View Full Version : My CBB friends. I really need your help! PLEASE!
Boost
10-03-2008, 01:42 AM
I am 26 yrs old. My girlfriend is saying to choose creatine or her. She does not think creatine is good for a person etc etc... whatever lol. Everyone is intitled to their own opinion, silly or not. Nothing wrong with that. She smokes by the way... (yeah I know). Her excuse is that I met her as a smoker and she didn't meet me on creatine.
What do I do? Even if she does not find a bad side affect about it on the internet she is still going to be against it. I am seriously into strength, exercise and overall health. I am definitly going to use creatine and other supplements again. No doubt about it. Weight training is a huge part of who I am and I can't have someone controlling my basic supplement use. I am not going to hide my use either so please do not suggest this.
She says to snuggle with my creatine bottle or with her. As she left she said she would really like a kiss goodbye but I did not give her a kiss. I was annoyed and not in the mood to kiss her.
I don't want to make the wrong decision though. She told me that she would like to one day have kids and get married to me etc.
I would actually miss her alot but I would not be happy with someone who says that I can't use certain legal supplements. She says that one day she will quit smoking. She said if we ever planned to have kids she would quit a year in advance and never smoke again after that.
WTF DO I DO?!!!?!?!
Houstonbc
10-03-2008, 02:36 AM
Geez man i think shes over reacting BIG TIME but women tend to do that. well if you really like her then what i would do if i just couldnt be without my creatine i would put it in a empty protein powder container as if shes gonna know the difference . i know thats hiding it but hey man maybe you just need to shw her whos in control of whos life here after all the stuffs shown to be good for you! unlike cigarrettes
Boost
10-03-2008, 03:42 AM
I just hate watching her smoking and thinking to myself that I can't do what I want and like.
She smokes, does not eat right, does not exercise very much and tells me that I can't use supplements that she thinks are not safe. She looks good but she is also 24 years old. If she keeps this up, she is going to look alot different in 10 years and I have a feeling she is not going to change any time soon.
I care about her alot but have doubts about a happy future with her sometimes.
bottleneckblooz
10-03-2008, 04:54 AM
I would actually miss her alot but I would not be happy with someone who says that I can't use certain legal supplements. She says that one day she will quit smoking. She said if we ever planned to have kids she would quit a year in advance and never smoke again after that.
WTF DO I DO?!!!?!?!
There's your answer bro. She sounds like a major control freak. Today it's creatine, tommorrow she will have you not eating meat, and so on! I know it's hard but you are better off without her.
She said if we ever planned to have kids she would quit a year in advance and never smoke again after that.
WTF DO I DO?!!!?!?!
LOL, yeah because kids are ALWAYS planned in advance.
gustavo77
10-03-2008, 06:07 AM
She is a classic control freak bro....nip this in the bud now. Stand up for **** sakes, you are man for crying out loud, stop being a pussy. If she can inhale 2000 ****ing chemicals into her body with every drag she takes, then you sure as hell should be able to take creatine. Bud, if you do not get a grip on this situation now, your future is gonna be very different than what you had imagined. Finally, tell her it is you or the cigs, that she can snuggle up with her pack of cigs when you are gone...she how she likes those apples.
Mr.Freeze
10-03-2008, 09:01 AM
dump her before its too late!:D
champcar99
10-03-2008, 09:16 AM
she's going to be a slug, with smoking, not working out and not eating right. and you take care of yourself...She's a ****in idiot plain and simple dude.. "I don't want you taking creatine", but i smoke, I eat shit and barely workout...Yes she is a ****in idiot...She needs to shut the **** up..
carlc
10-03-2008, 09:32 AM
It can't be about creatine - more likely she does not like the person you are becoming as you become more and more obsessed with bbing - a very common reaction from women in our lives - a lot of them throw down the gauntlet and try to make us choose one way or the other. However, women are interesting creatures.....unlike men, they don't naturally communicate their ACTUAL problem until they have attempted over and over again to guide you (I like the word guide more than manipulate, because manipulate implies ill intent, which is generally not the case) in a direction they prefer for you.....
if you stop using creatine it will become about something else.....maybe the hours you go to the gym, maybe your increasingly aggresive nature, maybe something else.....there is no point in trying to explain the difference between legal and illegal substances, since she p[robably knows (even if you don't yet) that one day it WILL be about the illegal substances, and maybe she hopes she can stave it off early.....
