Flame Away...

[BritishColumbian]

So my G/f of 4 years gets up early this morning, makes coffee and logs on the computer for 1/2 an hour jumps in the shower and goes to work. I get up a while later grab a coffee and sit down at the PC, OH she's still logged on, Lets have a look at what shes been up to....That ****in Kunt has an acount on Lavalife and eharmony dating sites. I sabatoged the accounts best I could, but what should I do? should I dump that bitch or what? I dont know? Im still kinda in shock....

[Ritch]

Make a fake account and set her up somewhere. Then pass by where she will be and ask here what she`s doing. Enjoy the look on her face. Ask her if you can join her, watch her sweat as she`s looking around... Just brainstorming here.

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

So my G/f of 4 years gets up early this morning, makes coffee and logs on the computer for 1/2 an hour jumps in the shower and goes to work. I get up a while later grab a coffee and sit down at the PC, OH she's still logged on, Lets have a look at what shes been up to....That ****in Kunt has an acount on Lavalife and eharmony dating sites. I sabatoged the accounts best I could, but what should I do? should I dump that bitch or what? I dont know? Im still kinda in shock....

if shes still logged on start sending notes to the ulgys on there and let her check the messages the ****s send back then wait till she sees it comes to you about it then spit on her and throw the twat out
ZERO TOLLERANCE for scandaless hoes!

Could you **** any of her friends?

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

Make a fake account and set her up somewhere. Then pass by where she will be and ask here what she`s doing. Enjoy the look on her face. Ask her if you can join her, watch her sweat as she`s looking around... Just brainstorming here.

YEAH!!!!!
DO IT!!
THEN SPIT ON HER!!!

[Richter]

Dr. Phil at your service.... I will not flame you as this is a serious concern to you.

I will write more in a moment but before anyone adds their comments, is there anyway you can fix what you did to her profiles? If so, fix them now and fix them fast!!! I will explain more in a bit...

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

Dude dont just freak out play this shit smooth act like it dont phase you !!


Keep us updated
i ****ing love it when bitches get caught and the man plays it right !!!

[HoliTheCat]

Me and TVG could roofie her then give her the ol' DP while wearing GIMP masks and post that shit on submityourflicks.com

Just spit ballin'...LMK

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

No flaming here bro let us help you get this female!!

[Ritch]

YEAH!!!!!
DO IT!!
THEN SPIT ON HER!!!

after having eaten cheetos so it`s orange, huh big D?

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

Me and TVG could roofie her then give her the ol' DP while wearing GIMP masks and post that shit on submityourflicks.com

Just spit ballin'...LMK

yeah!

ill have a CBB in black marker on my man chest!!

[Big D]

LOL **** you make me laugh Holi

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

BC let us help you homie
play it cool and burn this trick!



Ive been play similar to this before so i feel ya homie i was with her for 2 yrs not 4 but my feeling were stong and i so wish i played it cool


get some nudes also so you can post that shit and email it to all her friends dude if played right payback will have you feel on top of the world

[BAM]

Save yourself future headaches and cut her loose.

[HoliTheCat]

Save yourself future headaches and cut her loose.

Worst advice.

[HoliTheCat]

LOL **** you make me laugh Holi

:D

[Gettin'r'round]

Come on can't we be serious???

First off if she was still logged on then she wasn't taking precautions not to get caught. Meaning she's be doing it for a while me thinks. Dump her ass. What else are you going to do? She wants out of the relationship and this was her way of making YOU do it as she is too cowardly to do it herself. Could be conscious or subconscious. I would also sit down and try to track her time away from you and check her cell phone bill/visa bills/ etc. That is if you for WHATEVER reason are still unsure as to her intentions.

Sorry bro, time to get single again.

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

Worst advice.

lol no doubt **** that do something good and then spit on her!!

[BritishColumbian]

I dont know any of her passwords and I logged off her acount this morning. I called a friend of mine and he told me to get a Keylogger, so I got one from pirate bay and its installed now. Hopefully she doesnt catch on, all i did was delete a bunch of stuff. I am going to set her up. I couldnt find any mesages she had sent, maybe shes just looking but thats still ****in bad enough.

[Gettin'r'round]

Worst advice.

Shit disturber...:D

[BritishColumbian]

I have some naked pics she sent me with her phone when she was on a cruise without me last year...Duh

[HoliTheCat]

Shit disturber...:D

Guuiillllttyyy


(the spit on her comment by TVG makes me LOL for reals on the deals)

[HoliTheCat]

I have some naked pics she sent me with her phone when she was on a cruise without me last year...Duh

PICS OR GET OUT

[BAM]

Worst advice.

