The selfish truth

[bigtavi8]

Take this rant for what it is. Dont agree or disagree just discuss. Friday night later on i was on my way to the gym and it was quite the drive. I began thinking deeply for some reason. I thought about my day and my life as a whole. Being a bodybuilder when it comes down to it is a very selfish existance.
Driving to the gym i looked around at ppl in there cars all with friends and going out to party and then i thought...**** that id rather be by myself training. All my money goes to food. I work to feed myself and my supplements, gas for the gym. I hardly see my gf anymore because with work and training i dont get done till 11 and then im beat. I cook my food for me and no one can eat it because its weighed. I sacrifice outings and dinners because IM dieting. And overall im a lil grumpier at work becasue im dieting.
The problem is im happy deep down and im proud. Id rather be by myself friday night with my headphones on working out alone then be out with friends partying and drinking it up. Its seems like its all about me. Then i go home eat the food i i have prepared and go to bed early to get a start on the next day and do it all over.

I know it sounds crazy its just when doing a prep its so time consuming you just hope your support like your gfs, parents, friends, gym partners, etc. understand and are still there for ya when its all done and its back to normal life.

[natenator]

You're still young and you can have these thoughts but as you get older those thoughts start to slide away and you're left wondering... what exactly am I doing this for?

Life is about balance and unless you plan to make your living from your body I would start to try and find that balance now because having to go back and try to do it is a chore later on in life.

[z83]

great post ^^

[tiramisu]

If I removed the internet addiction the bb part of wouldn't be that bad.
I need to put myself on a time limit.

[nii]

I'm finding a hard time finding a balance as well. Weekends for example, going somewhere where a microwave is not available to be a true pain. For example, something as simple as going to a movie or the mall, has to be planned so i leave JUST after a meal, in order to get back in time for the next. And in the summer, baby jesus help me, something as simple as going to the beach or outdoor event of some kind is just not fun anymore. Pack 3 meals and having no microwave makes the meals almost unedible.

How do you guys get through all day events where you have to bring 3 or so meals?

[#8]

when you are living to train, and not training for fun/fitness/vanity then it becomes a hassle and a chore. balance it out and have fun with your friends. like nate said, unless you want it to be your career its not worth all the sacrificing. you really get nothing out of it other than personal satisfaction/gratification. but in the end those things dont pay your bills or keep you company.

try to relax a bit. there is more to life than eating out of glad containers.

[Ritch]

I think the people who eat 6 times a day, train 4 times plus a week, make special meals for themselves, then claim to have balanced lives, simply have a different meaning of what a balanced life is. I mean the guy who works a regular job only has so many hours left in his day when work ends. Most us people, I`m sure hit the gym after work. When you get home, how much time if left until you go to bed? I`m guessing 2 hours tops. Since this is done on the majority of the days of the week, the others could be left for other stuff.

But then stuff like extra cooking, stretching and just plain needing to rest come in. I don`t see how a normal life fits in here. As for myself, just doing everything I need to make happen what I want to in the gym a reality, makes me tired too do anything else. I`m not an overly social person, so that aspect I don`t care much of. Plus I use public transportation to go anywhere and doing "non gym" stuff means more of it. I`d rather stay at home and bust balls on this very site most the time, lol..

The other thing is money. It`s tight in my situation and a major portion of it goes into bodybuilding. Some of you may find that pathetic. But for a guy who was into rec shit heavily for a long period of time like myself, I`m more than glad to put the $$$ in bodybuilding than up my nose as it was once my number 1 priority... Another reason why I stay low key. The more I go out, the greater chances I have of doing stupid shit. I`m better off being busy with gym stuff, at least for now.

[faller]

try to relax a bit. there is more to life than eating out of glad containers.

Exactly!! You'd be missing out on this..

http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o113/faller11/random%20shit/852520Doughnut2520Burgers2520Mmm_th.jpg

[Bowlcut]

Unless you have a wife, kids, or other real responsibilities it is not being selfish to be in this lifestyle. My mom sometimes gives me shit but having no wife or kids means I can be focused on myself for as long as I want.

It all changes when the kids come so enjoy it while you can.


As for packing meals for a day trip bring a cooler with things that don't need to be microwaved like greek salads and cold steak.

[guest]

I don't think you are selfish. You are being responsible and accountable for your life, going after what you want. Family should understand as would any true friends. If you were married with kids, like said above, it would be different. You are on a good path for a young man.

[vakker]

You're still young and you can have these thoughts but as you get older those thoughts start to slide away and you're left wondering... what exactly am I doing this for?

Life is about balance and unless you plan to make your living from your body I would start to try and find that balance now because having to go back and try to do it is a chore later on in life.

I agree

[69challenger]

You can be married, have kids and still find a good balance. It's taken me YEARS to find this, but now that I have, training/eating/working, etc is not a hassle.

[natenator]

You can be married, have kids and still find a good balance. It's taken me YEARS to find this, but now that I have, training/eating/working, etc is not a hassle.
it helps you have someone who supports your goals and pursuits otherwise your balance between training a life like regular folk would be strained and difficult to maintain.

[cog]

And 69 trains at home.Away from all the x-rays.

[69challenger]

it helps you have someone who supports your goals and pursuits otherwise your balance between training a life like regular folk would be strained and difficult to maintain.

your right

[69challenger]

And 69 trains at home.Away from all the x-rays.

Having a home studio is definately a bonus, I've never had to workout in a gym. I train myself (and clients) here.

[cog]

From what I could see in the pics it looked fully equipped.

[69challenger]

We've been adding pieces over the last 15 years. Last week, I finally got my hacksquat machine...Now, I think I have everything I need:)

[Ritch]

I would really be interested for someone with a family to log a typical week day over 5-7 days showing how they manage, work, training and everything that goes with it.

[L3]

i lived to train for about 2 years...then i burned out bad, real bad... now im back to it, but im one of those people who gives it 125% or nothing...hopefully with age ill be able to practice moderation

until then, i'm bangin sauce as long as my bloodwork comes back decent LOL... but since 2010 ive dropped the three vices that have plagued me since highschool: smoking dope, smoking cigarettes, and drinking... ive become way more social, and i've even made new meaningful friendships, something i haven't been able to accomplish in years :)

[treebuilder]

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[Ritch]

Thanks for sharing that treebuilder. I didn`t notice where you fit in a workout. I`d be one grumpy mofo going to bed and getting up the times you do. But I guess there is a sense of satisfaction that you thrive off being a parent. Something I can understand but am not willing to put myself through. For now...

[monkey]

Honestly.. I lived to train for quite a while.. and i was satisfied with my body but can't say happy or balanced. I felt resent for not being able to simply go out with people and have fun.. etc. all the sacrifices that I made..


Well, I still train hard, eat good.. but I am not psycho about it non stop. I dont have a six pack anymore, no where close but I am still making gains and simply a lot happier now.. I find it a lot easier to go in bursts.. ( 8 weeks hard, then maintain for a bit etc..)

Bottom line, a bit of balance helps me to keep enjoy training, keep enjouying life. I will never make a dime of my body.. so I might as well enjoy life and not look back one day and realized I missed out on life for a body that mostly only I appreciated