Anyone ever fall in love over the internet?

[Testa]

Well I never understood how this happens to people. But now it has happened to me. I really am in love with this girl who I met over the internet she I beleave is my soul mate who I am supposed to be with. I swear she was made just for me.We have been chatting via webcam for like 7 months now. She tells me she loves me all the time. I know that we both want to be together.
But the problem is it's all so comlicated she is married with kids,I'm married with a 6 month old daugter. I love my daugter with all my heart and my wife and I have had so many problems, I don't think I am in love with her anymore and I know for a fact if it wasn't for my daugter we wouldn't be with each other right now.Also It doesn't help matters that she lives 2000km away in the usa. And so yes I have never accually layed next to her yet so maybe I sound like I'm a little crazy but this is how I feel.
When I got married I never beleaved in devorice noone in my family has ever been devoriced. But I really think I married to soon I think it was a mistake I guess I figured everthing would iron itself out. I think I am to much of an optimist at times. There were always problems beween us.
I'm just real confussed as to what I should do.

[waderow]

counselor dude. for real. go talk to one about this to get some light shed on shit.

[pinhead]

You are headed down a painful road. Be sure of yourself before you meet and start a relationship with the other one. What price are you willing to pay?

[Testa]

You are headed down a painful road. Be sure of yourself before you meet and start a relationship with the other one. What price are you willing to pay?

I know, that is what scares me !

[420]

The relationship has already started. You guys been talkin for 7 months now. I say follow the Love man. All you need is love.

[Ritch]

Holy shit dude. Would you still love your wife if you never met her? If so, forget her. There will always be other women that seem better, sexier and just more appealing. Also what the hell are you doing chatting with other women like that on the internet? That to me is being unfaithfull. If it`s a friend you already have, that`s cool but going out and trying to meet people is wrong in my view. Say you did get together with her, this means you loose half your shit to you soon to be ex wife and life gets complicated.

Also talking to someone and being with someone is different. What if you just don`t like how she`s in bed? Or don`t like the way she smells? (I`m talking pheromones here...) Forget about her, stop this internet chatting bullshit and get on with your wife and kids.

That`s my advice and yeah, counselor dude...

[Ritch]

The relationship has already started. You guys been talkin for 7 months now. I say follow the Love man. All you need is love.

That`s hippie talk! You blazing right now mr 420?

[Testa]

Holy shit dude. Would you still love your wife if you never met her? If so, forget her. There will always be other women that seem better, sexier and just more appealing. Also what the hell are you doing chatting with other women like that on the internet? That to me is being unfaithfull. If it`s a friend you already have, that`s cool but going out and trying to meet people is wrong in my view. Say you did get together with her, this means you loose half your shit to you soon to be ex wife and life gets complicated.

Also talking to someone and being with someone is different. What if you just don`t like how she`s in bed? Or don`t like the way she smells? (I`m talking pheromones here...) Forget about her, stop this internet chatting bullshit and get on with your wife and kids.

That`s my advice and yeah, counselor dude...

I don't know, Yes your right it is being unfaithful and I did not mean for this to happen I wasn't looking to meet anyone It just sort of happened. About the the other stuff your right it's crazy talk I havn't even been with her in person.

[pinhead]

Take the image of being a martyr out of your head. The sacrifice for love and all that stuff. I speak from experience on this bro. Pull yourself away from the situation, take a breather and make sure you can think straight. Once you can, then make your decision. And once it's made, be ready to pay the price. If you choose to stay with your wife, forget this woman and never make contact again. If you want to be with her, say goodbye to your wife BEFORE you take that step. She deserves at least not to be physically cheated on. As pointed out, you've already cheated and betrayed her trust. Don't hurt her more until you decide. You both have children involved and they will be hurt too. Be ready for that.

[420]

^ ya good call man. Dont cheat on your wife.

haha and Ritch Im a ****en hippie man, i wish i was baked now but im not hahaha.

"All you need is love" - The Beatles

[Mr Ontario]

Hard to say, if your not happy then get out of the relationship, but be prepared to pay for sure....child support a whole list of cost involve when you separate.

