Need Help with "body language"

[ab_chic25]

OK so it seems when I go out that I am not sending out the right kinda body language. I guess I need some tips on what makes a woman seem more approachable when she is out. So guys please help me out here and give me some hints.. :help

Thanks lol

[bigtavi8]

All i can say is look approachable and down to earth. Depending on the man it can be intimidating if you look like your into what your doign and your friends and dont want to be bothered. I dont no how to say it but be approachable like welcoming and inviting body language. For example if someone makes eye contact you are interested in give them a slight smile. OR if someone approaches you to start a convo give them the feeling you are into what there saying and eye contact.

[ubcpower]

smile.
too many girls have this Victoria Beckham all business look these days

[BAM]

yes.. a smile goes a long way.

[GYMBRAT]

SMILE! :)

[kloan]

Lick your lips, flick your hair, bat your eyelashes, giggle. Twisting your nipples and rubbing your legs together will probably help send the right signals as well.

:sexf

[Praetorian]

Smile and make eye contact.
P

[ab_chic25]

Lick your lips, flick your hair, bat your eyelashes, giggle. Twisting your nipples and rubbing your legs together will probably help send the right signals as well.




hmmmmmm yeah ok not lol............number one i can not stand "air heads" and not going to stand there with my hand up my shirt hahaha..if i saw someone rubbing their legs together first thing that would run in my mind is, man the bathroom is right over there or you have BAD CRABS hahahaha

[kloan]

haha, i wasn't being serious...

but it's no secret some women can get off by rubbing their legs together... i've seen it many a times. ;)
oh and hey you can rub your nipples from the outside, no need to put your hands up your shirt... that's just silly.

[ab_chic25]

hahaha yeah not going to say anything about the getting off rubbing legs together haha.................well hmmmmmm some good hints well try to smile more, can you say "cheese" lol jk but honestly i am not used to getting looks or anything so this is all new. Your not really the one guys hit on when your almost 275lbs. so yeah i need help honestly, i clam up and stand to the back with my arms crossed, not a good thing hehe But i am different when i am drunk haha more out going haha

[LonelyBedouin]

smile.
too many girls have this Victoria Beckham all business look these days


yes.. a smile goes a long way.


SMILE! :)


Smile and make eye contact.
P

This ^^^^

Im trying to see if one of the girls in my classes is willing to be talked to but I dont have the balls to just go up so, hopefully next time we see each other Ill toss up a smile and get one back then I will approach.

[kloan]

^^what, you didn't like my advice?? :D

[#8]

cleavage and smiling = 100% approachable

[L3]

have you tired approaching? why do we always gotta do all the work...

[dremen]

OK so it seems when I go out that I am not sending out the right kinda body language. I guess I need some tips on what makes a woman seem more approachable when she is out. So guys please help me out here and give me some hints.. :help

Thanks lol

If you're just looking for a guy at the bar or club then you're only going to get a loser with some kind of std, BUT if you're looking in regular places just be yourself.

If you're shy and not easy to open up then so be it that's who you are.

You have 2 options when it comes to getting layed or finding a long term mate/companion/spouse......

1. Wait for the right guy to come to you then you make him yours.

2. Find a guy you think is handsome, kind and sweet then make him your man. Don't go all stalker psycho, but let the guy know you ****ing want him and thats that.

Just be yourself cause there is nothing worse then a bullshiter.

**this removed by MP - Do not disrespect the women here. 1st and only warning**

[ab_chic25]

have you tired approaching? why do we always gotta do all the work...


hahaha i have tried but its a 50/50 thing haha

[L3]

hahaha i have tried but its a 50/50 thing haha

honestly...if a girl approached me and she was my type, i would definately reciprocate

but ive also learned that going out to look for women usually results in nadda, im sure the same rule can be applied to the opposite sex

people are attracted to attention, if you look like you're having a good time with your friends, guys AND girls will naturally be attracted to you, because everyone wants to have a good time :D

:a+

[warlock]

I guess that the rule #1 is to go out to have a good time.

People that are looking or look like they are looking just attract the wrong type of people and scare the right type of people

[Big D]

bingo
what L3 and warlock said.

i'm not single so when I go out its just to have a good time with some old friends .and girls seem to approach us often

[AskChris]

Look your gonna have to do some thing's that you haven't done before.
If your shy your going to need to open up a bit and be the first one to say hi,I think one of the first mistakes people make is they think they need to play some game with each other. Don't play any game,if you see someone you like go up and say hi start up a conversation. And don't buy into the whole rejection thing,it's not true anyway. There's no such thing as rejection! Let me explain what I mean;If you start up a conversation with someone and you don't feel they're interested, trust your gut. Your probably right but don't take it personally he might be looking for a woman who's 6'2 and blonde and if you are 6'2 and blonde and he's not interested he's probably looking for someone who's 5'2 and brunette.
The point is don't take it or life so seriously;do yourself a favor lighten up and have some fun!

[ab_chic25]

ok maybe i should have said a couple more things. It seems like it came across wrong and that I dont know how to "lighten up and have fun". Well thats wrong, I do and know how to "lighten up and have fun" lol. Its just I am wondering how to send out signs to guys that I am approachable. I actually have looked online and found that I have been sending out the wrong body language. But when people get to know me, I can be the best person you meet that night. but hey I will try some of these hints next time I am out and see what happens.