Well, we're all not cuckolds like you.

;)

[Gettin'r'round]

I have some naked pics she sent me with her phone when she was on a cruise without me last year...Duh

uh oh....

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

I dont know any of her passwords and I logged off her acount this morning. I called a friend of mine and he told me to get a Keylogger, so I got one from pirate bay and its installed now. Hopefully she doesnt catch on, all i did was delete a bunch of stuff. I am going to set her up. I couldnt find any mesages she had sent, maybe shes just looking but thats still ****in bad enough.

dude get one of your friends she dont know to meet her then show up sit withher and be like BABE? whos your friend
meanwhile have her shit packed and toss the girl bro im sorry but gettin around is right!
time to be single again
what kinda letters and communaction was going on on her accounts?????

[Big D]

shes pretty much planing to cheat on you, your like her back up plan if she dosent find anyone she'll stick with you. and shes been probably doing this for a while if she forgot it on her comp logged on. set her up and dump her good no one deserves this.

[waderow]

I think the mature thing to do is talk to her about it.


A lot of girls do dating sites habitually for the attention and NEVER meet anyone. Its brutal but it happens.

I think it is reasonable if this is the case to ask her to stop.


If she is looking for a relationship or ****ing around though.... turf the slut

[Richter]

Well, you may be jumping to conclusions. She may be signed up at both of these because she's helping a friend out search for a connection. And the only way for her to help is to sign up to be able to read other peoples information. I myself have signed up for a few sites to help a friend look for a connection with someone. Hell, my gf at the time even helped out.

Here is what I would do. Have dinner ready for her before she get's home. Then after dinner, open a bottle of wine and go sit in the living room. I know some of you are asking why? Well, on a full stomach and after a glass of wine or two, she'll be more susceptible to talking without leaving. A full stomach and being tipsy makes you stay in a comfortable position. Ask her if she's happy being with you,. Don's ask her if she's happy with the relationship, ask her specifically if she's happy being with you. If she asks why, just say, you've always wanted to know. Ask her if there's anything that she could change, what would it be. Of course, these two questions alone will get her either worried that there's something wrong, or she's been busted for her "online indiscretions". THEN she will ask what this is all about. Then tell her that when you woke up this morning, you weren't fully awake and went online. Things weren't making sense when you came across a Lavalife and Eharmony profile. Then you realized you were on her profile. Remember, keep your cool!!! Then allow her to tell her side of it.

Remember the most important thing. TALK, don't yell. If it's true, she's been on these sites looking for another person, then give her an ultimatum. If she's not happy being with you, tell you now. If not, you two may need to work on things. You may BOTH need to freshen up the relationship. Relationships sometimes go stale after a few years and need some refreshment everyone once and a while to keep it alive.

We're here for you.

Richter.

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

PICS NOW!! BRO!! **** THIS BITCH LETS SEE?

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

**** that whats the content of the accounts????

[Gettin'r'round]

We're here for you.

Richter.

Dude... Dr. Phil...er Richter??? I don't think giving her a chance to lie her ass off is a good idea, but I've always been one to bail when things don't go my way.

worked out ok so far too.:D

[HoliTheCat]

double post

[HoliTheCat]

Well, you may be jumping to conclusions. She may be signed up at both of these because she's helping a friend out search for a connection. And the only way for her to help is to sign up to be able to read other peoples information. I myself have signed up for a few sites to help a friend look for a connection with someone. Hell, my gf at the time even helped out.

Here is what I would do. Have dinner ready for her before she get's home. Then after dinner, open a bottle of wine and go sit in the living room. I know some of you are asking why? Well, on a full stomach and after a glass of wine or two, she'll be more susceptible to talking without leaving. A full stomach and being tipsy makes you stay in a comfortable position. Ask her if she's happy being with you,. Don's ask her if she's happy with the relationship, ask her specifically if she's happy being with you. If she asks why, just say, you've always wanted to know. Ask her if there's anything that she could change, what would it be. Of course, these two questions alone will get her either worried that there's something wrong, or she's been busted for her "online indiscretions". THEN she will ask what this is all about. Then tell her that when you woke up this morning, you weren't fully awake and went online. Things weren't making sense when you came across a Lavalife and Eharmony profile. Then you realized you were on her profile. Remember, keep your cool!!! Then allow her to tell her side of it.

Remember the most important thing. TALK, don't yell. If it's true, she's been on these sites looking for another person, then give her an ultimatum. If she's not happy being with you, tell you now. If not, you two may need to work on things. You may BOTH need to freshen up the relationship. Relationships sometimes go stale after a few years and need some refreshment everyone once and a while to keep it alive.

