Busted by G.F

[Random Letters]

A few of you may know that I have held the stance of "don't ask don't tell" when it has come to telling my GF of 6 years about my use. I have been discreet and careful, and never had an issue until today.

I got a call at work and she was on the line and the first words out of her mouth were "is there something I should know?". I nearly shit myself. Of course, your mind immediately flies through all of the possible things that it may be and you don't want to jump to any conclusions...you know, maybe she found your porn stash, or hell, maybe you just left the toilet seat up and she's pissed because she fell in. No point in incriminating yourself immediately, so I played dumb (not really a stretch apparently).

It turned out that she had found my ancillaries, which I never concealed well enough. She found two bottles of Exemestane, a bottle of Finasteride and 2 bottles of bacteriostatic water. Of course, once caught in a lie, you really have no choice but to either continue to lie or come completely clean. So I continued to lie. I did as well as I could from my work phone, assured her that it was all on the up and up and let her go.

An hour later she called back crying and said "is there anything else you want to tell me?" So now I figured she found the gear and that I was screwed, but of course I continued to tread water and found out that she had found $1k in cash that I had set aside for hGH after the Olympics and a syringe wrapper that I must have forgotten or dropped somewhere. In a word, I was cooked. She couldn't prove anything yet, but she KNEW.

I left work and headed home to face the music and try to salvage my relationship. We talked for a long time and I told her about my use. As expected, she kind of freaked out, but not as bad as I thought she would. She was mostly hurt that I didn't tell her, and is concerned that what I am doing could be hurting my health. I assured her that I am being as responsible as possible and get regular check ups, monitor BP and that I don't abuse the drugs that I take.

It sucked. I was committed to the lie that I actively decided to tell by not letting her know what I was doing from the beginning. That lie grew into more and bigger lies as all of the elements came together. Instead of just lying about using, without realising it I was lying about and/or hiding ancillaries, money, pins, deliveries...it's kind of like the children's story about the lie that grew and grew.

Anyhow, so far as I can tell everything is alright. She is disappointed, and she feels like I have damaged the trust that we share and she is absolutely right. I feel terrible that I lied and then continued to lie to her. She means the world to me and I should have just been a man and told her from the beginning, but I'm stubborn and didn't want to deal with what that would have entailed, nor did I want to deal with the potential consequences.

There is no moral to the story. I can't tell anyone to share their use with their S.O as I don't know their personal situations, but I CAN say that in hindsight, I should have told mine. Anyone who finds themselves in the same situation should think long and hard before committing to a lie that may have to live for a long time.

[Kilburn]

the moral of the story is to not lie. and if you've beenwith her for 6 years or whatever i think she can handle it.

[Random Letters]

the moral of the story is to not lie.

If only it were that easy in practice!

[bigdaddydrew123]

the moral of the story is to not lie. and if you've beenwith her for 6 years or whatever i think she can handle it.
the moral of this story for me is be careful! i started a one and only cycle a few years ago, three years later,still doin it, if i thought i was going to be on all this time i prob would have talked it out, but now i just cant bring myself to it, so ill just be careful for now

[L3]

i told my gf straight up.. shes down.. im even starting her on some clen but i shes used to having her boyfriends give her pills

i think the biggest issue is the lying part, if you can show them that you've done your research and arent ****ing around then there should be no problem

[Kilburn]

i told my gf straight up.. shes down.. im even starting her on some clen but i shes used to having her boyfriends give her pills

i think the biggest issue is the lying part, if you can show them that you've done your research and arent ****ing around then there should be no problem

this is how it's done. sure society has brainwashed her about steroids but it's easy enough for you to brainwash her to your side of thinking. especially if she loves you.

[giannos]

I am sure she will be alright.. It's not the use that has her pissed, its the fact you kept her clueless on it for 6 years.. I ALWAYS tell me GF's about it.. Most of the girls I date are gym rats themselves so they understand.. I actually just taught my girl how to inject my glute last night ( getting sick of twisting like a pretzel doing it..lol )

But in the end Honesty is the best policy.. She most likely has a misconception that steroids are gonna kill you ( thank you Media ).. Once you show her how safe AAS can be used in moderation and not abuse, I am sure she will be fine bro...

[leeroy]

Some girls take it good, others bad. I know of some that eventually squealed to LE. Ruined the guys life :(

Now just hope she keeps her mouth shut and doesn't go get counselling from all her friends and family about your "lies".

