living at home and BB

[bigtavi8]

I gotta say something because its really been on my mind tonight. I missed the gym due to some bullshit circumstances and was real mad about it. Real mad. I semi flipped because i cant train legs tommarow because of the holiday and other car problems. I say some stupid shit and i live at home so my dad pipes in and tries to talk me down like a bitch. We get in a huge yelling match and then he goes on to say a bunch of crazy shit. " I seen you shooting that such and such and you got roid rage and blah blah blah and now your liver is ****ed and all this.:" I was floored. Hes like you think im stupid i seen you shooting w.e. "let me down and you let your family down"." Im disgraced to have you as a son" I never thought you would do something like this who have you become and what do you think your ever going to do with BB?

[MMASTAR]

if you live under his roof he has every right to tell you what to do when you are there IMO. You want to do whatever you want? get you own place where you run the show.

[bigtavi8]

Good point but financially not an option right now considering job and school debt. But i tottaly agree i dont claim to be right just shocked that he came out and sed whats going on. If you no my dad hes passive and never brings shit up but he really let er go tonight.

[treebuilder]

Good point but financially not an option right now considering job and school debt. But i tottaly agree i dont claim to be right just shocked that he came out and sed whats going on. If you no my dad hes passive and never brings shit up but he really let er go tonight.

If he is passive, then he will probably let it go quickly. Can you let it go too?

[bigtavi8]

Hes not mad hes just disapointed and it was a real shock maybe i should edit my post i dont want to get flamed out just on my mind hard. I love my parents and respect them but my goals and BB dont fit in line with them and that hurts. Im gonna just drop it.

[MMASTAR]

in that case mabey you should sit down with them and explain to them that youve done your reshearch and explain why you use, not abuse.

[treebuilder]

Not gonna get flamed from me man. You have proven to yourself and us that you have the passion and desire to become very good at BB. It does suck that someone so close to you does not understand that desire and the passion that you have. His comments were made out of ignorance for what you do. Good luck man and don't lose sight of what you want, but be prepared for others not to see it.

[519Muscle]

People say shit they don't mean when their arguing believe me i know, just don't let it get to u.

[Bowlcut]

Take a deep breath and apologize to your old man before you go to bed. No use going to bed angry.

I deal with the same shit when I visit my parents or brother and just got to let things go. Tough to do, but stressing over the little things is just going to take years off your life.

Save like a jew and move out as soon as you can.

[ubcpower]

Technically you are doing something 'illegal' under their roof. You can justify or legitimize it as much as you want but i'm sure they see it as just as wrong as allowing you to do any other type of drug in their home like weed...etc

[bigtavi8]

Your right UBC i know i kind of lost sight of the whole its illegal thing. I just dont consider it like a rec drug you know. Although not admitting to anything of any sort i would say i would be mad if my kid was doing anything drug related. But the word drug to me keeps reminding me of the usual coke, heroin, etc etc. And i for one have never ever in my life been anywhere near or into those things. I consider myself a bitch when it comes to drugs and partying. I dont drink ever, smoke cigarettes, smoke weed, do any drugs. However anabolics are still drugs just not what comes to mind you know.

[gicantor]

Man I use to go through the same shit when I lived at home. It always blows over just give it time. My old man would say the same stuff anytime we got in a fight he'd say "why don't you go take some more steroids you asshole" and a few hours later everythings back to normal.

Honestly moving out is the best thing you can do. Sure you might have the financial stress but it's alot better than being grilled everyday for doing something you like.

[#8]

If you're in school why dont you get some osap and move to a place closer to school and live with some other students? Student housing kinda sucks, but at least nobody tells you what to do.

[Ritch]

I`d try to work it out with your parents. You`re saving so much money living at home. It`s much easier to get your school work done living there as well. I`ve never lived in a dorm but the constant partying and distractions are not ideal. If you want part of that life, you can go there do all your damage, then go back home where you can focus again.

But shit, that`s a tought situation you have to deal with here.

[dremen]

Time to move the fack out.

Im sure you can come up with a few hundred bucks a month to share a place with some other people your age. Hell from what I see online there are a ton of places that are shared rentals.

It's not where you life so much as it's WHO you're living with.

P.s. My mom is going through the big "M" and if I was living with her I think I would ****ing shoot her....lol

Can't even go out and do stuff with her without watching her have fits of rage, dipression, sadness then an almost teenage jog. Very ****ed up shit IMHO and very VERY stressful so count yer blessings young one;)

Moral of the story....estrogen ****ing SUCKS.

[kloan]

^^sounds familiar...

[natenator]

^^sounds familiar...
you went through the big M too?

:D

[_Ragnar_]

you went through the big M too?

:D

LMAO!! I gotta spread it around nate. Someone rep this man

[drdnj]

Tavi,
Same thing happened to me when I lived with my folks and was competing. The funny thing is, you will still get "the talk" from them when you are on your own and competing. While I was dieting for my last show (last summer) my parents expressed disappointment on many occasions...I am 37yrs old.
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[natenator]

Tavi,
Same thing happened to me when I lived with my folks and was competing. The funny thing is, you will still get "the talk" from them when you are on your own and competing. While I was dieting for my last show (last summer) my parents expressed disappointment on many occasions...I am 37yrs old.
D
You know, I can understand it if you are someone who only cares about bodybuoilding and doesn't really have a decent job or looking towards a future of some sort but once you start having a career, responsibilities, owning things, etc. Basically being an adult and taking care of your business I would find it an insult for someone to speak to me in a negative fashion about my hobby.