We're here for you.

Richter.

Solid. It isn't what I would do. But...good advice...just not the funnest advice. I would go the gimpmask roofie route

[Gettin'r'round]

**** that whats the content of the accounts????

x2

Dammmm did you HAVE to start a conversation on a friday afternoon?? **** I'm going to have to catch up huge on monday...

hope thing work out........



and you are single by monday :D

[HoliTheCat]

x2

Dammmm did you HAVE to start a conversation on a friday afternoon?? **** I'm going to have to catch up huge on monday...

hope thing work out........



and you are single by monday :D

yeah me too. I'm gonna be away from the comp all weekend. weak. this is good shit here.

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

simple bro shes on the sites so if she convinces you it was harmless youll always wonder and doubt the girls keep for you

LETS GET THIS GIRL!!


HOLI!! ILL BRING THE SPIT YOU BRING THE ROOFIES

[Big D]

Dude... Dr. Phil...er Richter??? I don't think giving her a chance to lie her ass off is a good idea, but I've always been one to bail when things don't go my way.

worked out ok so far too.:D

true i think she would lie her ass off

[BritishColumbian]

Thanks for all the advice bros, I am going to
1. Calm down
2. Let the keylogger program get her passwords.
3. Find out exactly whats goin on before I make anymore decicions. She is HOT.
4. Not post her naked pics on this board or anywhere else YET...sry TVG

[waderow]

Thanks for all the advice bros, I am going to
1. Calm down
2. Let the keylogger program get her passwords.
3. Find out exactly whats goin on before I make anymore decicions. She is HOT.
4. Not post her naked pics on this board or anywhere else YET...sry TVG

the keylogger thing is kind of stalkerish bro.

if she found out you were spying on her, and she IS NOT up to anything bad, you're ****ed.

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

Thanks for all the advice bros, I am going to
1. Calm down
2. Let the keylogger program get her passwords.
3. Find out exactly whats goin on before I make anymore decicions. She is HOT.
4. Not post her naked pics on this board or anywhere else YET...sry TVG

Cool bro this is how you have to play it!! COOL!

but dont let the fact the girls hot play a role in you getting ****ed!

was the content on her account bad?

And remember in the end its all about trust!


TVG

[Richter]

Good idea BC. Play it cool.

P.S. If your using firefox, check the password section as Firefox saves passwords.

[BritishColumbian]

was the content on her account bad?
**** YA, It was listing all her qualities and what she is looking for and stuff and the site finds your matches. But heres the thing, she hadnt used the credit card to talk to anyone yet. So maybe she was just looking? I dont know? ****

[BritishColumbian]

I also completely deleted the lavalife one so she is probably going to catch on.

[Ritch]

But heres the thing, she hadnt used the credit card to talk to anyone yet. So maybe she was just looking? I dont know? ****

Aren`t these sites usually free for women?

[Richter]

BC... is her picture on any of these sites? The reason I ask, is when you speak to her, instead of telling her you saw it on your computer profile which might get her back against the wall right away, it might be easier to say a co-worker saw her profile or a friend did. Of course you'd want to talk to one of your single buddies to tell them what's going on to watch your back... imo.

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

was the content on her account bad?
**** YA, It was listing all her qualities and what she is looking for and stuff and the site finds your matches. But heres the thing, she hadnt used the credit card to talk to anyone yet. So maybe she was just looking? I dont know? ****

what i meant was messages from others and ones she sent but...........

[BritishColumbian]

Her pic wasnt posted, and on the Eharmony it said something about paying to send mesages to your matches. I didnt see any mesages sent by her but there was a couple sent to her, I just quickly went throught the lavalife one an found where to delete it, by this time I wasnt thinking clearly. I was Really pissed off, Like Raging ****ing mad, I tried to call her at work on her cell but luckily she doesnt answer unless shes on a break.

[natenator]

:popc

[kloan]

^^haha

dude, ya... some chicks keep their profiles going even when they're in a relationship. i've seen it a lot actually.. especially toronto chicks. it's too bad you freaked out and messed with the accounts, considering they weren't full/active profiles. this is probably something you're gonna have to talk it out with her. that's what i would do anyway.

hey, at least it wasn't ashleymadison.com!

