need some advice....

[MIAGIONJUS]

so me and my gf had been dating for close to 6 years and her and i had been through soo many things together... we started dating in highschool and pretty much dated all through university doing long distance of about an hour, until she graduated this past apri. By this point we had decided to move in together and had even been looking up places and everything, we'd been planin on traveling and stuff too. Begining of may rolls around and she goes away with her mom and sister out west to visit some family for a week or so. she comes back and informs me that she wants to move out there and look for work in september instead of moving in together like we had planned. At first i was like wtf and we were very very close to breaking up, i was obviously pissed but eventually i came around and suported her.. got a place with some buddies and everything was golden the rest of the summer. We went away together, partied and had a blast. I thought for sure we would be fine despite the huge obstacle distance would be throwing at us. We then planned on me moving out there in april and traveling and then getting a place in calgary. Sept rolls around... i help her pack, we have our last days together, everything is still golden at this point. I even take her to airport and shes all crying and stuff telling me how much she loves me and that she will miss me so much. So three weeks go by and we're on the phone talking and she being weird and shit.... like depresed or somthing... so i ask her wats wrong a few times and finally she spills the beans... "i wanna break up.. i wanna be on my own.. its not u its me....ur a great BF but i need to be on my own.. etc" so im like wtf why wouldnt u do it three months ago. So we said our goodbyes and that was it.Three weeks across the country from me and she throws it all away. needless to say i feel like shit and cant sleep, eat or study... hardest thing ive ever done. wat are your thoughts on this situation... what whent wrong.. i dont get it.. im pissed off and confused...

[Houstonbc]

**** man thats a rough one i feel for you bro....the only thing i can think of is buddy women are very strange like she said man its not you its her so really theres not alot you can do. You could keep trying to pursue it but in my past experiences that usually doesnt pan out that well it works better to sit back try to pretend you dont care that much and sometimes they will realize that they messed up big time and beg for you to take her back. Good luck bro i hope whatever you do works out for you keep us posted.

[Bowlcut]

That is rough.

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[pinhead]

Sorry for the heartache bro. It's not what you want to hear, but mostly this happens when another guy is involved. I'm a bit older than you and have seen a lot of stuff like this happen. The chance is higher than not that she's seeing someone else.

Best to let go on move on. When the pain and anger stop, then you can say you're over her.

[Ritch]

Sorry to hear that. At the very least try to get an explanation from her. I don`t think it`s o.k. to tell someone you`ve been with for 6 years "it`s not you, it`s me"... Perhaps one of the ladies here will chime in here and give some advice. Hopefully you can take good care of yourself in the meantime. Stay strong.

[BAM]

Sorry to hear about your troubles. .

[gsxr750]

Sorry bud.. hang in there.

[champcar99]

Sorry for the heartache bro. It's not what you want to hear, but mostly this happens when another guy is involved. I'm a bit older than you and have seen a lot of stuff like this happen. The chance is higher than not that she's seeing someone else.

Best to let go on move on. When the pain and anger stop, then you can say you're over her.

PIN is right ..After reading your post I have too agree with him...

"we're on the phone talking and she being weird and shit.... like depresed or somthing"

that sentence alone pretty much means "another guy" do yourself a favor and go **** her friends she left behind...kidding but WTF... **** them all...lol..lol..I would ..but thats me...

[spankmonkey]

PIN is right ..After reading your post I have too agree with him...

"we're on the phone talking and she being weird and shit.... like depresed or somthing"

that sentence alone pretty much means "another guy" do yourself a favor and go **** her friends she left behind...kidding but WTF... **** them all...lol..lol..I would ..but thats me...


Hate to play devils advocate and I feel for the breaking heart dude, but it does not have to be a guy and from the post there is no way to state it is a guy. That is your opinions and you are welcome to them.

Maigionjus, they are all right about one thing though, you need to move on with your life and get your priorities straight. The pain of breakup is the shits and you will move through it like a champ. IMO spending time theorizing about why will only drive you crazy and taking vendictive actions like ****ing her friends will not make the situation any better for you. Sucks but this part of livin.

Keep your head up

[Gettin'r'round]

This is will more to you later on. Be thankful she didn't pull this once you moved out there, got married, or worse had children. A broken heart is soon healed. Once children are involved that mistake is forever.

[Mr.Freeze]

PIN is right ..After reading your post I have too agree with him...