[turboturist]

Holy shit dude. Would you still love your wife if you never met her? If so, forget her. There will always be other women that seem better, sexier and just more appealing. Also what the hell are you doing chatting with other women like that on the internet? That to me is being unfaithfull. If it`s a friend you already have, that`s cool but going out and trying to meet people is wrong in my view. Say you did get together with her, this means you loose half your shit to you soon to be ex wife and life gets complicated.

Also talking to someone and being with someone is different. What if you just don`t like how she`s in bed? Or don`t like the way she smells? (I`m talking pheromones here...) Forget about her, stop this internet chatting bullshit and get on with your wife and kids.

That`s my advice and yeah, counselor dude...

+1

[turboturist]

If you go out and "plan to cheat" on your wife your a dirt bag IMO. If the relationship is that bad then get out of it.

People say they stay together for the kid/s but it does nothing but **** them up more. If your marriage is in turmoil your kids are growing up thinking that is a normal relationship and do nothing when they are in a shitty one.

If you really think your marriage is in the shitter end it while you can still be civil to each other, and be adults and not act like revengeful dicks. At least your child will learn you to do things in a grown up manner. JM2C

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

i met my women 6 years ago online in a msn chat room we now have a kid 2 snakes a couple dogs and will be married next year!:yeahlol

[Testa]

i met my women 6 years ago online in a msn chat room we now have a kid 2 snakes a couple dogs and will be married next year!:yeahlol

That great I am happy for you 2. Was it a long distance thing for a while?

[8heyzeus4]

I had a long distance internet relationship once, only 300kms. I loved the chick but it was just way to complicated. The sooner I realized that it wouldnt work and broke contact from her sooner I began the healing process and became a better person for the experience. dude I thought 300kms was bad. thats only 3 hours. **** 2000kms and a whole other country!!

[HardtoHandle]

This is a tough one. I agree with Waderow...you need counselling. But, at first; on your own. You need to figure out why you felt the need to seek someone over the internet or not. Whether you feel it "just happened"; there is something your missing in your life for you to open yourself up to some stranger over the net you've never met. A fantasy is being lived here and you need to understand why. This goes deeper than just a woman over the internet.
You have turmoil at home; and of course this pushes you away; so your seeking in someone else what your missing at home.

Than with counselling you can decided what your next step should be.
1) You need to end this on line relationship with this woman now. You need to clear your head with what your life needs and you can't start that with outside factors keeping you confused.
2) Start being honest with yourself and your wife! After all; she still is a human being and deserves the respect owed to her.
3) Quit being selfish and start thinking about the loved ones your involving here. This isn't going to just turn your world upside down; but everyone around you as well.
4) Face this with reality! It will probably never happen that you'll end up with this woman.

This is all just my opinion...speaking from a woman's perspective and from someone....who has been in this situation previously. I would have appreciated some honesty....it goes a long way.

Best of Luck

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

That great I am happy for you 2. Was it a long distance thing for a while?

Yes it was. Then she moved to calgary with me. Knocked her up! So we moved to her hometown. Because she has alot of family here. And there italian. So his upbrining will be tight family.

[the-vanilla-gorilla]

That great I am happy for you 2. Was it a long distance thing for a while?

THANKS BY WAY!

[69challenger]

People say they stay together for the kid/s but it does nothing but **** them up more. If your marriage is in turmoil your kids are growing up thinking that is a normal relationship and do nothing when they are in a shitty one.

If you really think your marriage is in the shitter end it while you can still be civil to each other, and be adults and not act like revengeful dicks. At least your child will learn you to do things in a grown up manner. JM2C


i agree

[Bowlcut]

The way I see it you have committed to one lady in your life so there is no room to violate that trust with her.

It would be different if you were just dating somebody but not at this stage in the relationship.

[HoliTheCat]

What you need is some holi help. Gimme 30 minutes to finish my pizza.