Whatever happened to mind your own business? Do you interfere in your parents lives? Question their habits or what they do? I doubt it so why do they feel the need to do it to you?

Meh

[steve_d]

because they are your parents. and I am sure once I am 60 years old, I will still feel as protective as I am now about my own when he is 30+. They only mean the best, no matter if they are right or wrong. If you are a parent, you are more likely to understand where I am coming from.

[natenator]

because they are your parents. and I am sure once I am 60 years old, I will still feel as protective as I am now about my own when he is 30+. They only mean the best, no matter if they are right or wrong. If you are a parent, you are more likely to understand where I am coming from.
I don't think I would be. If I were a parent I think I would trust in the decisions of my children IF they've proven to be responsible people.

I don't like the Government looking over me, playing big brother so why would I want to do that to my own adult children who have proven they are responsible?

[steve_d]

that's a good point. But what proof could they possibly give to be sure they won't slip up? Even the most perfect kid can fall in the wrong crack. Its rare, but it happens. But yes...once they hit a certain age, it's basically they're choice, and there is little to nothing a parent can do regardless....But some parents will always be protective, and think of their kid as the 2 year old they once had.

[Rhinobolt10]

Technically you are doing something 'illegal' under their roof. You can justify or legitimize it as much as you want but i'm sure they see it as just as wrong as allowing you to do any other type of drug in their home like weed...etc

Not to sound too stupid or try to start a fight,

But my understanding was that possesion was legal. Like ordering to their house or something would be not the best move, but possessing and using I always thought was legal.

Anyone feel free to chime and explain to me.

[ironwill]

Posession for personal use in Canada is legal in small amounts (not sure of cutoff, probably varies).........
Its how you come into your posession that matters and what you do with it in your posession........:o

[kloan]

Not to sound too stupid or try to start a fight,

But my understanding was that possesion was legal. Like ordering to their house or something would be not the best move, but possessing and using I always thought was legal.

Anyone feel free to chime and explain to me.

Arguably immoral, but no, not illegal.

[warlock]

It seems that you father is just badly informed about your sport and your choices and probably thing is that there is a disconnection in terms of values.

I could go on and on but I guess that the best thing to do is to no lie: let him know that you are not harming or putting anyone in danger and let him decide whether or not to believe in you

Go about your life precisely as you are doing right now, train and eat as you should if you need to go to work out just say that you have a previous engagement that you can't postpone, if you have to diet just buy and prepare the food that you need and eat it.

And if you decide to move out: live on your own. I'd take crap from anyone from my family at any day of the week but not from a stranger.

Keep in mind that no matter what in his own head he always will be right and you will always be a kid

[Ritch]

^^^ Ha! I`ve tried "informing" my dad as you said and he simply blurted out " I`m anti drug, period" There`s no convincing him. He won`t even take my advice and go on hrt ( He`s almost 70 )

I asked him to ask his doc and the doc was having nothing to do with it. So I try to tell him to go see another one and I get discredidted for not knowing what I`m talking about because the doc said it wasen`t necessary.

Parents of today will be much more understanding with stuff like this, but older parents, I wouldn`t count on it. In their minds steroids are dangerous and will kill you. Nothing you say can make them change their minds. I even told them how they weren`t illegal before 1990 when the government asked the DEA, AMA and somebody else ( I forget ) if steroids should be criminalized. They all said no, yet the cocksucker government went ahead and made them illegal anyway.

Save your breath, and keep it hush hush if you ask me...

[Aaron_37]

Save like a jew and move out as soon as you can.

http://www.canadabodybuilding.com/forums/showthread.php?t=6248
11. Racism will not be tolerated on the site.

[Ritch]

^^^ I don`t think that`s a racist comment Aaron. What`s next? We can`t say blacks are good dancers? Geez...

[warlock]

^^^ Ha! I`ve tried "informing" my dad as you said and he simply blurted out " I`m anti drug, period" There`s no convincing him. He won`t even take my advice and go on hrt ( He`s almost 70 )

I asked him to ask his doc and the doc was having nothing to do with it. So I try to tell him to go see another one and I get discredidted for not knowing what I`m talking about because the doc said it wasen`t necessary.

Parents of today will be much more understanding with stuff like this, but older parents, I wouldn`t count on it. In their minds steroids are dangerous and will kill you. Nothing you say can make them change their minds. I even told them how they weren`t illegal before 1990 when the government asked the DEA, AMA and somebody else ( I forget ) if steroids should be criminalized. They all said no, yet the cocksucker government went ahead and made them illegal anyway.

Save your breath, and keep it hush hush if you ask me...

Yep trying to have an argument with a parent is waste of energy most of the time.

My mom loved to use the line "I am you mother!" the subtext was: shut up I can do/say whatever I want and you just comply.

A few years in my 20's I started making fun of her saying stuff like: "You shouldn't have unprotected sex!" or " I know it was a Saturday night and you where drunk!" My brother pissed on their pants laughing at us.

[monkey]

I live with my dad ( her is 80 and alone.. so I sorta look after him).
He found a vial of HCG in the fridge and has seen me bloat up twice..

Ive heard the saying " My friends said you should watch if XXX goes on steroids, he is so big bla bla"

Ignorance is bliss and he knows that I am doing him a huge favor by staying with him