Women look a hell of a lot more into the future than we men do.....which is why I have never understood why more women are not naturally gifted at chess....perhaps it is that they are simply not interested in it.....but in the game of life, they are always seeing 3 or 4 steps ahead of you believe me.....however, that is because you are just not looking there.
Okay, I will give everyone a break and shut up now - in your case bro, it has started early, but the end result will be the same - either there will always be this division in your re4lationship, or you will eventually give up bbing. Good luck.
I would run - fast. And I don't do any cardio right now, so that's saying a lot.
She is bad news.
champcar99
10-03-2008, 10:35 AM
I would run - fast. And I don't do any cardio right now, so that's saying a lot.
She is bad news.
too funny
Preacher
10-03-2008, 11:05 AM
She's just trying to control you, I bet its nothing to do with creatine at all.... I would walk away from this one....
Better yet get too jugs of creatine and cuddle them in bed tonight..... Every time she goes for a smoke, you make a shake.....
Sounds like she is a control freak,just tell here how you feel,if not then make a pick.
bigdaddydrew123
10-03-2008, 12:23 PM
i cant believe this is over creatine. just do what you want if she leaves you over this be glad she leaves now not over a later issue . if she is that controlling that shes willing to make this a crucial issue how will she be on big life issues . doesnt sound like a partner for life to me anyways
physique
10-03-2008, 01:45 PM
tell her u gave up creatine and start a steroid cycle!!! LOL
just joking, i think you said it best right here:
I am seriously into strength, exercise and overall health. I am definitly going to use creatine and other supplements again. No doubt about it. Weight training is a huge part of who I am and I can't have someone controlling my basic supplement use.
Do what makes you feel good. And let her walk, plenty of fish in the sea man. Dont settle for someone that doesnt accept your dreams and goals. Find someone who does!
* on a side note,how u can date a smoker is beyond me, its like kissing a ashtray. *
carlc
10-03-2008, 01:50 PM
Dont settle for someone that doesnt accept your dreams and goals. Find someone who does!
AMEN! Preach it. Seriously, though, this sentence pretty much says it all.
ergie
10-03-2008, 02:36 PM
You let her get away with treating you like that and she'll control you for the rest of your life and you don't need that.
Boost
10-03-2008, 03:51 PM
I look at the photo album that she made for us and I can't deny that I care about her alot. She is acting controlling with my supplement use and does not take the best care of herself. I tried telling her but she has not changed her ways very much at all. I don't want to be stuck with something like that, but I care about her alot. If I broke up with her I would really miss her.
Boost
10-03-2008, 03:54 PM
The pictures really get to me and thinking that I will never see her again really kills me. I care about her alot but don't know if she is the right girl for me.
Bowlcut
10-03-2008, 03:57 PM
The pictures really get to me and thinking that I will never see her again really kills me. I care about her alot but don't know if she is the right girl for me.
You are going to more miserable with her in 5 years than you will once you move on.
First she says no creatine, then no night out with the guys, then no hockey, and then you are fuked.
If you even have to seriously consider if she is the right one for you than she is not. If she felt the same way about you she would not be worrying about the small issues like creatine.
I almost thought this thread was a joke at first because the situation is absurd.
warlock
10-03-2008, 04:01 PM
Dump The Bitch Or Submit And Shut Up!
bigben
10-03-2008, 04:09 PM
Do yourself a big favor and take the serious criticism of her controlling behavior seriously. Ask yourself whether this is the only issue of control, and love me or leave me ultimatums she has imposed. Have a serious talk with her about what rational reasons exist for your not being able to use creatine. Tell her you can't reconcile her irrational regulation of your health when she disregards her own health by smoking. Personally, that would have been the last straw for me if my significant other tried to control me like that, for what it sounds like, nothing other than her own personal reasons. Can you see spending the rest of your life like this? If not, waste no more time, dump her.