[kawikaratekid]

If you decide to do this regardless of how it turns out it will cost you at least $500 a month for the next seventeen years. That will run you about $100,000. If dollars and cents don't hit home think about what your peers and family are going to think. Think of all the walls that may come crashing down because of some girl you met on the internet that may be your soul mate. Who knows it may work out and be a really positive experience and the only thing that may happen is it costing you $100,000. Oh yeah forgot to mention all the other things that you'll have to chip in on like extra curricular activities, post secondary education, and a wedding. Maybe you should just call it an even $150,000.

[kawikaratekid]

Did things begin to change when you began to fall for this lady?

[HoliTheCat]

First off, as I state above, the following is my opinion on your situation, as well as marriage and happiness in general.

Alright, let us assume (assumption 1) that you do not believe in reincarnation (cuz obviously that would make you ****en' retarded and no one could help you :D) and that you and I both agree that a person only ever has 1 life. Right, ONE LIFE. One opportunity to experience all you can fit in, one opportunity to try and be as happy as humanly possible.

Let us also make the assumption that if you are making decisions to be happy and to live a 'full' life that often others may or may not be hurt in the process. And we will also assume that just because you make a decision to be happy it does not mean you will end up so. You could possibly make the wrong decision.

Let us also agree on the obvious fact that the whole institution of marriage is biologically ridiculous and is in fact an emotional female tactic to ruin the male life.

Oh, and also let us acknowledge the fact that this NEW female is a conniving venomous snake (which is made clear to us by the fact that she has 2 kids and is ignoring her maternal instinct to cyber-cheat with you. She is also obviously some sort of jedi mindtrick master.

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Alright, since we have established assumption 1, it is clear that you should do what makes you happy. And in order to be happy you have to take all the info that you have today to make the best decision for tomorrow. This decision might turn out to be the wrong one. But you can deal with that when the time comes.

Assumption 2 means someone is going to get hurt. Deal with it. Be a man and stop whining about it. They will live.

Point 3/4 is - if you get married again you are a **** up. You should learn from this experience that marriage is the fail. Also, note the women you are marrying can clearly not be trusted. Nice work picking this new one. She has two kids, husband, house, etc and she is on the internet geeking out with you instead of being with her family. Winner.


This message has been brought to you by Holithecat. It is clear I started to get distracted halfway through and I apologize for losing my train of thought. The whole point is this.

Do what makes you happy. Understand that when you act in a selfish manner (I am not saying that that is a bad thing as we only have one life) someone will always get hurt. Also remember what makes you happy today might not make you happy in 6 months, 1 year, or 10 years. And you might go through this all over again That is fine. That is life.

You're welcome.

[Testa]

Did things begin to change when you began to fall for this lady?

Ah no in fact things were never great in fact it has gotton better since we had a child but consider the fact that I'v well been engaugeing in this that whole time to be honest we really should never been married in first place I guess I was in a point in my life that I just wanted to get along with things. Should have waited I guess but didn't.

[Testa]

First off, as I state above, the following is my opinion on your situation, as well as marriage and happiness in general.

Alright, let us assume (assumption 1) that you do not believe in reincarnation (cuz obviously that would make you ****en' retarded and no one could help you :D) and that you and I both agree that a person only ever has 1 life. Right, ONE LIFE. One opportunity to experience all you can fit in, one opportunity to try and be as happy as humanly possible.

Let us also make the assumption that if you are making decisions to be happy and to live a 'full' life that often others may or may not be hurt in the process. And we will also assume that just because you make a decision to be happy it does not mean you will end up so. You could possibly make the wrong decision.

Let us also agree on the obvious fact that the whole institution of marriage is biologically ridiculous and is in fact an emotional female tactic to ruin the male life.

Oh, and also let us acknowledge the fact that this NEW female is a conniving venomous snake (which is made clear to us by the fact that she has 2 kids and is ignoring her maternal instinct to cyber-cheat with you. She is also obviously some sort of jedi mindtrick master.

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Alright, since we have established assumption 1, it is clear that you should do what makes you happy. And in order to be happy you have to take all the info that you have today to make the best decision for tomorrow. This decision might turn out to be the wrong one. But you can deal with that when the time comes.

Assumption 2 means someone is going to get hurt. Deal with it. Be a man and stop whining about it. They will live.