"we're on the phone talking and she being weird and shit.... like depresed or somthing"

that sentence alone pretty much means "another guy" do yourself a favor and go **** her friends she left behind...kidding but WTF... **** them all...lol..lol..I would ..but thats me...

Champ is right, go **** one of her best friends.:D

[physique]

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[MIAGIONJUS]

hey guys thanks for stopping by and reading my rambling post even though it is completely un-bodybuilding related. I really appreciate the advice during this rough time.....once again you guys have proven wat makes this site so great!!

[420]

Thats rough dude after 6 years. You deserve a better explanation then, its not you its me, thats BS. I recommend 3 joints a day till you forget about her..

[champcar99]

420 I like u already..lol..

[wrought]

Its either another guy, who will **** her and dump her and in a couple of weeks she will wind up calling you up late at night crying about how stupid she was...... or..... uhhhh, nah, that's it.

I wouldn't consider the possibility of her being alone/depressed as the reason for this because you said she's got family out there, so she's got some support. But if she is just being stupid you'll get the same call except in this case she'll only be crying that she made a mistake instead of crying about her mistake and the fact that she now has the herp.

[MIAGIONJUS]

***update***
well two weeks have gone by, and for the first week i was able to cut all comunication, given that we used to talk and see each other every single day, this was a tremendous feat for me. Unfortuantly i caved after a week and called her up, I could tell she was happy that i called and we literally talked over an hour. At this point im thinking to myself u know wat she still cares about me and us, but she is confused and needs time. This i could accept and for a few days I was fine and optimistic about her and I. So few days go by and we're texting and talking pretty much everyday, thursday roles around and for some reason my instinct was telling me that somthing was up, so i go ahead and asked wats up, and eventually find out that shes kinda got feelings for another dude, but isnt sure about him and that shes been hanging out with this guy alot, (she never said it but im pretty sure their seeing each other already). Needless to say i was devastated when i found this out, we whent from almost moving in to.. cya later im moving across the country and two weeks after she calls it quits there is another guy in the picture... 6 years dating this bitch and now i have to accept the fact that she doesnt give a shit about me or how i feel, and i'll tell u its been the hardest thing ive ever done. i cant sleep, eat, and even my workouts are shit. I dunno wat to do.... ive been hiting the booze pretty bad and have done more drugs in the last few days than i have in my entire life just so that i can sleep and not be depressed. I realized i need to get my life back in order but the feeling is overwhelming. I am lucky i have lots of good friends and family around me who are helping me through this and supporting me. Happy to say that as of friday i have not spoken or texted her and hopefully i will keep it this way.
To top things off, the guy who i think shes seeing is a complete loser who used to be a coke head and is currently an alcoholic. So far the first lesson this ordeal has taught me is u never really know a person, no matter how long or how intimate a relationship is. Honestly she is the last person i would have ever thought would do somthing like this... live and learn i guess....
thanks again guys for the replies, really helps reading about similar situations

[macka]

OK M,

now's the time to go **** her best friend take some pics and send them to her via SMS with a nice :ht for her

[Seth]

Its always a very painful situation.. I've never gone as far deep as 6 years with a girl, but I've been hurt pretty bad before. The best way I found to get over a girl is either to get a new one, or to totally get the last one out of your life (like you're doing) at least until you've healed a little. Forcing myself to listen to happy songs has helped too. I feel your pain man... be strong and don't let a girl destroy you!

[Houstonbc]

rough dude. its easy to tell someone this but lay off the booze and drugs. you need to get out and mess with a couple new chicks it will make you feel much better about yourself after you tag some strange ass. as for her man, thats just harsh and you gotta move on and dont let her mind **** you any longer

[Houstonbc]

like physique said
nothing makes you forget old pussy quicker than new pussy!

[macka]

like physique said
nothing makes you forget old pussy quicker than new pussy!

but the irony is if phys got some new pussy it would be old LMAO

[Houstonbc]

but the irony is if phys got some new pussy it would be old LMAO

LOL

[Durk]

The cure is bar sluts and booze. I hope you learned your lesson, long term relationships arent worth it. quoting fleetwood mac "Women they will come and they will go"

[Seth]

^ I find it sad but I agree with you. The only way not to get hurt is not to get involved

[wrought]

To top things off, the guy who i think shes seeing is a complete loser who used to be a coke head and is currently an alcoholic. So far the first lesson this ordeal has taught me is u never really know a person, no matter how long or how intimate a relationship is. Honestly she is the last person i would have ever thought would do somthing like this... live and learn i guess....
thanks again guys for the replies, really helps reading about similar situations

She did you a favor bro. Count yourself lucky that you never moved in with her, never married her, and never had any kids because most of the time when this sort of shit happens its after the marriage and the kids and the crap you have to go through is 10 times worse.

