chance where you had the PERFECT girl. but you dont realize it until its too late. Maybe there will be another who works for you but for some reason its just like noone is ever the same or can ever live up to it. hard to explain if you havent experienced it.

And you're right in saying that you never know what would have ended up happening in the end, but the regret you live with is that you didnt give it 100% so you dont know what could have been.

I luckily found him and will keep him :D

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Originally Posted by kloan

I have and 15 years later it still upsets me to think about....... I'll regret it til the day I find someone better... if I ever do.

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That is depressing

I tried to get this girl back recently and it didnt work out

dont wanna live with this regret the rest of my life

had a couple good ones get away, but they usually get forgotten when you find the next good one.

If I had to pick the most painful, it was my H.S. sweetheart. I broke her heart, and regretted it for a long time. She married, got divorced, and then recently remarried to a ******. I think I ruined her.

^^ whatd u do to the poor girl

i got one....after my terrible break up with my ex in 2005 i didnt want to date or be with anyone in 2006 and i went through 6 months with my dad being terribly ill where he eventually passed away....so i was an emotional wreck...then i met this girl...she was so nice to me...quiet and shy....she had never had a bf which surprised the hell out of me....we would go out with my friends she would hold my hand for no reason...bowling she would pay for me to play...took me out for food paid for it...the movies too...she was trying to win me over...she has no "game" but yea it was the only way to show she liked me...then all her friends were pressuring me to kiss her....and i didnt want to i wasnt ready for anything and she was so inexperienced so i didnt want to...she would come out for anything too any chill sessions or whatever...sooo yeah she had her wisdom teeth out...and im like well i dont want to do it but ill just kiss her and get her off my back cuz i wasnt ready to commit....so one night after her dental surgery...i was dropping her off...so i pulled this line "so if i kiss u right now will i get blood in my mouth" she was shocked shook her head and said no so i gave her one of the most unsatisfying kiss of her life i was the 2nd guy to kiss her lol btw...but yeah by the time i got home i got a msg on msn from her friend so u kissed her...im like yeah...but she didnt like it and got the point i didnt want to be with her...so heres the twist today 3 yrs later she is finishing her last yr of university...smartest girl in the world...so cute in my eyes...and yeah we connected talked everyday end on end...id hang on her every word she was so funny and her personality rocked...but it means nothing cuz i ****d it up and were just friends now...so thats it i dropped the ball

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Originally Posted by BBbox

^^ whatd u do to the poor girl

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cheated on her

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Originally Posted by rated_rko

i got one....after my terrible break up with my ex in 2005 i didnt want to date or be with anyone in 2006 and i went through 6 months with my dad being terribly ill where he eventually passed away....so i was an emotional wreck...then i met this girl...she was so nice to me...quiet and shy....she had never had a bf which surprised the hell out of me....we would go out with my friends she would hold my hand for no reason...bowling she would pay for me to play...took me out for food paid for it...the movies too...she was trying to win me over...she has no "game" but yea it was the only way to show she liked me...then all her friends were pressuring me to kiss her....and i didnt want to i wasnt ready for anything and she was so inexperienced so i didnt want to...she would come out for anything too any chill sessions or whatever...sooo yeah she had her wisdom teeth out...and im like well i dont want to do it but ill just kiss her and get her off my back cuz i wasnt ready to commit....so one night after her dental surgery...i was dropping her off...so i pulled this line "so if i kiss u right now will i get blood in my mouth" she was shocked shook her head and said no so i gave her one of the most unsatisfying kiss of her life i was the 2nd guy to kiss her lol btw...but yeah by the time i got home i got a msg on msn from her friend so u kissed her...im like yeah...but she didnt like it and got the point i didnt want to be with her...so heres the twist today 3 yrs later she is finishing her last yr of university...smartest girl in the world...so cute in my eyes...and yeah we connected talked everyday end on end...id hang on her every word she was so funny and her personality rocked...but it means nothing cuz i ****d it up and were just friends now...so thats it i dropped the ball

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ummmm you didnt **** anything up bro.... youre fine

send her an email telling her what you were going through at that time saying it bugs you to this day that she might think that you had a problem....