[natenator]

^^haha

dude, ya... some chicks keep their profiles going even when they're in a relationship. i've seen it a lot actually.. especially toronto chicks. it's too bad you freaked out and messed with the accounts, considering they weren't full/active profiles. this is probably something you're gonna have to talk it out with her. that's what i would do anyway.

hey, at least it wasn't ashleymadison.com!
I love that site :D

[AlbertaBeef]

Sounds weird because eharmony and lavalife are at two totally different ends of the scale. I think eharmony is for quality long term relationships and lavalife is just a meat swap.

[natenator]

Sounds weird because eharmony and lavalife are at two totally different ends of the scale. I think eharmony is for quality long term relationships and lavalife is just a meat swap.
nono. that would be plenty of ****s err fish lol

[Mr Ontario]

you must have missed where he said they were together for 4 years :)


^^haha

dude, ya... some chicks keep their profiles going even when they're in a relationship. i've seen it a lot actually.. especially toronto chicks. it's too bad you freaked out and messed with the accounts, considering they weren't full/active profiles. this is probably something you're gonna have to talk it out with her. that's what i would do anyway.

hey, at least it wasn't ashleymadison.com!

[St]

You should have keep the site logged on,and had a talk with here about it.I would have showed here the profile.Sorry that you seen that shit,but hope you can work this out.But i will say this doesn't look good bro, so easy for people to say dump the bitch,when they don't have any feeling for here like you do.

[champcar99]

Me and TVG could roofie her then give her the ol' DP while wearing GIMP masks and post that shit on submityourflicks.com

Just spit ballin'...LMK

I thought you were a chick....how would you DP her if your a girl...lol..

[champcar99]

I would just wait till she got home pull the shit up on the computer ask her WTF..then tell her to pack her ****ING CLOTHES and get the **** out of here now you lieing dirty ****...let her suffer...do not keep her around at all at this point she will be crying her eyes out telling you how sorry she is. (lies lies lies) thats when you go grab a garbage bag and start packing her ****ing clothes in it, then toss it out side..

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

Yeah man its to late to save trust me like i said youll always wonder and things will never be the same



Toss the vile twat and go **** some dirties!!!

[Durk]

Start ****ing other chicks emediately to get her out of your head because this shit is done, and its only gunna get worse.

[BAM]

^^ Nicely put.

[Richter]

I find it extremely entertaining that you guys who know nothing about this man, choose to throw stones at his gf like she's wearing the Scarlet letter A without knowing the facts.

I am however wondering how going out and shagging chicks "immediately" will help him with this?

[oster]

Well, you may be jumping to conclusions. She may be signed up at both of these because she's helping a friend out search for a connection. And the only way for her to help is to sign up to be able to read other peoples information. I myself have signed up for a few sites to help a friend look for a connection with someone. Hell, my gf at the time even helped out.

Here is what I would do. Have dinner ready for her before she get's home. Then after dinner, open a bottle of wine and go sit in the living room. I know some of you are asking why? Well, on a full stomach and after a glass of wine or two, she'll be more susceptible to talking without leaving. A full stomach and being tipsy makes you stay in a comfortable position. Ask her if she's happy being with you,. Don's ask her if she's happy with the relationship, ask her specifically if she's happy being with you. If she asks why, just say, you've always wanted to know. Ask her if there's anything that she could change, what would it be. Of course, these two questions alone will get her either worried that there's something wrong, or she's been busted for her "online indiscretions". THEN she will ask what this is all about. Then tell her that when you woke up this morning, you weren't fully awake and went online. Things weren't making sense when you came across a Lavalife and Eharmony profile. Then you realized you were on her profile. Remember, keep your cool!!! Then allow her to tell her side of it.

Remember the most important thing. TALK, don't yell. If it's true, she's been on these sites looking for another person, then give her an ultimatum. If she's not happy being with you, tell you now. If not, you two may need to work on things. You may BOTH need to freshen up the relationship. Relationships sometimes go stale after a few years and need some refreshment everyone once and a while to keep it alive.

We're here for you.

Richter.

This, very good way to handle the situation...

Been thru something like this before? lol

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

I find it extremely entertaining that you guys who know nothing about this man, choose to throw stones at his gf like she's wearing the Scarlet letter A without knowing the facts.

I am however wondering how going out and shagging chicks "immediately" will help him with this?

**** HER!!!!:troll

[Big D]

nono. that would be plenty of ****s err fish lol

didnt you meet someone on that site ??

[Richter]

**** HER!!!!:troll

If he dumps her I will.... ok I'm sorry... TVG is a bad influence on me. Sorry BC.

[Richter]

This, very good way to handle the situation...

Been thru something like this before? lol

Thankfully not. Just have a good head on my shoulders. Which is why I stay single and just man whore myself out when needed. I get to keep my pension!!

