Would you consider this cheating?

I agree with MMSTAR..for some reason women are allowed to snoop..but holy shit,dont get caught doing it to them cause then your ****ed!!The thing is if you tell her you snooped,she will either say goodbye or she wont trust you again and this will cause future problems.And beleive me,if she stays shes going to nag you with that for months on end.But on the other hand,this would eat me inside like CC said and i would have to do something about it.

But lets be honest though.Say you tell her--what is she going to tell you anyways??She'll lie her way out of it and try to find a way to make you feel guilty and blame the whole matter on you anways.I dont know man..

Its a tough call.Overall its going to depend on your own values..

The thing that would bug me is that she was intending to cheat by looking at the site. For me that is worse than the cheating as that was her intention.

Someone ****s up and has an indiscretion would be easier for me to forgive than someone actively looking for it.

Although you looking with her knowledge would not be an easy one for me to forgive either.

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Originally Posted by countrychic

I don't know....tuff call, I would have to say somthing it would eat me up, it's a dating site..... and the same for you if your happy with your woman why are you even on flenty of fish?

Having a glass of wine and playing on the computer wouldn't push me to craigslist or a dating site for that matter.

Rocky times or not.......

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See that's what I worry about, I know it will eat me up for sure.

I should clarify, I don't have a plenty of fish membership, I look for people I know on there or just for "junk food for the brain" type stuff, i've never even used a dating site in my life I just find them interesting
g to read.

I think I'm going to have to tell her I saw it and just see what happens.

I would just keep an eye on a her for a while. Also you could start some ruckus between the two of you and monitor her activity. That will give you enough info on rather or not to keep her in the future if trouble arise.

If she is doing that now she will certainly want a way out in the futre when time are tough again.

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Originally Posted by ironwill

no but you would be surfin porn with your wine glass in hand....lol

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HAHAHA thats a loaded statment, i wont comment cause i know how strong CC is and she would kick my ass

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Originally Posted by BIGABOY

HAHAHA thats a loaded statment, i wont comment cause i know how strong CC is and she would kick my ass

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lol well I see nothing wrong with that :) he's a happy boy when he gets home!

Install a keylogger on your computer and get her username and password to all of her shit and secretly login and see if shes a cheater (thats what I would do). What a normal person would tell you is to confront her and ruin your relationship over 2-3 emails with some random guy.

I would leave it alone, sounds like she was maybe unsure of her relationship..... maybe work on your relationship a bit.... take a look at it and see that you two are in the same place.... i would not confront her but take it as an early warning sign

Ask your self that question


1) Are her actions bad enought to you that you are willing to risk your further relationship?? If they are, ask her.. if they aren't.. suck it up and put it behind you.

Questioning her about this.. WILL put the shit back onto your plate, and if it is not enough of a dealbreaker to you to be willing to risk your current happiness.. then suck it up!


My personal opinion... relax, she is still with you. You have no proof that she cheated on you, you only have proof that she thought about it and decided against it.
It is normal that people consider cheating in a relationship.. very normal. Unless you catch her, don't ruin your relationship through accusations
Be happy that she had an one tim exposure and that she decided against it.. if you can't adopt this state of mind, your relationship is doomed in the long run

PS: I have snooped, I have confronted women, it never ever resulted in a satisfying explanation.. I usually ended up being the ass.. and it has ruined things...My relationships are happier since I swallow my misstrust and jealousy.. and just secretly keep an eye open.

Having that said, keep an eye on her... it might be an indicator of a bigger problem.. you just have nothing against her

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Originally Posted by monkey

Ask your self that question


1) Are her actions bad enought to you that you are willing to risk your further relationship?? If they are, ask her.. if they aren't.. suck it up and put it behind you.

Questioning her about this.. WILL put the shit back onto your plate, and if it is not enough of a dealbreaker to you to be willing to risk your current happiness.. then suck it up!


My personal opinion... relax, she is still with you. You have no proof that she cheated on you, you only have proof that she thought about it and decided against it.
It is normal that people consider cheating in a relationship.. very normal. Unless you catch her, don't ruin your relationship through accusations
Be happy that she had an one tim exposure and that she decided against it.. if you can't adopt this state of mind, your relationship is doomed in the long run

PS: I have snooped, I have confronted women, it never ever resulted in a satisfying explanation.. I usually ended up being the ass.. and it has ruined things...My relationships are happier since I swallow my misstrust and jealousy.. and just secretly keep an eye open.

Having that said, keep an eye on her... it might be an indicator of a bigger problem.. you just have nothing against her

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I think he is secretly telling you to install a keylogger and steal her passwords and then "keep and eye on her from there"