GF Problem and question, help if you can

[pseclint]

So here is my situation, I really hate getting into personal stuff on here lol... anyway so I have a GF (different than the one that wouldnt bone me, Turbo) so anyway we were both dating people and hooked up with eachother, so we both erased our ex's off of FB....

Anyway her mom still has her ex of FB and every chance she gets she checks out his profile, I didnt think it was a big deal really but she does it often and hides it so I finally confronted her once and said hey, you left a pic up of you and your ex, I didnt get mad, all I said was try to hide it better next time and kinda joked....

So anyway her mom was down visiting and I went to go and get some food, today I was just looking for a pic of mine on the mac through finder and all this history pops up of her looking at her Ex on facebook on saturday...

so do I confront and say get over him, do I leave some kinda message somehow... Like she erased the history so she knew its wrong and I never look at my ex on facebook.... I really dunno what to do.... I am in no way mad but more or less concerned..... throw some Ideas out please

[vegan_hunter]

Fuken Facebook has caused me relationship problems before too. If she's hiding stuff on there right now, you should be concerned. My girl & I know each other passwords, so there is no suspicion or jealousy. Its worked well.

[pseclint]

Fuken Facebook has caused me relationship problems before too. If she's hiding stuff on there right now, you should be concerned. My girl & I know each other passwords, so there is no suspicion or jealousy. Its worked well.

she uses her moms facebook to look at him, he isnt on her friends list

[deleteduser0002]

I think your best bet is to approach her with it directly. Let her know how you feel about it and ask her point blank why she's doing that. I personally would also ask her if she still has feelings for her ex. Be blunt....not aggressive, or confrontational, but blunt. Beating around the bush will get you no where in this type of situation IMHO.

[Born2Juice4Ever]

I am going to go on a limp here...but call me naive, the history of places she visited lately did not just pop up on its own...YOU executed a search, because you needed to do this for yourself--that is fine, I have done the same in the past (not currently)--no worries you are human.

I know that this will be difficult to do, but just let her be man. She has chosen to be with you and only you.

IF NOT:
Should you decide to confront her, then be careful of your delivery approach to the situation. Do not instigate a fight.
Just test the waters and see what is going on.

Stop searching for evidence.....this shit will kill you in the end, it will destroy your personal life, and will potentially affect your professional life as well.

Take it from a guy who searched for years....but never found anything. Yes I used to be paranoid as hell too, and for no reason other than the women that I date are gorgeous, and when I am not around guys gawck at them WTF!! get your own mofo!!!---no wonder I like to keep big :D :D grrrrrrrrrrr



B2J

[pseclint]

I am going to go on a limp here...but call me naive, the history of places she visited lately did not just pop up on its own...YOU executed a search, because you needed to do this for yourself--that is fine, I have done the same in the past (not currently)--no worries you are human.

I know that this will be difficult to do, but just let her be man. She has chosen to be with you and only you.

IF NOT:
Should you decide to confront her, then be careful of your delivery approach to the situation. Do not instigate a fight.
Just test the waters and see what is going on.

Stop searching for evidence.....this shit will kill you in the end, it will destroy your personal life, and will potentially affect your professional life as well.

Take it from a guy who searched for years....but never found anything. Yes I used to be paranoid as hell too, and for no reason other than the women that I date are gorgeous, and when I am not around guys gawck at them WTF!! get your own mofo!!!---no wonder I like to keep big :D :D grrrrrrrrrrr



B2J

hey B2J I actually didnt search for it.... I found a picture of a cat and saved it to my desktop... I use a mac so I went to finder to add it to my facebook wall..... I typed in the word "Batman" cause thats what I named it, then all this info popped up about her ex in safari history, I dunno if his album was titled batman or what......

attached is my original pic called batman

[#8]

lol thats a hilarious pic.

id talk to her about it bro. sit her down and tell her how its making you feel. try to be non-confrontational about it. let her talk and dont interrupt her when shes explaining herself. that goes a long way in preventing an escalating situation.

[BritishColumbian]

FB is famous for ruining relationships and trust. I dk what to say? go with the tried tested and tru falcon punch. Its the only way...

http://i438.photobucket.com/albums/qq101/addadiktome/FalconPunch.gif

[tex]

shitty.......my wife still has guys she has boned on her facebook....pisses me off to no end and she knows it......

[theboss]

lol thats a hilarious pic.

id talk to her about it bro. sit her down and tell her how its making you feel. try to be non-confrontational about it. let her talk and dont interrupt her when shes explaining herself. that goes a long way in preventing an escalating situation.


agree about the pic....and how to handle it.....you deserve a straight answer bro...and like Jersey said...let her finish or she will just get pissed at interuptions and blow up.....

[pseclint]

Ok I confronter her at lunch time, she admitted to looking at the pics friday and saturday as well..... checking out her facebook..... also I heard today that her step brother and her ex-bf are best friends and her ex has been living with her step brother the past month..... **** does the plot thicken hey..

[Van Zan]

The more you confront here the more sneaky she will get. Dont say nothing keep an eye on her and after a while make a decision if she is worth it or not. Basically give her enough rope so she can hang here self if she decide to go for it, then move on

[theboss]

tell her the only thing that will make it right is making a sex tape...lol

[L3]

wow thats a toughie... usually ppl will keep their Ex's on FB just to keep tabs on them, ive done it, my girlfriends have done it, yeah it hurts but you just have to deal with it

but now the step brother roomate curveball... bro that would be a little TOO sketchy for me

if she is hot enough for you to suffer through the stomach pains caused by anxiety (don't you ****ers pretened to not know what i'm takling about) then man up

[Sandwiches]

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[BritishColumbian]

Have you considered raping her?