Boost
10-03-2008, 04:22 PM
If you even have to seriously consider if she is the right one for you than she is not. If she felt the same way about you she would not be worrying about the small issues like creatine.
Very true point.
I also think that she is testing me. To see if I choose her over creatine.
Very true point.
I also think that she is testing me. To see if I choose her over creatine.
You don't need the mind games. Find a woman who says what she means and means what she says (and yes, they do exist - I found one and am one). I hate that passive-aggressive crap. I am too old for that, lol.
AlbertaBeef
10-03-2008, 04:45 PM
She could be testing but one thing for certain is you can't be responsible or blamed for her ignorance. I'm not trying to be rude but her lack of education/information on the way you look after your health is leading to her irrational cognitions and distorted perceptions of what you do. If you really see a future with her you'll just have to be more stealthy and not make this "creatine use" known. You relational expert types will advise that this is deception and a solid relation cannot exist on a foundation of lies and that's fine, you go with that however I refer to the first part of my post, in a perfect world with perfect people.....
guest1
10-03-2008, 06:37 PM
If you put up with this and give in you'd be doing a major disservice to every man alive and if I knew you I'd punch your teeth in for ****ing things up for the rest of us . Take EVERYONE'S advice and get out while the gettin's good . Good luck .
Houstonbc
10-03-2008, 07:29 PM
man just put it down like this its my body im an adult i can take whatever i want and do whatever i want to it. Whos the boss of you anyways you or her **** man stand up for yourself take the creatine if she leaves then its probably a blessing in disguise for you, if not then she'll realize she cant have control over what you choose to supplement with and whatever else she might have a problem with you doing in the future.
MuSuLPhReAk
10-03-2008, 07:45 PM
I would suggest not to give in to her and not dump her. Just show you are of strong character and that her threats won't jive with you. If she walks away, nothing you can do. It's best that way. If she chooses to stay, you've already set the boundaries she can't cross which will cause her to respect you more. And you'll feel like a man without having to put her down or anything.
MuSuLPhReAk
10-03-2008, 07:47 PM
Find a woman who says what she means and means what she says (and yes, they do exist - I found one and am one).
Am I reading that right?
Am I reading that right?
Yup.
MuSuLPhReAk
10-03-2008, 08:23 PM
Cool. I spent a lot of time with a woman like you last year. (as friends of course). We were very open in our discussions and we used to check out the women together. Was fun :)
We were very open in our discussions and we used to check out the women together. Was fun :)
That's what I do with all of my buddies, lol.
champcar99
10-03-2008, 08:27 PM
Boost if you don't want to lose the bitch , just ****in lie to her, it's really not that big of a issue...Just put the creatine in a different container, empty whey container or what ever or hide it , what she does't know isn't going to hurt her, but that eating and smoking like she does might catch up with her...
BOOST lie to her..its easy, it's painless , it's free and you still get the controlling bitch and if your lucky she will control even more of your life down the road.....everyone wins...lol..
trykillthis
10-03-2008, 09:27 PM
Toss her right now. Quick like a band-aid. It might suck now but it will be better in the long run. You are at the top of a very slippery slope. Either break it off or put you foot down and tell her how its gonna be. SHe may even respect you more for it. Everyone needs to be put in their place now and then. Relationships aren't about testing each other, its about respecting each others differences.
Plus a smoker, blech.
Demonwolf
11-03-2008, 02:07 AM
Sounds to me like she is basicly saying you are a child and she decides what's right for you.
Are you incapable of making your own decisions? Are you an incompetant moron?
Get pissed man, because that's what she thinks of you. There is no respect for you coming from her direction.
Boost
11-03-2008, 03:11 AM
I got it out of her tonight. She said she was testing me to see how much I like her, asking me too choose her or the supplements.
I chose the supplements and told her I will not be controlled. I said if it does not affect her or our future,do not talk to me about it. I said if I smoked then that would affect our future as I would become sick over time due to smoking. Smoking would be something that would have to change as it would affect me by having a sick wife in the future and not enjoying life.