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

ive dinked a few from the fish pond!!

[cdnsoldier]

So my G/f of 4 years gets up early this morning, makes coffee and logs on the computer for 1/2 an hour jumps in the shower and goes to work. I get up a while later grab a coffee and sit down at the PC, OH she's still logged on, Lets have a look at what shes been up to....That ****in Kunt has an acount on Lavalife and eharmony dating sites. I sabatoged the accounts best I could, but what should I do? should I dump that bitch or what? I dont know? Im still kinda in shock....

DON'T GET MAD!!!! DON'T LET HER ON THAT YOU KNOW.

Get as many naked and comprimising pictures as you can. **** her friends, family members etc. Use her for years on end and start looking around.

Save the pics. 2 years after you seperate have fun.

Play it cool. Now you know she's not loyal so you don't care right? So ave fun.

[Houstonbc]

this might be premature here but in case everything goes bad ill give you some great advice I gave another board member here.

**** her sister, **** her mother, **** her best friend, **** her grandmother

[Houstonbc]

that will be the start of the "healing process"

[guest1]

this might be premature here but in case everything goes bad ill give you some great advice I gave another board member here.

**** her sister, **** her mother, **** her best friend, **** her grandmother

Good call , and may I add , hate **** her ass till it bleeds ?

[tex]

I'm with TVG...spit on her.....

[Dozer1980]

shit bro sorry to hear the bad news i would f--ing lose it if that was me the mother daughter all her friends ****ing sounds like a good start though.

[Big D]

soo whats the deal did you talk to her ?

[BritishColumbian]

She knows something is up, I slept on the couch and were not talking much. she didnt get home till late, out drinkin with her girls. I dont know. Im off to the gym to mack on that hottie that works there

[natenator]

:popc

[BritishColumbian]

the sooner Im outta here the sooner shes going to get on here and do her thing!

[cdnsoldier]

the sooner Im outta here the sooner shes going to get on here and do her thing!

You should install a Key Logger. SSpro is awesome and not expensive. I love that program for catching wandering eyes...or should I say wandering fingers.

[natenator]

You should install a Key Logger. SSpro is awesome and not expensive. I love that program for catching wandering eyes...or should I say wandering fingers.
have you read any part of this thread or jumped on the name-calling bandwagon?

[waderow]

why guess and drive your self nuts... talk to her about it bro. no need to spy n shit.

[natenator]

why guess and drive your self nuts... talk to her about it bro. no need to spy n shit.
Agree. Be a man about it.

[piller01]

why guess and drive your self nuts... talk to her about it bro. no need to spy n shit.

follow this advice or you will drive your self crazy trust us....

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

yeah all the plans r done now **** it go talk with her about it
dont let her tell you its nothing
IT AINT NOTHING!!!

[Gettin'r'round]

You should install a Key Logger. SSpro is awesome and not expensive. I love that program for catching wandering eyes...or should I say wandering fingers.

someone's been skipping pages!!! tisk tisk...:ne

[HoliTheCat]

Worst advice.

I can't believe someone gave me negative rep for this. haha. :(

[natenator]

I can't believe someone gave me negative rep for this. haha. :(
Prob BAM. He's a bit of a **** around here...

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

how do i find out my rep stuff?

[Van Zan]

UserCP sunshine...

[St]

why guess and drive your self nuts... talk to her about it bro. no need to spy n shit.


Ya you need to talk with here.

[Richter]

I can't believe someone gave me negative rep for this. haha. :(

Not I sir. You are familia!!

I should however say thanks to those who are giving positive reps for my Dr. Phil like advice... hehehe.

Back to things... yes, no more needing to spy or to catch her in the act. You are a man, act like it. Straight up, don't hide it and ask her why she has these profiles. And if she says she's unhappy with you, show her where the door is. She can stay at friends for the rest of the weekend... YOUR NOT GOING ANYWHERE!!! IF she's the cheater here... you stay put!! She can move out.

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

Not I sir. You are familia!!

I should however say thanks to those who are giving positive reps for my Dr. Phil like advice... hehehe.

Back to things... yes, no more needing to spy or to catch her in the act. You are a man, act like it. Straight up, don't hide it and ask her why she has these profiles. And if she says she's unhappy with you, show her where the door is. She can stay at friends for the rest of the weekend... YOUR NOT GOING ANYWHERE!!! IF she's the cheater here... you stay put!! She can move out.

YEAH!

