Chicks are crazy

[Kaly11]

so i get word the other day that my ex gf, who is now 4 months pregnant now proceeds to tell me that i may be the father of her child. THis is after her midwife tells her that i am 99% not the father. whats up with that shes got me rattled now. pisses me off. no idea what i should be thinking here. anyone else ever been in a similiar situation.

[LIVEHARD]

so i get word the other day that my ex gf, who is now 4 months pregnant now proceeds to tell me that i may be the father of her child. This is after her midwife tells her that i am 99% not the father. whats up with that shes got me rattled now. pisses me off. no idea what i should be thinking here. anyone else ever been in a similar situation.

Yep blood work DNA be sure bro

Remember even if its not your child and you start to raise and care for the child you will become responsible for the child financially over time 21 years is a long time so be sure

[Tiamat]

Calm down. This stuff will make you nervous and mad as hell but don't let it get to you. When it's born you'll have to do a DNA test to prove/disprove paternity.

If it's yours, there is no way out of it. The law will oblige you to support regardless. Get yourself mentally and emotionally ready for that.

If it's not yours, get away from that quack as fast as you can and pray for the other guy.

It's a wonder why guys have kids nowadays.

[daande]

Deny it all the way bro!!!! **** her the skank. Say its not yours and avoid her at all costs unless the courts force you to get a DNA test. Otherwise, **** her, its prolly half you know what.

[Tiamat]

BTW, do not stall the process of establishing paternity. If you do, she can come after you for back pay. It's easier to pay $200-300/month (or more or less depending on your income) than it is to pay $15k right away in a few years then continue with the monthly payments.

Take a look here to get an idea of what it can be in payments.

http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/pi/sup-pen/10/10.html


Good luck bro.

[daande]

I dunno man if I were you and you think it might be yours just flee man. Id **** right off to mexico or somewhere.

[Tiamat]

Deny it all the way bro!!!! **** her the skank. Say its not yours and avoid her at all costs unless the courts force you to get a DNA test. Otherwise, **** her, its prolly half you know what.

First the Child Maintenance Program will request a DNA test. They can't force it on you. If you refuse, they will get a court order for a DNA test on behalf of your ex. That will be forced on you. Of course time will pass during this process but payments cannot be escaped if it's yours. It's very shitty for a guy in this age and time to have a kid and be caught in this situation. If you're not working, you don't have to pay anything. It's all based on your income.

[Tiamat]

I dunno man if I were you and you think it might be yours just flee man. Id **** right off to mexico or somewhere.

Mexico, Dominican Republic, etc. There are places that haven't signed the United Nations documents for Child Maintenance.

Most developed countries have so moving to the US or Europe won't work, they can garnish your wages there to as they may have a reciprocal agreement with that country. That means whatever you owe her here, they can take from you there.

This shit is serious. For the younger guys here, be very careful. A disease is bad enough if you don't wrap your package, but an unwanted kid that you half to pay for almost a quarter century may feel worst. Too many guys get screwed out of a decent life because of shit like this. I seriously wish you luck man.

[cog]

so i get word the other day that my ex gf, who is now 4 months pregnant now proceeds to tell me that i may be the father of her child. THis is after her midwife tells her that i am 99% not the father. whats up with that shes got me rattled now. pisses me off. no idea what i should be thinking here. anyone else ever been in a similiar situation.

Confused here.How does the midwife determine at the 4 month period that you are likely 99% not the father?Some kind of lab test?If that's the case,relax.

[natenator]

I dunno man if I were you and you think it might be yours just flee man. Id **** right off to mexico or somewhere.
you know what, if you aren't prepared for the potential outcome then keep your dick your pants. You have just proven yourself as a low life loser of a man.

[Durk]

you know what, if you aren't prepared for the potential outcome then keep your dick your pants. You have just proven yourself as a low life loser of a man.

+1 growing up without a real father figure in your life ****ing sucks.

[Durk]

This is probably what happened. She gets knocked up by some jobless loser who treats her like shit, so she pins the kid on you because you would support it. chicks do that kinda shit all the time

[RagingRandy]

Yep blood work DNA be sure bro

Remember even if its not your child and you start to raise and care for the child you will become responsible for the child financially over time 21 years is a long time so be sure


you know what, if you aren't prepared for the potential outcome then keep your dick your pants. You have just proven yourself as a low life loser of a man.

I agree with all this. Get the paternity test done and if you are not the father sever all ties with your ex so she can not try and establish you as a father figure. You do not need to be the biological father to be on the hook for support. However, if you are the father "man up" and take responsibility for your actions.

[champcar99]

been there done that and it was all positive.. I have a great daughter, smart, kind,..Sometimes I can't believe she is my flesh and blood . she is too good of a child to come from me...lol...

[Kaly11]

yeah the other guy is a douche. she hates him and im guessing she just wants a real father for the baby. shes now proceeding to tell me she wants me back and all this shit. Maybe im just over reacting but i take this shit serious. She pretty much said she knows its the other guys but wants a DNA test to prove it when the babys born. Telling me now when the child is of 4 months isnt the best thing either.

[Kaly11]

she also said that it doesnt matter who the father is, she wants to raise it on her own... i see that as just being messed regardless

[JonnyO]

How the heck would the mid wife know if you were the father or not? I would go in a get tests done to make sure you are the father or not.

Why is she your ex girlfriend anyways? I mean why did you guys split up and how long were you together for?

If you decide to get back together do it for the right reasons....because you love her. Dont get back together because she is pregnant, you will be a miserable SOB if you do. Look at the Pro's and Con's and make a wise decision because the next step if you do get back together is marriage.

Also take care of business if you are in fact the father of this child. There is nothing worse in this world than a dead beat Dad! Together or not do everything you an for this child to make sure he/she grows up properly.