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you beat me to it. No one is ever ready to have kids, and it is impossible to understand being a parent until you are one. Even if you have tuns of experience with nieces nephews, or even if you are a full time day care provider - being a parent is totally different.Quote:
Originally Posted by tiramisu
If your wife is able to bear a lot of the load while your working and working towards your Master's then why not. if not wait till your done school, i've got 3 kid's 2 were not planned had them when i was young, my 3rd we planned he's a blast. We have 2 boy's and 1 girl, 14,12 and almost 3.. Girl is the oldest and a great babysitter :)
I never gave a shit about other peoples kids, they did nothing but annoy me. I could stand them for all of an hour then I wanted to kill them.
I had my own kid last year and it changed me. As soon as you look at your own kid and hold them, all your selfish notions go out the window and all you care about is this little piece of you. As long as you're in a loving relationship and you can raise them in a safe, loving home, you will love having kids.
Be a man, have kids. IMO guys that refuse to have kids and are too selfish arent real men, they're boys. Real men have kids and man up, they love and take care of their families and its a great job.
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Originally Posted by CanadianIron
LOL.. how in your eyes does having kids define if a guy is a boy or a man.. lol
I don't have kids.. and don't plan on having any for another 10 years or so...
Having that said, I got my ex pregnant.. she lost it due to medical reasons ..
( which I am almost happy about cus she was a major bitch..)but the moment she was pregnant .. holy shit, all those feelings came up in me, I was excited .!
Its unexplainable.. but I know now that you become ready.. the moment someone you love is pregnant. Its just overwhelming.. really weird.
You'll figure it out if you have to.. there is a reason why you have 9 months to get ready.
Well, its called procreation. When a male human reaches maturity, he has babies. This is how heterosexual species work. Guys that are too insecure/selfish to commit to having kids aren't matured men yet, they may never be.Quote:
Originally Posted by monkey
That's akin to saying women who don't want children really aren't women.Quote:
Originally Posted by CanadianIron
Some people - man or woman - simply aren't meant to be parents. We see examples of this on a daily basis on the news.
You really do hold some rather ignorant views.
when you have a child your life changes entirely, for the better, u dont need to know what to do u just need to love him/her, u will learn what to do, they are a blessing, they bring the best out of parents and it is a very special bond that is between the two of you. I agree with canadianiron, having a baby turns you into a man because u r responsible for that babys wellbeing, those that have a child and dont man up to being a dad are just little boys.
So I am 38 married for 10+yrs no kids and we don't plan on having any. So even though I went to college, hold down full time employment and do volunteer work, I am still not a man good to know. Here I thought I was a responsible respected member of my community.Quote:
Originally Posted by CanadianIron
My girlfriend and I will never have kids. As Nate said, this doesn't make us lesser functioning people. My girlfriend is all woman and I am all man. We don't need spawn to identify us as such.
When you think about it, all animals make babies as an instinctual response to threats against species. As Humans are really our only threat against ourselves and we're killing ourselves through overpopulation, I'd argue that being a real man happens when you buck instinct in favor of making a logical and intelligent decision to NOT have offspring.
Being a slave to your instinct makes you nothing more than a stupid animal with a big brain and opposable thumbs, not a man.