[Gettin'r'round]

I can't believe someone gave me negative rep for this. haha. :(

doesn't the good rep i gave ya the other day overcome the negativnesss? it was unsigned, secret rep. :greet

[Richter]

doesn't the good rep i gave ya the other day overcome the negativnesss? it was unsigned, secret rep. :greet

Actually it wasn't really a rep you gave him the other day, more of a std, a secret one. :moon

[HoliTheCat]

doesn't the good rep i gave ya the other day overcome the negativnesss? it was unsigned, secret rep. :greet

AWw thanks cutie!

for the std...hiv.

[cdnsoldier]

have you read any part of this thread or jumped on the name-calling bandwagon?

Where do you see me calling anyone names? Do you even read before you start acting like a tough guy?

I just gave him the name of a good key logger. Take it easy tough guy.

[natenator]

Where do you see me calling anyone names? Do you even read before you start acting like a tough guy?

I just gave him the name of a good key logger. Take it easy tough guy.
you clearly cannot read as the OP said he already installed a keylogger.

And you're right. You didn't call her names. You jumped on the other childish bandwagon...



DON'T GET MAD!!!! DON'T LET HER ON THAT YOU KNOW.

Get as many naked and comprimising pictures as you can. **** her friends, family members etc. Use her for years on end and start looking around.

Save the pics. 2 years after you seperate have fun.

Play it cool. Now you know she's not loyal so you don't care right? So ave fun.

[cdnsoldier]

you clearly cannot read as the OP said he already installed a keylogger.

And you're right. You didn't call her names. You jumped on the other childish bandwagon...

Her? You read real good.

I didn't call names.I didn't disrespect him. Unlike you I have respect.I don't act like some street punk unlike "others".I just recommended a good Keylogger. Don't know what your going around yapping about but you don't seem to bright so I don't really argue with reatrds. Whatever "Natie". You sure you not using that estrogen mix?

[natenator]

Her? You read real good.

I didn't call names.I didn't disrespect him. Unlike you I have respect.I don't act like some street punk unlike "others".I just recommended a good Keylogger. Don't know what your going around yapping about but you don't seem to bright so I don't really argue with reatrds. Whatever "Natie". You sure you not using that estrogen mix?
reatrds?

blahahaha

[cdnsoldier]

reatrds?

blahahaha

Nooo.....I said retards. :tu

[BAM]

Prob BAM. He's a bit of a **** around here...

Really.. I thought I was the dick and you were the ****.

[natenator]

Really.. I thought I was the dick and you were the ****.
nono. You are wrong. I'm the peckerhead remember?

[Richter]

:popc

[HoliTheCat]

:popc

Ditto.

[spitfire]

um, give us her handle on lavalife and we'll test her out to see if she's playing the field.

[canadianmuscle0803]

wow, been together 4 yrs and shes on dating sites, maybe its time to sit her down and see whats goin on, either way thats a not a good sign.

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

Ditto.

ditto ditto:popc

[Beachmuscle]

Wait on the keylogger... in the meantime start lining up some hotties. Your relationship sounds "compromised".

I would think it's over, but in the meantime **** with her head... treat her great, get all set up to drop the bomb for when she comes home to her shit in garbage bags on the front steps.

[HardtoHandle]

So much drama in this thread....worse than woman.

Take it like some of us have; with dignity. Why torture yourself cruising the date sites anyways.

I do agree with talking with her...and confronting the situation calmly and in an adult manner.
I don't think this situation is being misconstrued. I believe there is intention here to cheat.
Decide how you feel about that. Trust has been broken here; and it's a very difficult value to get back.

Whatever the decision; you probably already know what that is.

Good luck...big hugs!

[69challenger]

So much drama in this thread....worse than woman.

Take it like some of us have; with dignity. Why torture yourself cruising the date sites anyways.

I do agree with talking with her...and confronting the situation calmly and in an adult manner.
I don't think this situation is being misconstrued. I believe there is intention here to cheat.
Decide how you feel about that. Trust has been broken here; and it's a very difficult value to get back.

Whatever the decision; you probably already know what that is.

Good luck...big hugs!

great post
x2

[Richter]

BC, we see you hear now... how about an update..... are things ok now and resolved?

[BritishColumbian]

First of all, Thanks for all the advice and stuff! I couldnt get that key logger thing to work properly so a uninstalled it. I sat down with the ol' lady last night and put it on her.
She basicly told me that she did it on purpose to get my attention because I havent been paying enough attention to her. She made a lot of good points about how I havent been doing anything with her or for her lately, basicly I have been a dick. I told her there was way better ways to go about getting my attention!
She deleted her profile, apolagized, and I apolagized for taking her for granted. Butt still, this is really bugging me, IDK wtf to think. Shes very convincing. I dont want to throw this all away over something stupid, I was thinking about smashing the computor with this new axe I bought for splitting firewood...