[MIAGIONJUS]

Being MIA from this site for the better half of 3 years I recently decided to start posting and looking back through some of my old threads. Reading this just reminded me of the great ppl and great advice i used to be in touch with. this was a tough pill to swallow and it was nice knowing that others had been there before.

Update:
after the break up i was pretty much a mess for months. I was in the middle of a cycle and emotionally a wreck. We stayed in touch for a couple months and it soon became obvious that there was in fact another guy in the picture. She had also taken the break up as an opportunity to sleep with guys i always suspected she was into (one in particular a mutual acquantance). Once I realized this I called her and said good luck, nice life and never call, write or reach out to me or my family. I have not spoken to her since then (nov 2008). She has since then made efforts to reach me but I have had no interest in someone like that. Took time but eventually i realized the type of person she was and am thankfull this happened and thankful the relationship never advanced. She and I were toxic together and I cringe thinking about her these days and what a troubled girl she was, riddeled with childhood daddy issues.
Since then I have dated a few girls, and for the last 3 years been dating a girl with whom i am now engaged too. All my friends and family have said to me on more than one occasion how happier I seem and how good we are together. I finished school, moved to toronto got a carreer and am now engaged living with my girl (who is btw 10x hotter!). Ive also managed to maintain almost all of our mutual friends while she moved back home a year later with no job, no money and no one, living with her sister working a min wage job. I think i made out alright... :)

anyways I thought id just post an update incase any of you guys were still around...

thanks for reading, merry christmas!

[St]

Being MIA from this site for the better half of 3 years I recently decided to start posting and looking back through some of my old threads. Reading this just reminded me of the great ppl and great advice i used to be in touch with. this was a tough pill to swallow and it was nice knowing that others had been there before.

Update:
after the break up i was pretty much a mess for months. I was in the middle of a cycle and emotionally a wreck. We stayed in touch for a couple months and it soon became obvious that there was in fact another guy in the picture. She had also taken the break up as an opportunity to sleep with guys i always suspected she was into (one in particular a mutual acquantance). Once I realized this I called her and said good luck, nice life and never call, write or reach out to me or my family. I have not spoken to her since then (nov 2008). She has since then made efforts to reach me but I have had no interest in someone like that. Took time but eventually i realized the type of person she was and am thankfull this happened and thankful the relationship never advanced. She and I were toxic together and I cringe thinking about her these days and what a troubled girl she was, riddeled with childhood daddy issues.
Since then I have dated a few girls, and for the last 3 years been dating a girl with whom i am now engaged too. All my friends and family have said to me on more than one occasion how happier I seem and how good we are together. I finished school, moved to toronto got a carreer and am now engaged living with my girl (who is btw 10x hotter!). Ive also managed to maintain almost all of our mutual friends while she moved back home a year later with no job, no money and no one, living with her sister working a min wage job. I think i made out alright... :)

anyways I thought id just post an update incase any of you guys were still around...

thanks for reading, merry christmas!


Great news brother, glad to see your around again.

[joshuaty2010]

Give her space. Help her to realize your space on her heart.

[Durk]

Oh my. Forgot what a degenerate i once was.

[HeavyD]

Dont sweat it... easy to say i know...m my ex did some what same but we were married and had own place..... not trying to cruch you..... but she was wanting that way before she told you....... what it is... they think they got something better. Or that there missing out on something.... all i can say is she will screw over next guy. Or get screwed herself. .......

Yes it sucks and hard to deal with... but i had to think.. and i thought... why would i wanna be with someone that dont wanna be with me? Helped me get over it faster.....

Just remember karmas a bitch.... just cause she thinks it's he grass may be greener... just remember thats were more dogs shit. Take care buddy. Ttyl

[HeavyD]

O and im not bitter or a woman hater. But dont give her another chance... she will ****ing do it again after shes done playing again. .... hahaha had to throw that in there

[cobra]

Women are strange creatures. She found another guy or she didn't love you enough or both, it's simple. There's always another one that's waiting for you. You'll get over with after the pain is gone, I'm sorry but better now than when you have three kids and she decide to bail out, that one wasn't for you !