[Big D]

thats a good little story, I hope everything will work out.

great post

[Mr Ontario]

All else fails....send her my way :) Just for a talk of course to help her understand as to why your balls are big then small big and then small. lol

[AlbertaBeef]

First thing is she doesn't know you've been lying for 6 yrs, it could have been just a recent brain fart you had and thought you'd experiment.
For me the moral is you have to be more carefull. I went through the same thing a little over a year ago and I was pissed off!! Firstly because she was snooping through all my shit, over, under, in between you name it until she found something. It was like she was looking for something, anything juicy to nail me on. I think most females are like that. She just happened to find my gear which was well hidden and I was choked but I couldn't do anything. I wanted to freak on her for being a snoopy little bitch but I was caught and had no recourse as I was guilty as charged.

Fortunately she bought the first time just trying it out bit and said I would never do it again. Time went by and she trusts me again and her fear of me looking like some puffed up guy in those muscle books has subsided.

Now I hide my shit REALLY good!!!! Sometimes I can't find it :confused:

[BolicPower]

Straight up is only way if it's a long relationship. If you cant' tell her, then move on. That's like if she was and addict and not telling you. Let her know asap! and then no surprises.

[pseclint]

hey man I say if she never asks dont tell..... thing is if she asks about it break her in by saying you used it in the past and might one day even use it again... therefore your getting her ready for the big bust...... when she catches you or asks when you are on thats when you fess up and say that you use it.....

seems like a decent way to ease her into the lifestyle.....

best of luck bro, prolly caused a little bit of damage to the relationship but life moves on......

[spankmonkey]

Anyhow, so far as I can tell everything is alright. She is disappointed, and she feels like I have damaged the trust that we share and she is absolutely right. I feel terrible that I lied and then continued to lie to her. She means the world to me and I should have just been a man and told her from the beginning, but I'm stubborn and didn't want to deal with what that would have entailed, nor did I want to deal with the potential consequences.


Wow, this is very reminiscent of another post about hiding usage from SO's where there was a whole lotta don't tell them nothin cause they'll burn you.
Let me ask you this, how do you feel now that the lie is out in the open?

[Freebsd1977]

Simple solution I posted in the other thread. While she sleeps tonight, inject her with some clen, now you're even :-)
No more l.e worries.











I KID! LOL!

[pseclint]

Simple solution I posted in the other thread. While she sleeps tonight, inject her with some clen, now you're even :-)
No more l.e worries.











I KID! LOL!


lol your not supposed to inject clen...... u might have bigger problems free

[Freebsd1977]

lol your not supposed to inject clen...... u might have bigger problems free

I'm a noob at that stuff, my mistake :help:laugh

[Random Letters]

Wow, this is very reminiscent of another post about hiding usage from SO's where there was a whole lotta don't tell them nothin cause they'll burn you.
Let me ask you this, how do you feel now that the lie is out in the open?

Better, obviously, in that not having to hide something like this from her anymore is liberating. Not worrying that she will discover it is a nice feeling.

However, I am concerned that she has something to hold over me (not that she would) if things got ugly. Worried that she may let it slip to someone, or somehow accidentally get it out in the open, where I could have taken it to the grave.

She's a good girl. I'm sure she'll do what is right, however I am used to depending on myself and don't like that I have lost the control of how or if anyone ever finds out about my use.

[gustavo77]

lol your not supposed to inject clen......

Unless it is injectable Helios...

[Musclehead]

Too funny! Never lie to a woman EVER lol. On a good note, I'm sure she'll get over it bro, after all it's been 6 years. If she has any concerns over your usage you should educate her. I had a gf that thought creatine was a steroid, so that just goes to show you what the general public knows.

[Blitz-Test]

Dejavu!

[nisser]

it's all good till you break up and she wants blood.

Good luck

[ZeOne]

I told my wife in the middle of my first cycle. I called her at work early afternoon and told her that I had something really important to tell her that evening, and that she will be _really_ disappointed in me. Her mind wondered really far and she was sure I was cheating on her, and that our marriage was in jeopardy. So she had all afternoon to fill her mind with negative thoughts.