Point 3/4 is - if you get married again you are a **** up. You should learn from this experience that marriage is the fail. Also, note the women you are marrying can clearly not be trusted. Nice work picking this new one. She has two kids, husband, house, etc and she is on the internet geeking out with you instead of being with her family. Winner.


This message has been brought to you by Holithecat. It is clear I started to get distracted halfway through and I apologize for losing my train of thought. The whole point is this.

Do what makes you happy. Understand that when you act in a selfish manner (I am not saying that that is a bad thing as we only have one life) someone will always get hurt. Also remember what makes you happy today might not make you happy in 6 months, 1 year, or 10 years. And you might go through this all over again That is fine. That is life.

You're welcome.

Wow holisex you sure do have some opinions on this.
The fact is I really don't want to hurt anyone. If I was that selfish and didn't care about hurting the women in my life then I would be somewhere else right now. I'm thinking there is no cut and dryed right disision. I guess I kind of owe it to my family to try and make it work.Weather it does or not. And maybe I could use some counseling too.

[pinhead]

If you're going to give your family a shot, then cut ALL communication with the other woman. It's the only way you give your family a fair shot. If you can't do that, you will take it to the next level one day.

[St]

Here is the plan...

Team Holi Flex style

1.Find her
2.Feel her
3.Fuk her
4.Forget her.

[pinhead]

here = her?

[HoliTheCat]

Here is the plan...

Team Holi Flex style

1.Find here
2.Feel here
3.Fuk here
4.Forget here.

Perfect.

[Testa]

see I really did want to at least do the first 3 lol

[BDH]

10 years ago, I met a bikini model on ICQ... she was engaged with 2 kids... and, she lived in California...

After dozens of flights back and forth for both of us, we decided that we were right for each other... we scheduled a wedding and I moved down there... after 3 weeks, I was sent home by INS...

We are still in contact to this day...

I say as long as you know your marriage is screwed, stay in touch with the new one... just dont act on it until things are finalized with a divorce... then, meet her and see how things go... it would suck passing up someone that seems to make you happy, but you DO have responsibilities already that would definitely complicate your life if you dont handle them first...

Best of luck...

[faller]

I'd add something here, you know some life altering advice from someone who has been married for 31 years. But i just finished haveing an all out ****ing argument with her so anything i say now would not be in your best interest!! :mad::mad:

[warlock]

Is it possible that this is love?
Yes.

Yes it possible that you get along because you have similar problems and need attention and more emotional attachment in your life?
Yes.

But there is only one way to know: being together.

Being a father and a husband are 2 different things.

Always be honest and respectful.

Tell to the other woman to go and figure out her life and you do the same.

You both should be honest and respectful with your partners in that process but there is no need for them to know that there is an hypothetical cyber love in the equation.

After both of you have decided what your futures will be in relationship to you marriages them you can decide if you can give a shot to this relationship.

As a rule of thumb I'd never get together with someone that I met under these circumstances for a very simple reason: If it starts with bad blood it is very likely it will not end up well.

You two may very well not be douchebags, but surely you are behaving like them (no intention to offend even though my words are harsh).

Good luck

Ps. It takes much more than love in order to have a real relationship

[slick rick]

I'm not going to preach to you about the morals of being married and such. I honestly think it impossible to fall in love over the internet. I totally think that you can get highly infactuated with someone but love, c'mon, you haven't met her, spent time with her other than looking at her tits through a computer screen, and probably found a common thread in bitching about your spouses ect.

But dude.. your wife just had a baby..she's probably not feeling sexxy..tired ect..you're no longer the 1st priority for her. i went through this 4 times and I'll be the first to tell you it can really suck. In my case I knew that we would reconnect once life settled down some and things are better now than ever. Think about what you could be giving up to meet someone that may be bust in 3 weeks of being together like in hammers example.


Everybody wants to be happy, some people find it, others never find it and are always unsatisfied and feel there is something more to life. Think about what you really want, you will getcaught eventually, it's a given. Either end it before you get in deeper or be prepared for the consequence. Don't do the crime if you can't do the time. Good luck bro.