I think I'm in the middle of the "one that got away"... well actually the end.

Was seeing a balls hot figure competitor and was having a great time with her, we've only been together about a month. But, She said she felt pressured into sex and felt smothered by me... and the smothering part is about as embarassing as it gets for me.

I'd had a cruch on this girl for about 2 years, and saw her at the gym all the time, but never spoke to her cause I wasn't there to pick up girls... I broke up with my gf a while back, and I guess she heard about it so she came over and initiated the whole thing. I really liked her, and everything we did was a lot of fun, even when it shouldn't have been. But she's super busy and i think trying to find a way to balance everything was getting to her. Besides me screwing things up and trying to bring things along too fast.

But those are the breaks I guess.

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Originally Posted by waderow

ummmm you didnt **** anything up bro.... youre fine

send her an email telling her what you were going through at that time saying it bugs you to this day that she might think that you had a problem....

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oh i see her a few times a week at school....we built up a lot together this yr but then she ****d up...i got her flowers and tickets to the movies...then she went all quiet and ignoring me for like 5 days after that i was like ok **** it....ever since we talk and shit but she lost the admiration i had for her and what could have been...and i think she knows it but whatever

I thought it was my ex of 4 years. We started hanging out every once and a while since a year or two ago, and it reminded me of what a psychopath she is. In all honesty I wanted to tell her off, and let her know that I cant even stand being in the same room as her, but I would rather be nice and say "that was a wonderful time we had due to our history". In tern she told me that I am the cockyest and most shameless person in the world, and she doesnt know what happened to me, but she hates it.

We both agreed that we are different people now and it would never work, but I still get the odd message asking for the old me back. As much as I miss putting all her needs before mine, and getting screamed every day because I was her acting emotional tampon I think I will have to pass.

Exes are exes for a reason.

PS. I was even nice enough not to tell her that I ****ed her favorite teacher.

If you are in T.O. BBbox I will hook you up with her. She would love a panzy like you :)

maybe next time she texts you asking for the old you back you can tell her you ****ed her fav teacher.... its a nice one to pull outta your sleeve when ya need it.

If I wasnt such an upstanding gentleman I would pretend to be the old me, **** her then tell her right after. Possibly I could visit the teacher on the way then go visit her without showering the teacher off of me that way I could ask her how her teacher tasted.

I cant really hold much malice for things she did to me years ago. I am trying to be nicer and not such a bridge burner anymore, but it is hard lol

hehe, i hear ya man... it feels better to not be so malicious.. in the long run anyway.

To the OP, I had an almost identical situation... been apart for almost 2 yrs now and it still bothers me every single day... she is also the mother of my lil girl... i've tried dating and stuff since, trying to get my mind off it but all to no luck. She has been with someone now for almost a year and it looks like no matter how much I plead my case, this guy isn't going anywhere. It sucks so bad, especially when you know its just cuz u were young and immature, and could have avoided the whole thing. I've kinda stopped going on dates and stuff lately, just no desire. She's still the only person I want to be with and can picture myself with in the future. Sucks bro!

I probably shouldn't be giving advice. But, you guys need to flip your situation around. You have to think of it as you are the one that got away from her. I know how it feels to lose "the one" but I think this "the one" is bullshit. There are hundred's of "the one"'s around the entire world for you to go out and discover. You will not discover them by sitting back and doing nothing about it. Go out and discover the new and improved "one" for your. If you and her don't workout: wash, rinse, repeat.

Oh 1990, I should have impregnated you when I had the chance..

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Originally Posted by gsxr750

Oh 1990, I should have impregnated you when I had the chance..

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ha I say that about all the nurses, teachers, and career women who made well over 40k that I banged.

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Originally Posted by Durk

ha I say that about all the nurses, teachers, and career women who made well over 40k that I banged.

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Over $40K? Low standards eh? hah

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Originally Posted by natenator

Over $40K? Low standards eh? hah

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duh thought you would have me figured out by now.

haha^^

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Originally Posted by BBbox

What with all the break up talk lately, thought id ask how many other dudes (or ladies) out there have a "one that got away"?