[waderow]

keep the communication going bro and keep working... relationships take work.... always....from both sides

[BritishColumbian]

Im on cycle right now and Im fairly new to AAS, but I honestly think that it makes me more emotional. When something upsets me, I seem to be overcome and I really have to work at not acting out inappropriately, usually Im a pretty melow guy.

[natenator]

Im on cycle right now and Im fairly new to AAS, but I honestly think that it makes me more emotional. When something upsets me, I seem to be overcome and I really have to work at not acting out inappropriately, usually Im a pretty melow guy.
Sort of the same. In general I have a need to know and understand things and when it comes to relationships that need is amplified for some reason. I wish it wasn't. I wish I just couldn't give a rats ass (I come off like that but in my head I am going postal lol) but sadly that is not the case but the issue is I let is fester and build up causing the mental thoughts to be even worse lol

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

keep the communication going bro and keep working... relationships take work.... always....from both sides

in the end all jokes aside homie ^^^ this right here is truth!


hope all works out well for you and all that good shit!!!

[Richter]

^^^ Big softy^^^

[Big D]

I call bullshit, sounds like she was lying, you gave her a chance to think about a lie to com up with. thats just what I'm thinking, i have trust issues ;)

[natenator]

I call bullshit, sounds like she was lying, you gave her a chance to think about a lie to com up with. thats just what I'm thinking, i have trust issues ;)
same here and I think that too. I guess only he knows for sure

[BAM]

Cut the line... Its a Carp

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

ME? softy?! **** no


**** THAT BITCH !!!LOL

[waderow]

shitty situation

[Durk]

I'd start cheating on her and say "oh I was only trying to get your attention".

[Beachmuscle]

You did the right thing man, but sorry... she's feeding you exactly what you want to hear.

Women are great at this. She put it on your shoulders, it's YOUR fault she did what she did. Why didn't SHE talk to you in a mature manner and bring things to your attention instead of doing what she did?

She's lying, compromised. I'd start looking elsewhere and drop the big bomb on her when you find someone to replace her.

I would tell her flat out "I don't believe you."

She's a player. She can delete her profile, but there is still the old evil text messaging and cell phone calls.

[Richter]

I've done some thinking here about what you've said BC. And what some of the guys have said may be true. She got caught and put the blame on you to avoid getting in shit. There are certain ways to handle liars and cheaters, you just need to know how. Since you already have dealt with things, we're not sure in which manner you did. Such as what questions you asked first, her reactions, her body language. There are many things to determine if she's telling the truth or deflecting it. But what her saying could be true. Have you been treating poorly as of late? Have you been neglecting her? I think I've said it my first post regarding this or perhaps the other fellas post... relationships need work no matter how long it has been. Just "being" with them just doesn't cut it. You need to spice it up like it was your first date. And no, I'm not talking about giving her a "dirty sanchez" like TVG gives, I'm talking about romance!

Dr. Phil, signing out.

[Richter]

Enough said...

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!





id say these bros are right **** this girl man thats no way to get your attention
she is pretty much saying do this or else!!!
**** THAT SHIT!!
or she panic cause she ****ed up and put it all on you
either way shes gulity





things will never be the same anymore cut your loss and toss her in the garbage!
dont waste anymore time with this girl just to find out 4 more years from now TVG was right!!



TVG

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

Enough said...

and yes i would **** for money!!!

[BritishColumbian]

Thanks everyone, this is a decent forum, glad pinhead gave me the link!
Ya , I dont trust her at all anymore, she is a carp and Im cuttin the line, and Im takin my sweet time about it. Things will never be the same, so why bother.

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

Thanks everyone, this is a decent forum, glad pinhead gave me the link!
Ya , I dont trust her at all anymore, she is a carp and Im cuttin the line, and Im takin my sweet time about it. Things will never be the same, so why bother.

shity to have wasted 4 yrs bro butit will be best to cut the losss



TVG

[tex]

better now then after a marriage and a few kids......go bang a few strippers...it helps....thats what i did when the wife and i seperated.....now we back together and she hates mexican strippers :)

[Gettin'r'round]

Thanks everyone, this is a decent forum, glad pinhead gave me the link!
Ya , I dont trust her at all anymore, she is a carp and Im cuttin the line, and Im takin my sweet time about it. Things will never be the same, so why bother.