[Felinecougar]

I don't know........in the last 19 yrs he was so not here for me during our marriage. I had my daughter and we went on to have 2 of our own. He put so many other things ahead of our lifes..including our sex life. I am not new to the internet. I found comfort over the years in others on line..but i knew it was just that. Someone to share time with, who understood me and cared enough to listen.

But after being with x for 25 yrs I know..little things can urk me..his way of shuffling his feet, they way he leaves used kleenex and already chewed gum on top of the fridge. They way he never flushes the toilet. How he does not see reason to shower unless it's Sat night. How he would rather watch Dog the Bounty hunter instead of eat dinner with us as a family.

Till you have spent real life with her, your in dream land...denial. What seems greener on the other side of the fence is not so flowery after all.

I know there are some couples on here who have been in your shoes and have made a go of it together....lets hope they answer back.

[Testa]

I don't know........in the last 19 yrs he was so not here for me during our marriage. I had my daughter and we went on to have 2 of our own. He put so many other things ahead of our lifes..including our sex life. I am not new to the internet. I found comfort over the years in others on line..but i knew it was just that. Someone to share time with, who understood me and cared enough to listen.

But after being with x for 25 yrs I know..little things can urk me..his way of shuffling his feet, they way he leaves used kleenex and already chewed gum on top of the fridge. They way he never flushes the toilet. How he does not see reason to shower unless it's Sat night. How he would rather watch Dog the Bounty hunter instead of eat dinner with us as a family.

Till you have spent real life with her, your in dream land...denial. What seems greener on the other side of the fence is not so flowery after all.

I know there are some couples on here who have been in your shoes and have made a go of it together....lets hope they answer back.

You are right till I have spent real life with her it's really an unknown.
Lol Feline I hear you on that stuff that erks you I wouldn't like that stuff either. But you know I think there are little thing that erk everyone in every relationship. A couple come too mind right now accually, lol

[Testa]

Thankyou for all your insight unfortunatly I'm just as confused as I was when I posted it.

[turboturist]

If you decide to do this regardless of how it turns out it will cost you at least $500 a month for the next seventeen years. That will run you about $100,000. If dollars and cents don't hit home think about what your peers and family are going to think. Think of all the walls that may come crashing down because of some girl you met on the internet that may be your soul mate. Who knows it may work out and be a really positive experience and the only thing that may happen is it costing you $100,000. Oh yeah forgot to mention all the other things that you'll have to chip in on like extra curricular activities, post secondary education, and a wedding. Maybe you should just call it an even $150,000.

This is absolutely one of the most retarded posts I have even seen.

Because if he stays at home in an unhappy marrage the child will cost him nothing, jesus christ.....

[Testa]

There is much more to all sides of this storey but I dougt anyone here want to hear about it.

[pinhead]

Take time away from the other woman bro. Clear your head and make a clear decision. Keeping constant contact will only feed that flame you started. Don't say goodbye but just take a few weeks to clear your head and see how you feel.

[turboturist]

There is much more to all sides of this storey but I dougt anyone here want to hear about it.

Really man if no one wanted to hear about it or was not interested in it they would not read the thread, so if it may help you then spill it.


Take time away from the other woman bro. Clear your head and make a clear decision. Keeping constant contact will only feed that flame you started. Don't say goodbye but just take a few weeks to clear your head and see how you feel.

Good place to start before you do something you will regret.

[Big D]

There is much more to all sides of this storey but I dougt anyone here want to hear about it.

let it out buddy, everyones here for you. theres alot of people here with great advice.

[natenator]

let it out buddy, everyones here for you. theres alot of people here with great advice.
shout, shout, let it all out...

[Testa]

Geez I don't even know where to start.

[turboturist]

Some big flags for me stick out here in a couple posts.


we really should never been married in first place

Read your own words bro.


The fact is I really don't want to hurt anyone. If I was that selfish and didn't care about hurting the women in my life then I would be somewhere else right now. I guess I kind of owe it to my family to try and make it work.