So we sit on the couch later that evening, and when I announced to her that I am doing AAS, she burst into tears, she jumps on me and give me a BIG hug. "That's it?!" she said? "I thought you were cheating on me...that you were in love with another woman"..."oh no honey, I am *just* doing roids...don't you worry your pretty little head about other women"...and we made passionate love that night, and I continued my first cycle and went on for a bit more than 2 month to eventually gain 25 pounds :)

[gsxr750]

Hahaha I like that, I will use that some day ZeOne.

[Xplode]

Wow, this is very reminiscent of another post about hiding usage from SO's where there was a whole lotta don't tell them nothin cause they'll burn you.
Let me ask you this, how do you feel now that the lie is out in the open?

1) Don't tell em'
2) She could still burn him

I am sure he feels better about telling her right now...but wait for the first big fight or a day when he feels "grumpy" I am sure he will be reminded of how "liberated" he has become when EVERYTHING is blamed on his AAS usage.

[Random Letters]

*update*

So after 24 hours to clear her head and to think about the situation, she called me yesterday and told me that she wants to talk more about it. As I suspected, I had gotten off a little too easy. A few tears and a bit of a scolding was much less than I anticipated, and obviously not my entire punishment.

My G.F is one of the people that always do their best to be a good person and to obey the law. It took me nearly two months to convince her that an FTA satellite box was a good idea, and even then she had reservations. She is also one to take pharmaceuticals very seriously, and the fact that I am essentially self medicating is what is most upsetting to her.

Anyhow, she basically told me that she loves me, but she doesn't think she can handle what I'm doing. She thinks that the dangers far outweigh the benefits and to purchase drugs online and then to use them is the height of irresponsibility. I heard all of the typical lines that you expect to hear in these situations like "I don't even know you anymore" and "what would your family say?".

I talked about the relative safety of the drugs I choose to use and gave her my reasons for choosing to use them. I explained that if she hadn't found my stash then she would not have called me out on "changing" or "not being the same person" and that her perspective is skewed due to the media and her lack of knowledge on the subject. I told her that I respect her opinion, but that without having done the proper research, I would not stop doing it because of how it makes her "feel". I told her that her ultimatum was just fertilizing the field for future lies and that she should be careful how she treats this situation since it was honesty that she was demanding, and now finally receiving.

After nearly two hours of talking and tears, I told her that my position would not change on the subject and that if she wants me to take her opinion seriously, she needed to educate herself and I headed to the gym.

When I got back, she had spent those two hours combing the internet for information. Of course she found the propaganda as well as some truth, and as it turned out, some of her biggest fears were that it can cause mood alterations or "roid rage" and that it is physically and psychologically addictive. I told her that psychologically, sure, anything can be addictive, but that it is not physically addictive. I also explained that "roid rage" may exist in people with pre existing problems, but that these people shouldn't be taking drugs to begin with. I also explained again the difference between responsible use vs. abuse and that I won't cross that line.

For all of her fears, I think her biggest fear was that I was changing without her and that I would no longer want the same future that we have been planning for ourselves. She didn't know how, or in what way that may have changed, but she thought it must have or that it will. I assured her and promised that nothing has changed, and that all of our plans are still on the same track that they were 48 hours ago, and that the only thing different now is she is fully informed.

She seems to have accepted it now. I hope that is the end of it, as I am exhausted from dealing with it.

[Xplode]

Worst case scenario, have you considered telling her you have put careful consideration into the situation would "quit" using for her? And obviously not quit and be smarter about it this time!

I hope everything works out for you bro...good luck and stay safe.

[Random Letters]

Worst case scenario, have you considered telling her you have put careful consideration into the situation would "quit" using for her? And obviously not quit and be smarter about it this time!

I hope everything works out for you bro...good luck and stay safe.

Of course I thought about that, but I know that if I got caught down the line that it would be the end of our relationship. I thought it wiser to plant my feet and prepare for battle.

In essence, I was fighting for my right to choose what I do with my body. AAS does not prevent me from providing for her, loving her, or in any way hinder my ability to live the life that I want to live. While I can understand her perspective and I appreciate her concern, the bottom line is that it really is a personal decision as there is little to zero direct impact on her or "us".

Thanks for the well wishes, I think everything will be fine from here on out.

[Freebsd1977]

Hey Random Letters, damn man. That must of been a headache to deal with.

[pseclint]

kudos for standing your ground....... hope all goes well.....

[Diesel_250]

Told my gf straight up from the begining, she even helps give me shots when I don't feel like doing it myself.

If you are in a serious relationship it is best to be honest, if it is just a random better just keep it to yourself.