She thinks I chose supps over her, but I actually chose freedom over her. Freedom to use legal supps that do not cause sickness and cancer like smoking does.
Tomorrow I am going to tell her to choose smoking or me. I refuse to have a shitty future with a sick unhealthy possible wife.
Mr.Freeze
11-03-2008, 03:19 AM
tell her who's the men:D
Boost
11-03-2008, 03:24 AM
tell her who's the men:D
men? You french bastard!! LOL! Kidding. :D
Mr.Freeze
11-03-2008, 03:34 AM
lol:D
champcar99
11-03-2008, 09:45 AM
I got it out of her tonight. She said she was testing me to see how much I like her, asking me too choose her or the supplements.
I chose the supplements and told her I will not be controlled. I said if it does not affect her or our future,do not talk to me about it. I said if I smoked then that would affect our future as I would become sick over time due to smoking. Smoking would be something that would have to change as it would affect me by having a sick wife in the future and not enjoying life.
She thinks I chose supps over her, but I actually chose freedom over her. Freedom to use legal supps that do not cause sickness and cancer like smoking does.
Tomorrow I am going to tell her to choose smoking or me. I refuse to have a shitty future with a sick unhealthy possible wife.
Good plan ...
Mr.Freeze
11-03-2008, 10:52 AM
I got it out of her tonight. She said she was testing me to see how much I like her, asking me too choose her or the supplements.
I chose the supplements and told her I will not be controlled. I said if it does not affect her or our future,do not talk to me about it. I said if I smoked then that would affect our future as I would become sick over time due to smoking. Smoking would be something that would have to change as it would affect me by having a sick wife in the future and not enjoying life.
She thinks I chose supps over her, but I actually chose freedom over her. Freedom to use legal supps that do not cause sickness and cancer like smoking does.
Tomorrow I am going to tell her to choose smoking or me. I refuse to have a shitty future with a sick unhealthy possible wife.
so did you tell her?:D
MIAGIONJUS
11-03-2008, 01:26 PM
LOL, this thread is fukin hilarious. Few words of wisdom... never ever ever let a woman control any aspect of your life. Relationships involve 2 ppl and if she wants to make it all about wat she wants with no regard for wat u want then ur better without her. Just remember there is tons of pussy out there.. no need to settle for a controling pussey when there are other options. My 2 cents.....
69challenger
11-03-2008, 04:48 PM
GET OUT NOW......you'll be happier in the long run.
Boost
11-03-2008, 05:14 PM
Update:
She said she is not going to be controlling at all anymore. This was a test for her too see how much I like her. I cheated on her once and that is probably a reason that she has doubts. I showed her what I am made of. I told her to quit smoking and she said she will give it her best shot. She said she would live in a cardboard box just to be with me.
She is definitly worth a try. This is the smartest thing to do. I do actually care about this girl alot. Im not going to just give up like that. I am going to try and help her to change some things so that I can live a happy life with a healthy girl. I will not accept anything less than healthy and happy for my future.
Thanks for all the replys and thanks for listening.
Bowlcut
11-03-2008, 05:32 PM
Women are too much work.
MIAGIONJUS
11-03-2008, 05:48 PM
hopefully it works out for u bud, sounds like you guys have somthing worth holding on to if u can get passed the controll thing, which by the sounds of it seems like you have. anyways good luck
69challenger
11-03-2008, 07:07 PM
hopefully it works out for u bud, sounds like you guys have somthing worth holding on to if u can get passed the controll thing, which by the sounds of it seems like you have. anyways good luck
....if HE can get past the 'control thing' and SHE can get past the 'cheating thing'....
Preacher
11-03-2008, 07:26 PM
I'd dump her for doing this.....
Demonwolf
11-03-2008, 11:28 PM
Women are too much work.
HA :D
Boost
12-03-2008, 02:14 AM
HA :D
GOT THAT RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
trykillthis
12-03-2008, 10:20 PM
Way to put your foot down! Everyone has to do it at least once to set boundaries.
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