[Dk]

**** facebook.

If AAS doesnt ruin my hairline, facebook will haha. whenever im with a girl im constantly checking her FB page to see if guys comment or add her.

im a psycho jealous prick. deal with it haha

[juggybuggy]

people worry too much about this shit.
so she looked at her exes pics on facebook, so ****ing what.
if thats all it takes to get you worked up, than truthfully you have an insecurity issue.
bringing this kind of thing up in a relationship only shows her that you are insecure, which in my expierience is a major turnoff to most women.
do it enough times, and eventually she will dump you.

if you really like this woman, the best course of action is to act like it doesn't bother you at all.
be cool, confident, and in control. DO NOT BE AN INSECURE WUSSY!!!!!!

Trust her until she gives you a REAL reason not to.

[Bowlcut]

**** facebook.

If AAS doesnt ruin my hairline, facebook will haha. whenever im with a girl im constantly checking her FB page to see if guys comment or add her.

im a psycho jealous prick. deal with it haha

You gotta use the FB to see if she is friends with any of the other girls you are dating. My buddy uses this system and it works out well. That and he rails sl00ty French broads.

[Drummer]

Thatll teach ya to take someone fresh out of a relationship ;) live and learn.

~D~

[Drummer]

Oh yea, and FB is the devil. If she is so interested in keeping up on her Ex and what he is doing, invite her to go back to him and move on.

~D~

[Kronis]

Thatll teach ya to take someone fresh out of a relationship ;) live and learn.

I have to agree with that. Chicks fresh out of relationships, especially if they tend to just jump from one to the next, are seriously emotionally weak and will either take forever to get over their ex or they will turn into stage 5 clingers in record time.

I personally have no problem with gf's having their ex's on facebook, but in cases where they still hang out with them all the time, or have a super close connection through family you're doomed from the start.

It's also a little hypocritical of me to say so since I've cheated a few times but I'd never date a girl who I hooked up with while she was still dating someone. Keep ****ing, yes. Date, no.

[Sean Summers]

I'd say it's time you add some of your ex's to your FB. ;-)
SS

[spankmonkey]

Do you really think you have any control over what any woman does, unless you have her locked in the basement.
Why sweat it? If she is going to search her x out on FB there is only one thing you have control over--how YOU choose to deal with it!
Tell her how it makes you feel but don't give her ultimatums and explain to her that if she wants to hook back up or bone him then at least have the decency to let you know so you can make an informed decision about what you are going to do. Then let that shit go!
It does not matter who you get involved with they will always have x's they wonder about and other dudes will always check out your girl. Take pride in other guys checkin your girl, it's not like their taggin her! In the end she goes home with you and gets bendy, my friend.

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

shes a for sure headache toss the girl and move on


plus dont sweat shit like this
just let her know you know and have her think you dont give a **** !!
drives the women crazy!


TVG

[Dk]

tell her mom to delete the EX, or go on her account and do it if you have the chance,

if the guy gets re-added, then you have a problem

[Drummer]

Do you really think you have any control over what any woman does, unless you have her locked in the basement.
Why sweat it? If she is going to search her x out on FB there is only one thing you have control over--how YOU choose to deal with it!
Tell her how it makes you feel but don't give her ultimatums and explain to her that if she wants to hook back up or bone him then at least have the decency to let you know so you can make an informed decision about what you are going to do. Then let that shit go!
It does not matter who you get involved with they will always have x's they wonder about and other dudes will always check out your girl. Take pride in other guys checkin your girl, it's not like their taggin her! In the end she goes home with you and gets bendy, my friend.

I agree with the bold. However, its naive to think that your just going to approach her in a mature fashion (because the situation is anything but mature) and expect her to have the "decency" to "let you know". Expecting a "mature" response is likely foolish (although you never know.) Id go with the first part of your advice. Control your end of it. Id simply state that i dont like it, and what i will do if it continues. To me, its disrespect.


~D

EDIT : oh yea. There is nothing "alright" about someone "hiding" things like checking up on their ex constantly. Its a bad sign of things to come.

[Born2Juice4Ever]

I'd say it's time you add some of your ex's to your FB. ;-)
SS

I am affraid that will not help too much, in between the skanks, sluts, and beetches he has dated, and the 3 other guys (well cannot blame him for those, he was following Jersey's advise), he won't have too much to threaten her with.

Contingency plan?

I like BC'S plan though :D :D

B2J

[pseclint]

I was never mad about the situation, the problem was I had no idea how I was supposed to react.... I asked a buddy and he said he would get mad.... thing is she recently ripped on me about thinking I was still talking to my ex which I wasnt..... anyway I was never mad, all I said was "Do you want me to check out my ex on facebook" she said no so I said "then if you wouldnt want me to do it, dont do it yourself, fair is fair" also about her ex moving in with her step brother all I said was you should've told me right away rather than hide it behind my back..... I am seriously not worried about her going back to her ex the guy is a huge douche, treated her like shit and thats why I am so surprised she was still checking out his fb

[theboss]

treated her like shit and thats why I am so surprised she was still checking out his fb

some girls like those guys........its worked for me thus far........lol

[pseclint]

^^^ I am one of those guys, I mean like over jealous, cheated, shady stuff like that.... and some of us here are like that too

[Tiamat]

A hardcore sex tape of you two with a money shot facial at the end will quickly put things into perspective for her. Treat you right or share with the world...lol

[pseclint]

A hardcore sex tape of you two with a money shot facial at the end will quickly put things into perspective for her. Treat you right or share with the world...lol

did that to my ex lol

[physique]

1 word. communication . thats what relationships are built on. if u cant do that with her, u are doomed.

i would just bring it up and ask her if she caught u doing that what would her reaction be? i would bet money it isnt as passive as yours.