1. The fact is you are already hurting your wife, she just does not know it yet. Think how much it will hurt her if she finds out. Because unless you end the cyber stuff she will find out sooner or later.
2. The longer you stay in a unhealthy relationship the more time your wasting. You, your wife and your child all deserve to be able to move on and try to have happy lifes, if you truly dont think it will work than man up and do the right thing.
3. You cant "make it work" you either have the feelings or you dont, you cant make your self feel a certain way about someone.

EDIT: You can, and have to work at a serious long term relationship, but as said above you can't make it work.

[Testa]

Well I guess I could just start at where it is right now. Her husband knows about us he has really since the start. In my opinion he's a real sick **** but I'm not going to get into that right now. At first he was alright with her talking to me. But As he saw her develope feelings for me he wanted it to stop. So over this 7 months or so she has told him she hasn't been talking to me well at least 3 or 4 times. She has even tryed to stop it herself but each time she just can't stay away there is like a magnitizum there. Anyway she gets busted many times and always says we arn't talking anymore meanwhile we are. So the last time He gave her an ultimadum end it or divorce. We had talked about it and I'm sure that she would have left him had I been willing but 1 I am afraid of hurting my family and 2 I have never been with her in person. So as of right now we arn't talking it's been 2 days but I'm sure that this magnitizum will pull us together again.

[AlbertaBeef]

It's too bad we live in such an easy come easy go disposable society because it just adds to the moral decay that ultimately manifests itself in the break down of the family unit and they wonder why there are so many delinquent kids out there....No Respect. Something that used to be sacred and something to die for is put far too low on the priority list. People are always searching to have their cup to be filled, most do it by people, places or things and you chose people or another relationship. You need to make things work with your wife, love is not the warm and fuzzies forever love is a DECISION! A decision that your wife deserves and that you promised her when you were married. I don't care how big you are, how much money you have, the guy I respect is the one with integrity and the balls to do what he said he would do and not back out when it's not what all rosy.

[Testa]

It's too bad we live in such an easy come easy go disposable society because it just adds to the moral decay that ultimately manifests itself in the break down of the family unit and they wonder why there are so many delinquent kids out there....No Respect. Something that used to be sacred and something to die for is put far too low on the priority list. People are always searching to have their cup to be filled, most do it by people, places or things and you chose people or another relationship. You need to make things work with your wife, love is not the warm and fuzzies forever love is a DECISION! A decision that your wife deserves and that you promised her when you were married. I don't care how big you are, how much money you have, the guy I respect is the one with integrity and the balls to do what he said he would do and not back out when it's not what all rosy.

I agree with everthing you said. I feel the same way about our society. I was never that guy before I was always the one who stuck to his word and followed through on it. But sometimes I think you can make a mistake, I think I made a mistake. Now should I live with it forever at all costs?

[faller]

It's too bad we live in such an easy come easy go disposable society because it just adds to the moral decay that ultimately manifests itself in the break down of the family unit and they wonder why there are so many delinquent kids out there....No Respect. Something that used to be sacred and something to die for is put far too low on the priority list. People are always searching to have their cup to be filled, most do it by people, places or things and you chose people or another relationship. You need to make things work with your wife, love is not the warm and fuzzies forever love is a DECISION! A decision that your wife deserves and that you promised her when you were married. I don't care how big you are, how much money you have, the guy I respect is the one with integrity and the balls to do what he said he would do and not back out when it's not what all rosy.


Nicely said bro!! I've been married for 31 years and it hasn't been a bed of rose's the whole time either. If it was just you and your wife than hell ya move on, whatever. But when kids come into the picture than i say grab a pair ball's and quit your ****ing sniveling!

[Big D]

its not worth being unhappy the rest of your life, hows your wife is she happy ???

[Testa]

its not worth being unhappy the rest of your life, hows your wife is she happy ???
It depends on what day you ask her. Many many times she has said she wanted to or was going to leave me.

[Ritch]

It depends on what day you ask her. Many many times she has said she wanted to or was going to leave me.

Now it`s getting complicated.

[69challenger]

It depends on what day you ask her. Many many times she has said she wanted to or was going to leave me.

Did she say this before the baby, or could it be that she is just tired and overwhelmed since having the baby?