[dremen]

ok maybe i should have said a couple more things. It seems like it came across wrong and that I dont know how to "lighten up and have fun". Well thats wrong, I do and know how to "lighten up and have fun" lol. Its just I am wondering how to send out signs to guys that I am approachable. I actually have looked online and found that I have been sending out the wrong body language. But when people get to know me, I can be the best person you meet that night. but hey I will try some of these hints next time I am out and see what happens.

Honestly just be yourself ab_chic25. You seem like a very down to Earth gal and being on this site I would think you would be ok going out with a guy that uses AAS so maybe try and start something up with a guy from the gym if any peak your interest. Not saying all guys at the gym use, but ya never know.

Don't forget it never hurts to take what you want out of life.

Cheers:)

[Talo]

Why do you always bring up AAS ?

[dremen]

Why do you always bring up AAS ?


What now im the only person that talks about AAS???

Im not even going to bother....lol

[Talo]

No , but you always bring it up . No matter what the topic is.

[dremen]

No , but you always bring it up . No matter what the topic is.

No I don't. Quit pulling shit out of yer ass. Now please STFU.

[ab_chic25]

Honestly just be yourself ab_chic25. You seem like a very down to Earth gal and being on this site I would think you would be ok going out with a guy that uses AAS so maybe try and start something up with a guy from the gym if any peak your interest. Not saying all guys at the gym use, but ya never know.

Don't forget it never hurts to take what you want out of life.

Cheers:)



hehehe so should I try to talk to them between grunts and groans, or maybe in the co-ed steam room or sauna, where they really might get the idea bawhahahaha...............

[dremen]

hehehe so should I try to talk to them between grunts and groans, or maybe in the co-ed steam room or sauna, where they really might get the idea bawhahahaha...............


I did'nt mean it like that, cmon now:p

[Big D]

I dont see how people can pick up in a gym,

I'm usually covered in sweat, and not feeling attractive at all.
I would never approach a girl in the gym.

[L3]

ive successfully picked up 2 girls at the gym in 3 years... yeah.. im awesome

1 worked out
1 didnt

[dremen]

I dont see how people can pick up in a gym,

I'm usually covered in sweat, and not feeling attractive at all.
I would never approach a girl in the gym.

It's totaly different when reversed. You telling me that if a good looking gal from the gym started up a conversation with you then gave you her number you would'nt be cool with that.....lol

Im not saying the gym should be used as a meat market. The idea of meeting someone of the opposite sex at the gym to start something with is not that far fetched.

[PdH]

I've picked up in the gym when I was younger. I'm awesome too. :)

[BBbox]

all the girls wear their earphones at all times at my gym, this comes off as a sign that you dont want to be bothered

[gregdoucette]

U need to sit alone as opposed to being with a group of girls. Its harder for me to go up to 5 girls sitting together then 1. Guys #1 fear is rejection. regection from 5 is worse then from 1 thats my advice.

[Big D]

ive successfully picked up 2 girls at the gym in 3 years... yeah.. im awesome



lmao

[evoke]

smile, eye contact etc etc

but more importantly you have to be alone, imo.



U need to sit alone as opposed to being with a group of girls. Its harder for me to go up to 5 girls sitting together then 1. Guys #1 fear is rejection. regection from 5 is worse then from 1 thats my advice.

^^completely agree with this.

[Big D]

It's totaly different when reversed. You telling me that if a good looking gal from the gym started up a conversation with you then gave you her number you would'nt be cool with that.....lol

Im not saying the gym should be used as a meat market. The idea of meeting someone of the opposite sex at the gym to start something with is not that far fetched.

the thing is, when i'm at the gym I actually workout ....

i'm not saying I would turn a lady down, i'm just saying i'm not that approachable when i'm at the gym, I have my head phones on and I dont talk to anyone. plus being covered in sweat dosent help.

[natenator]

the thing is, when i'm at the gym I actually workout ....

i'm not saying I would turn a lady down, i'm just saying i'm not that approachable when i'm at the gym, I have my head phones on and I dont talk to anyone. plus being covered in sweat dosent help.
yup, ditto.

I got the word **** off written across my forehead.

I don't want to be approachable. I want to get in, get my shit done and get out.

[ironwill]

yup, ditto.

I got the word **** off written across my forehead.

I don't want to be approachable. I want to get in, get my shit done and get out.

LOL, i have a black hat that has a big middle finger in white emblazened on the front of it...That is my gym hat, and it works well.....!!!
Even CC doesnt talk to me much or she gets "THE EYE"...lol
It has to be done, or 1 person leads to 2 and so on...Theres about 4-5 guys that chat quick and i say hi and down to business, afterwards ill talk your damn ear off though....lol

[dremen]

the thing is, when i'm at the gym I actually workout ....

i'm not saying I would turn a lady down, i'm just saying i'm not that approachable when i'm at the gym, I have my head phones on and I dont talk to anyone. plus being covered in sweat dosent help.

I know I just ment if the chance was there ab chic might want to take it.

And I did'nt mean during the workouts or anything. I chit chat a lil on the way in then maybe a lil in the sit down/eating room after.

Ahhhh I give up.