I was going to say give it a few weeks and see how you feel. Oh and also snoop as much as possible (credit card bill, cell phone bills etc). But in reality there is no marriage and kids just 4 lost years...so I say start over.

Keep this in mind too.->

Let's say you stick it out, get married and have some kids. If this is her way of getting attention wait until kids become your life. If she thinks you might be ignoring her now... look out, life changes drastically and becomes much less interesting when it's diaper changing time, feeding time, getting no sleep time etc. She will doing more than just looking for someone else sooner than you know it.

[natenator]

I was going to say give it a few weeks and see how you feel. Oh and also snoop as much as possible (credit card bill, cell phone bills etc). But in reality there is no marriage and kids just 4 lost years...so I say start over.

Keep this in mind too.->

Let's say you stick it out, get married and have some kids. If this is her way of getting attention wait until kids become your life. If she thinks you might be ignoring her now... look out, life changes drastically and becomes much less interesting when it's diaper changing time, feeding time, getting no sleep time etc. She will doing more than just looking for someone else sooner than you know it.
hold up dude. Let's not go so far as to say that. I would ask how old he/she is because age plays a part in this too. If early 20's then I'd say this type of behavior is common and how we react to a situation in our early 20's is not likely to be the same when in our 30's.

Just as the saying goes, once a cheater always a cheater. I've cheated before - once - and was under some pretty stressful circumstances. The woman I was with (long term) understood why it happened. Not happy about it of course but knows she wasn't completely innocent in the situation. Point is, I cheated once in my life and doubt it will happen again because I learned from that mistake and how to deal with issues in a relationship (not unlike BC's situation actually).

Anyway, I'm rambling. I just don't think one action is proof of future actions.

[champcar99]

I sat down with the ol' lady last night and put it on her.
She basicly told me that she did it on purpose to get my attention because I havent been paying enough attention to her. She made a lot of good points about how I havent been doing anything with her or for her lately, basicly I have been a dick. I told her there was way better ways to go about getting my attention!
She deleted her profile, apolagized, and I apolagized for taking her for granted. Butt still, this is really bugging me, IDK wtf to think. Shes very convincing. I dont want to throw this all away over something stupid, I was thinking about smashing the computor with this new axe I bought for splitting firewood...

you fell for the bullshit didn't you..Now you know you can never trust her...wtf did you think she was going to say? .If you didn't find that shit on the computer she would still be on the dating site looking for Mr. Right..going dating telling you, " I am going out with my friends tonight" "going to vist my family" then the old" I was too drunk so I decided to spend the night at my girlfriends" all while getting kissed licked and ****ed by someone else and coming home to you...there are things you get get for your computer that copies every keystroke and password and stores all the information on a hidden file that requires a password that only you know where that file is....
if she had a problem in the first place and went to this measure to get your attention instead of talking it out ...My bet is you will end up getting dumped after she hooks another sucker to believe her shit...

[Gettin'r'round]

hold up dude. Let's not go so far as to say that. I would ask how old he/she is because age plays a part in this too. If early 20's then I'd say this type of behavior is common and how we react to a situation in our early 20's is not likely to be the same when in our 30's.

Just as the saying goes, once a cheater always a cheater. I've cheated before - once - and was under some pretty stressful circumstances. The woman I was with (long term) understood why it happened. Not happy about it of course but knows she wasn't completely innocent in the situation. Point is, I cheated once in my life and doubt it will happen again because I learned from that mistake and how to deal with issues in a relationship (not unlike BC's situation actually).

Anyway, I'm rambling. I just don't think one action is proof of future actions.

I understand what you are saying, but in this case from my understanding is she claiming she is bored/ignored/whatever. If she starts looking around under this trivial circumstance, not good, not good at all. My point was that adding kids/marriage to the mix with this woman is asking for trouble.

Your experience had extraneous circumstances if I read you correctly.

[Big D]

you fell for the bullshit didn't you..Now you know you can never trust her...wtf did you think she was going to say? .If you didn't find that shit on the computer she would still be on the dating site looking for Mr. Right..going dating telling you, " I am going out with my friends tonight" "going to vist my family" then the old" I was too drunk so I decided to spend the night at my girlfriends" all while getting kissed licked and ****ed by someone else and coming home to you...there are things you get get for your computer that copies every keystroke and password and stores all the information on a hidden file that requires a password that only you know where that file is....
if she had a problem in the first place and went to this measure to get your attention instead of talking it out ...My bet is you will end up getting dumped after she hooks another sucker to believe her shit...

yep i agree, thats exactly what I was thinking