need some advice

[ab_chic25]

Ok so I have met this guy and it seems to be ok so far. I just am not used to "cute, hot, sexy" guys liking me. Has to do with being 270lbs for a long time. But the thing is I live in edmonton, he lives in calgary. I am ok with the distance because I hate edmonton and as soon as I can, I am outta here. He is concerned about the distance. Just wondering if anyone can help me out with easing his mind about the distance, i mean its not really that far apart.

Another thing I need some advice on is, I asked him what we are. He said that we dont sleep, see other people, only sleep with each other and spend what time we can together. This is different from what I said to him. I told him that if he is worried about the whole distance thing, that if he sleeps with others, dont tell me and make sure to wrap it. I told him that his answer sounds a lot like dating, but he then replied "yea lol But i dont like labels" WTF???????? help please.

I am a MAJOR idiot when it comes to being with someone other then just sexual. Plus I am shy when I am around people I actually like, so please help me out here CBB buddys!

[gicantor]

Wait he said he wants to sleep with you exclusively, and you told him its ok if he sleeps aroound as long as you don't know?

And the distance thing...........it's pretty far IMO

[ab_chic25]

Wait he said he wants to sleep with you exclusively, and you told him its ok if he sleeps aroound as long as you don't know?

And the distance thing...........it's pretty far IMO


its actually not that far, at least i think. Its only 2.5hrs...................hmmmmm i told him that before he told me the exclusively thing. He asked if i was going to sleep with other people and I said no, i couldnt do that. Werid I know but hey thats just me lol

[Big D]

its actually not that far, at least i think. Its only 2.5hrs...................hmmmmm i told him that before he told me the exclusively thing. He asked if i was going to sleep with other people and I said no, i couldnt do that. Werid I know but hey thats just me lol

I’m a little confused you said hes 2.5hrs away you think ??? you don’t know really know how far he is?? But you’ve hung out with him already ?
and you told him he can sleep around and your gonna be exclusive with him ?? that’s a pretty sweet deal…

as for the long distance part, if its only 2.5hrs that’s not a big deal at all, you guys can see each other on weekends, or any time you get a few days off. Just try to talk on the phone everynight. The long distance isn’t a bad thing it gets you guys communicating real well and you’ll get to know each other a lot better.

[Spyder122]

I had the long distance thing going on for 3 months. It kinda sucked. But I was already with the girl, and still am, for 2 years at that time when I got a 3 month temporary assignment to work up north which was about 11 hrs from Winnipeg. However, we kept in constant communication (emails, phone calls) just to let eachother know we were thinking about them. All I can say was FIREWORKS after 3 months was up.

[RagingRandy]

Long distances can be managed. My wife is from Cuba and it was almost 1.5 years after we were married that we were living together. Most weeks I would get one email from her and would call her once a month for an hour. I would go to see her, one week at a time, about 4 times a year.

If you or he do not mind driving 2.5 hours is a breeze. It has nothing to do with distance it is your level of commitment. Letting him sleep around will not help in this regard.

[Spyder122]

Yeah giving him the ok to sneak around is a little odd. If I was told that, I'd be questioning what you were doing in your town.

[ab_chic25]

no i mean that I dont think it is that far to go to calgary. I told him when he asked me about me sleeping with others that I couldnt do that to anyone. So he is the one that said we dont sleep with anyone else. That part has to do with how I met him but hey whatever. I am going to go with what he said and believe that he isnt messing around. But I have been played in the past by guys so I am going in with eyes open. Going to go down a couple times before I make up my mind 100%. Not saying I dont like him, I do but also think he could end up hurting me in the long run.

[Spyder122]

Well hopefully it works out for you. Best of luck.

[Mrs.Meat]

Long distances can be managed. My wife is from Cuba and it was almost 1.5 years after we were married that we were living together. Most weeks I would get one email from her and would call her once a month for an hour. I would go to see her, one week at a time, about 4 times a year.

If you or he do not mind driving 2.5 hours is a breeze. It has nothing to do with distance it is your level of commitment. Letting him sleep around will not help in this regard.

thats pretty awesome,the whole cuba thing haha. I'm cuban but I don't live there. I am in a long distance relationship - my boyfriend lives in Vancouver and I live in NJ US of A baby! I have to say its EXTREMELY hard - I miss him like there is no tomorrow... BUT almost 2 years later here I am still feeling the same way I did in the beginning... or moreso. All I have to say is 2.5 hours pfft I would do that drive every day or so to see my SO and HELL no I don't allow sleeping around - I don't do it so guess what NO-NO-NO. He knows I will tear him a new ahole. Although he is 270 pds, 6plus ft (he competes so not fatty lol) hmmmm I think he is scared of my little cuban FURY And I know he won't beg to differ.
:moon:

[Mrs.Meat]

fyi ABchic, don't overthink or overanalyze this too much. Go for it. If it works it works, if not LATER. You could spend your whole life right there where you live not meeting the one and couldve passed a opportunity up. If all fails maybe you had fun trying ;)

[Memo]

Id say dont let him sleep around because he will think that you do.

[ab_chic25]

yea i kinda told him I was done the other day anyways. I mean if you tell someone you like and will try the long distance thing, then actually try. I got tired of being the only who was trying. Oh well life goes on. Crappy thing is I still like the ahole lol and the same night I told him that, i ran over my foot at work. So now I am on "paper pusher" duties till the doctor on monday, gawd what a week

[cog]

Why put any labels on it?See what happens.Driving to Edmonton or Calgary won't seem too far when you want to get laid on the weekends.:)