Girlfriend problems post #3. Last one.

[Boost]

Please read. This will be my last post of this kind. CBB, PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I demand your help!!!!!!

I am a part time worker and a universlty student. My girlfriend gets stressed out when she does not see me. She wants to see me alot more than I can possibly see her as I need time to study, workout, work, and do housework etc etc etc... I am a very busy guy. The list goes on.

I told her that I am doing my best to make time for her but school comes first. I rolled my eyes a couple times throughout the conversation and she said "I ****ing dare you to roll your eyes again". I rolled my eyes because she was getting mad again like she gets quite often and I was not surprised that it was happening again. After that I went inot silent mode "the mode when a guy just doesn't care anymore and did not say another word until she got out of my car. I then drove off. When I got home there was an appology on the answering machine saying that she was "sorry for comming off a little strong".

Is this a sign guys? If I was married to her she wouldn't have to appologize right? At that point she could say **** you and take half of my stuff.

Is this a sign guys? Tell me what to do! Maybe it is more clear for you guys!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[champcar99]

" I rolled my eyes a couple times throughout the conversation "
smart move when your girlfriend is telling you she wants more quality time with you...
You should of just said "'your right baby I miss you as much as you miss me if not more, I will do my best too make more time for you, but I need to get this education to better our lives for the future.." followed by a " I love you and I will make this work" everyones happy..but dude I dont know too many women actually none that would take a rolling your eye's attitude when they are asking something from the heart...it makes you look like you dont care...
WOMEN ARE VERY ****IN NEEDY EMOTIONALLY SOME TIMES TOO MUCH FOR ME...

[spiderman7]

I don't think its a sign. You have a better understanding of her then anyone here on the site. She most likely just needs to be reassured that you still want her. So, next time pull over and bend her over the hood she will stop with the insecurities. Just kidding, just follow champcars advice and you will be fine. As for in the future they do apologize but they not as afraid of rejection since your tied to them.

[bmorlock]

champcar ur 100% right buddy

[IronRobi]

Been there. Listen to champcar! Learned very young never to roll your eyes at a woman.

[Boost]

You should of just said "I will do my best too make more time for you",

I told her that I AM doing my best.

[Houstonbc]

well the best you can do is the best you can do bro!

[IronRobi]

Just accept that your best is never enough and tell her you'll try harder even though you cant

[Mr Ontario]

Less time on here....more time with her? Who do you love more :)

[MizzFitt]

Champcar is right, worst thing ever is to roll your eyes when we get upset. She obviously cares about you and wants to spend time together, maybe she feels pushed to the back burner and not important to you.

[MuSuLPhReAk]

Less time on here....more time with her? Who do you love more :)

CBB over everything....lol

Take care of your girl bro. Give her the attention she wants. You won't regret it.

[champcar99]

"CBB over everything"....lol

:yeah

[Boost]

CBB over everything....lol

Take care of your girl bro. Give her the attention she wants. You won't regret it.

Yeah, but I can't let her get in the way of my school.

[warlock]

Define your priorities, if she needs so much attention that you can't live your life maybe you are not the right person for her and vice versa.

About the rolling eyes thing: how would you feel if you are trying to make a point and the other person roll her eyes?

Is she too needy or are you just too busy to be able to give her the time that the she needs/deserves?

Myself and my partner are busy and have very different schedules in some ways we live our lives + our relationship, we have different circles of friends, professions and schedules. In order to make this work since we started dating we made a point of having Sundays together and we just change this commitment for stuff that is above our control but still try to cancel or change other commitments when we can't follow this basic rule.

Don't forget: what is the point of having a girlfriend if you can't spend much time with her???

[Freebsd1977]

Is your name Tim taylor? LOL!
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[KLM]

You definitely can't let her get in the way of your schooling. If her demands are unreasonable (i.e., choosing studying over spending time with her when you have an exam approaching) then that's her issue.

If you could manage your time better and are pushing her aside, then that's another thing and that's within your control.

But don't let her make you feel guilty about school/training being important to you.

I think balance is key here.

And, oh yeah, rolling your eyes - LOL, don't do that.

[tripleA]

I would have rolled my eyes just to see what happens. Explain to her that school is important, you're trying to build your future so that you can have a good job. Anyways school won't last forever unless you are in the Van Wilder program.

[grifter]

I would say that if there wasnt an appology on the answering machine when you got home...you got a problem there and shes pissed. But, she did recognise that she was in the wrong. She also may have some insecurity problems and could think that your out and about playing the field when your actually studying. Sit down with her and tell her how you feel, if she matters to you. Tell her that you need her support through these difficult times, but once school is done you will have more time for each other. Small sacrifice for big rewards.

[Gettin'r'round]

run. seriously!

This is controlling behaviour and if you think it's going to get better once her finger turns to gold, HA! I'm not trying to be a a-hole but your priority in life is to get an education first and foremost. Once that's done you'll have time to get on with your life. I remember this girl who dug me and I wasn't that interested but hey. Cancelled the first few dates so that was it for me. She apologized and made all sorts of excuses blah blah whatever. Anyway she calls a few months later she called and the topic of sauce came up. She started bitching me out about it! HELLO? who is the c*nt here!?!?! Man I couldn't believe it. Glad I trusted my instincts and has nothing to do with her. Whoever she is with now is for sure going to be one of those hen-pecked dudes.

What i'm taking forever to say is that if she doesn't understand your current position in life and gets mad now, it WILL NOT get any better EVER. People's character's don't change.

The cynic is done. BTW i'm happily married for 7yrs now.

[Xplode]

Quit school, quit work and lay around all day on her couch and see if she always wants you around :)

No really listen to Champcar he is 100% right on this one.