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are you talking about B2J ??

I would definitely marry a chick who made over 40k a year. Most girls I meet are gunna be making like 24K a year max. Girls don't have any ambition now-a-days, the majority anyways. I guess I could saw that about guys too.

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Originally Posted by daande

I would definitely marry a chick who made over 40k a year. Most girls I meet are gunna be making like 24K a year max. Girls don't have any ambition now-a-days, the majority anyways. I guess I could saw that about guys too.

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most kids coming out of school today want the big'ish paying job whilst not having to work for it.

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Originally Posted by daande

I would definitely marry a chick who made over 40k a year. Most girls I meet are gunna be making like 24K a year max. Girls don't have any ambition now-a-days, the majority anyways. I guess I could saw that about guys too.

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i'd marry a chick that has a car, **** its unbelievable i'm tired of being the taxi.

I dont want to be hating on the girls because I know theres alot of successful women out there, but the ones I meet these days wow haha, working at the mall, bar or a gym. they look good but not keepers

Some of you might remember an ex of mine that was a board member on CJM and MN a few years ago. She was my "one that got away"... we dated for 3 years and I thought she was the "greatest person" I ever met.

A couple of months ago, I met "the one I won't let get away". Makes the old one easily forgettable by comparison. I guess sometimes you put buckles on your hat and shoes and become a settler, not knowing how good things can be when you find the right woman.

Up until 2 months ago, if the ex had called me, I would have come running. Now, not a chance.

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Originally Posted by BDH

Some of you might remember an ex of mine that was a board member on CJM and MN a few years ago. She was my "one that got away"... we dated for 3 years and I thought she was the "greatest person" I ever met.

A couple of months ago, I met "the one I won't let get away". Makes the old one easily forgettable by comparison. I guess sometimes you put buckles on your hat and shoes and become a settler, not knowing how good things can be when you find the right woman.

Up until 2 months ago, if the ex had called me, I would have come running. Now, not a chance.

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I saw this new girl of yours, she is a smokeshow!!!!!!!!! Kudos

I used to think I had one of the "ones that got away" but now I think back and nope. I treated him great, cooked all the time, bought him beers, paid for other crap, also had my own car......Only thing I ever asked for was to be told before he cheats, well ok i didnt say it that nicely lol. Long story short, at least he told me before he cheated.

There are some good women out there still that want to make something of their lives. I for one am hoping to start school again in the new year. When I grow up I want to be a paramedic. You just have to look in the places where you normally dont look and you will find the "one".

dont take it from me, cause I am also still looking for the "one" man lol

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Originally Posted by ab_chic25

I used to think I had one of the "ones that got away" but now I think back and nope. I treated him great, cooked all the time, bought him beers, paid for other crap, also had my own car......Only thing I ever asked for was to be told before he cheats, well ok i didnt say it that nicely lol. Long story short, at least he told me before he cheated.

There are some good women out there still that want to make something of their lives. I for one am hoping to start school again in the new year. When I grow up I want to be a paramedic. You just have to look in the places where you normally dont look and you will find the "one".

dont take it from me, cause I am also still looking for the "one" man lol

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Got any pics :)

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Originally Posted by daande

Got any pics :)

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Check her profile dummy.

That necklace really brings out the sparkle in your eyes, Ab_Chic.

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Originally Posted by ab_chic25

I used to think I had one of the "ones that got away" but now I think back and nope. I treated him great, cooked all the time, bought him beers, paid for other crap, also had my own car......Only thing I ever asked for was to be told before he cheats, well ok i didnt say it that nicely lol. Long story short, at least he told me before he cheated.

There are some good women out there still that want to make something of their lives. I for one am hoping to start school again in the new year. When I grow up I want to be a paramedic. You just have to look in the places where you normally dont look and you will find the "one".

dont take it from me, cause I am also still looking for the "one" man lol

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Hey now, its not cheating if he tells you first. If your looking for a decent guy short dave is in Alberta hes cute, cudely, honest, and I suspect he has one of those ball froe's that you are so fond of.