What is the toughest decision you've ever had to make?

[Born2Juice4Ever]

Friends,


What has been the toughest decision you've ever had to make?
Whether it be relationship wise, work wise, friendship wise.

I had to make one hard decision relationship related. It has been 3 months now and to date not a minute goes by, or an awakening moment when i am not avalanched with thoughts of, or when I double question my decision.
Why is life so difficult sometimes?

It has to do with breaking up an almost 2 year toxic but so wonderful relationship.
I am on my way out now...and will share mine when I get back here Monday.
On my ways to my girlfriends place...and will be back here at my house Monday.


Be well friends!!!

[icey_boi]

ya life just sucks sometimes bro. and making life altering decisions is az very hard thing to do.
should you go with your gut or your brain? thats the question realy....
when it comes to women i always say chuck her if its even in question at all. there are millions of women out there so why bother with one you evn have to question in the first place is what i always say.

sorry if that does'nt help ya bro.

just my .2c

[Felinecougar]

Seems like everyone makes my decisions for me. I roll with life and what comes my way.

But I often day dream about "what ifs".

[ubcpower]

Mine was basically cutting off cold turkey my group of highschool best friends who i spent every day with from gr 8-gr12. They just refused to grow up and were preoccupied with drinking/partying and immature stuff...if i continued to be around them i would have got into alot of trouble. I feel bad sometimes but i think they undertand i wanted something different.

[Mr Ontario]

Your a smart guy and probably a better person now because of that decision. Hats off to you :)


Mine was basically cutting off cold turkey my group of highschool best friends who i spent every day with from gr 8-gr12. They just refused to grow up and were preoccupied with drinking/partying and immature stuff...if i continued to be around them i would have got into alot of trouble. I feel bad sometimes but i think they undertand i wanted something different.

[AlladdinSane]

I grew up in a cult. Choosing to cut that shit off and re-programming myself was NOT a walk in the park as it meant absolute shunning by ALL friends and family. Because of the rules in place, up to that point I was not allowed to have friends outside of said cult so there was NOBODY to fall back on to talk to or hang out with for a long, long time. I was also pretty stunted socially so making friends wasn't a cake-walk either...

That was pretty tough...

[L3]

paper or plastic

[spankmonkey]

In college I had been dating this girl for about 3 years and we were going to get married. Had made all the plans bought the dress, booked the catering and hotel, the Justice of Peace, etc. The night before I came home at about 1am from out of town, her brides maids were sleeping in the house and my best man was crashed out downstairs. I woke up the bride-to-be and explained I was not ready for marriage and could not go through with it.
Told everyone in the am there had been a change in plans, went for breakfast and went to Penticton Peach Festival to celebrate. We dated for 5 years after until we went our seperate ways. Toughest thing I have had to do to date.

[Born2Juice4Ever]

I grew up in a cult. Choosing to cut that shit off and re-programming myself was NOT a walk in the park as it meant absolute shunning by ALL friends and family. Because of the rules in place, up to that point I was not allowed to have friends outside of said cult so there was NOBODY to fall back on to talk to or hang out with for a long, long time. I was also pretty stunted socially so making friends wasn't a cake-walk either...

That was pretty tough...


You probably had idealism in bedded in you...and those roots must have been tough to discern---the good versus the illogical radical believes...congratulations for making those big decisions. Your success is a reflection of your good character and well being.


Following your heart versus following your brain hu? Life's parabole IMO

Around 3 months ago I had to end a nearly 2 year old relationship with an amazing 49 (almost 50 ) year old wonderdul, bi-polar lady.
It took me many months to have come to agreement and understanding that not all the ups and down were my fault.
A good girlfriend of mine, who was married for 20 years( yes I am 33, but 90% of my friends are mid to late 40s---it is where I find myself comfortable at) told me with detail what she endure, and she even explained to me, everything (WITHOUT KNOWING FROM MY MOUTH) that Liz was putting me through. I.E.:

One minute she loves me to death, then the next minute she wants nothing at all...then hours later she comes back to me with expensive gifts, telling me she can 't be without me...that she had a moment...I lived this for almost 2 years.

Long story short, I truly believe that we are soulmates. We speak the same language, she is an ex-personal trainer, bodybuilder herself...we are identical in so many manners it is astonishing to me.
I am not perfect at all, I am a man, and an imperfect one at best, but **** for months I would question a lot of things.
Over the summer, I needed to put myself to the test and for the first time I broke up with her.
She has been a complete mess. She is pretty well known in the city...people I see tell me that she has gained massive amounts of weight, that she is angry at everything.
I needed to be able to see things from a different prespective, and teh only way I was ever going to achieve this , is by separating myself from her---which I have done.
I can't sleep, I have lost some weight, I am not myself, but deep inside of me I feel relieve that things will be OK and I envision the day when I will have inner peace, and not question the: What if's every single minute that goes by.

In the mean time, I have met this wonderful amazing lady, she is 41 years old, has a very welcoming big family and her friends are into me as well.
She has the most amazing package ever...at the end of the day, I AM NOT bringing any baggage or past history into her life, but I am being myself with her.
My two best friends have met her already and they love her to death...they both say: What took you so long to get rid of the psycho??


The hardest decision that I have made in many many years, has been having to break up with the woman that I love so deeply. Love does not conquer all friends.



B2J

[RagingRandy]

Getting out of that relationship was the best thing you could have done for your self. I won't go into it again, I detailed a similar relationship in another post. But the short story is that once I stopped pandering to her mental health issues and demanded she get help she walked out on me. I find that many people are not looking to change even if that change is for the better.

[Born2Juice4Ever]

Getting out of that relationship was the best thing you could have done for your self. I won't go into it again, I detailed a similar relationship in another post. But the short story is that once I stopped pandering to her mental health issues and demanded she get help she walked out on me. I find that many people are not looking to change even if that change is for the better.

GOOD to see that on this board, I am not the only one who has faced similar grounds.

I almost drunk myself to death early in the year over her...I kept telling my two close bros, that people COULD change and so could she. I kept looking the other way..she kept making me promises.

I lost my own identity...and not to sound too gay at all, but all for her./
I changed so much about ME for her.
I could see that she was trying, but obviously NOT hard enough.
I too suggested drug therapy, that I would cover ALL the costs and absorb them happily, but she fought me hard and long against the idea.

One minute we were having an amazing meal at a super nice restaurant, and she would tell me that she wanted to take that trip down south (that I had been begging her to take with me for months) and the next minute she would tell me that I could take that trip and shove it...I MEAN WTF.
We would have arguments over the illogical little of things.

Anyhow....live and learn.


B2J:bd