[Testa]

Did she say this before the baby, or could it be that she is just tired and overwhelmed since having the baby?

Since the day we met really. Like I said earlyer it has accually gotton better since the Baby.

[Testa]

Anyone here ever been Blinded by good sex? Well that was me. When i met her she was into drugs which I put a stop to imidiatly but she was also an alcohoic which continued up until she got pregnant. Which really has made a big difference.

[69challenger]

Can I ask how long you guys were together before you got married?

[Testa]

1 year. andwell my life has not been a smooth one and I was just at a point that I wanted a family and to get on with it and it seems like at all costs. I know I was stupid. But she wanted a baby and I figured it could solve a lot of problems ( I know I was stupid) so I though I'd do it right and marry her. See I always think I can just fix anything. Mechanical yes but I now know women are not quite that easy to fix lol

[69challenger]

K, maybe you did rush into it and now that the "good sex" is gone, you are not happy. I think you should cut all ties with cyberlove and figure things out between you and your wife. Maybe you can work things out, maybe not. Point is, carrying on the relationship with the other woman makes you a cheater and will only complicate things more....

[Ritch]

^^^ You`ve been giving some really good advice here!

[Richter]

My internet love story would not compare to yours in any way. We were both single yet we lived a province apart. She was and is the most amazing woman I've ever met and was honored to know her and her family. Needless to say it ended years ago.

I know I'm new here but you obviously want the advice of others or you wouldn't have posted about your situation. So here I go with what I would do.

1. However you're communicating with this women (email, MSN, ICQ, Yahoo or what have you).... END IT TONIGHT!!! When you speak with her this evening, start the conversation with " (name), I'm sorry but this has to end right here, right now. This is the hardest thing for me to do, but for the both of us, family comes first. It has to end now. Our friendship will be missed, but I value my family first and foremost!". Then end communication. Don't pause and wait for a response, sign out! If it's an instant chat program you are using, email all your friends and tell them you are no longer using that email address/instant message address due to too much spam. (On a side note: to help you with that, send me your email address/chat program info and passwords and I'll change it so you could never use those accounts again!!) It takes a lot for a complete stranger to help someone else he/she does not know but from one brother to another, you know it has to be done. As well, save ONLY the important things on your computer like pictures, videos/music and such (not of your internet mistress either!!), and reformat your computer from scratch!! ERASE EVERYTHING, EVERYTHING!!

2. If you have access to getting counseling, I would.. no, WE as members of the CB boards strongly suggest you get professional help with this. It's always nice to chat with your "online" friends but since none of us have a licensed degree in Physiology, seek a professional! If your worried about your wife finding out, not to worry. IF she finds out, tell her that YES, you are seeking counseling because you fear that you are failing her as a husband and are making every effort to be the man/husband who she married. And if she asks what makes you feel that your failing at, tell her that you see too many marriages fail for all reasons and that you don't want to make the same mistakes. This will assure her that your dedicated to the marriage and will also help her feel more secure in your marriage after having YOUR child.

3. This part you may not like or find offensive, for that, blame Holi! MAN THE FUK UP!!! You made a vow to your wife for life! You made a vow to God above to honor this woman for better or for worse, richer or poor, sickness and health. Now for better or for worse, take these words to heart and MAN UP! You've cheated on your wife and should be ashamed of yourself. Unbeknown to your 6 month old, you've cheated on her as well. Now, set up an appointment at the local photographer and surprise your wife with a "Family" picture. Print several copies! Place pictures everywhere! Your car, work, locker, screen saver, wallpaper, wallet ect. And next time you feel like thinking of cheating again, look at this picture and realize how fuking lucky you are to have a woman who actually wanted to marry you and how lucky you are to have a beautiful healthy child. You've been blessed with something not everyone has and would do anything for. After all this has been done, secretly ask her parents or yours to babysit this Saturday night. Take your wife to a nice dinner and then back to a pre-arranged hotel room with a jacuzzi. (Rose peddles on the bed, a bottle of something nice and a card on the bed thanking her for being your wife and having your child).

There, here is an opinion you asked for. Take it for what it's worth brother. I wish your family the best.