First dates SUCK...

[LonelyBedouin]

Had a semi-blind date tonight. Friend of a friend Ive talked to her on facebook or texts. But never met her. We met up for a drink. And **** it was like pulling nails to get her to talk. I assume shes just shy in person and hopefully she will loosen up. But in general first dates absolutely suck...

[tiramisu]

That's why I always skip straight to the second date.

[Memo]

can you touch poonany on second date?

[LonelyBedouin]

That's why I always skip straight to the second date.

Ahaha let me in on your secret how to get past that first date. I usually dont go for drinks, and I dont think I will be doing that again.;..

[#8]

you both just need some booze.

[monkey]

Booze has saved several first dates of mine...

[LonelyBedouin]

you both just need some booze.

We went out for drinks lol I was driving but she had a couple.... Unless shes some freak heavyweight drinker lol

[#8]

We went out for drinks lol I was driving but she had a couple.... Unless shes some freak heavyweight drinker lol

i hear ya. you just didnt have enough drinks then. :handsome

[L3]

2nd date have her to your place and cook her dinner, then feed her a bottle of wine...works every time

[natenator]

I've had people tell me when I've done the first date thing that I am very easy to talk to and hang with so if I do encounter someone on a first date that I can't get to talk then I cut my losses and don't go out again or I'll be very honest with them.

I do need someone that I can carry on a conversation with. She need not be a rhodes scholar but some ability to handle some conversational topics other than the hot list of TMZ or Entertainment tonight is required.

[LonelyBedouin]

Ahah thanks guys.

And Nate I cant agree with you more. Im going to give it one last shot and if its pulling teeth again trying to get her to loosen up. I think once she does open up it will be good, as she is going through university so she should have some kind of knowledge...

[daande]

as she is going through university so she should have some kind of knowledge...

You'd be surprised.

[natenator]

You'd be surprised.
True. Afterall, you're in school...

[LonelyBedouin]

You'd be surprised.


True. Afterall, you're in school...

Bahahaha, **** you guys crack me up lol, yea so Im giving it one more shot. Hopefully Im right and shes just shy and will open up a little bit cause last night was the first time we met in person.

[simone]

I usually get them into more "social" settings.. ie. instead of a coffee or a drink... will say "hey i need some new shirts, how about you just meet me at the mall and help me pick one out".... (i'm colourblind so i can throw that in too)... keeps it more fun.. get to see what they're really like.. not some "interview"... and if it goes good.. then go grab a drink.

[Felinecougar]

I usually have no problems on first dates accept once.

Me..You did say you are active, I work out at the gym regularly. What do you do?
Him..I have no use for those people, been there-done that.

It's not the conversation thing I can't get past..it's silly things like he's to hairy or he is as round as I am tall. LOL

Good luck

[daande]

True. Afterall, you're in school...

How are you attempting to tell me I am stupid?

[ubcpower]

i cant do first dates...theyre generally too painful.
i like to meet a girl first time in a group setting....usually a friend of a friend type thing

[Gemini]

i cant do first dates...theyre generally too painful.
i like to meet a girl first time in a group setting....usually a friend of a friend type thing

Same here. Makes it a lot less awkward, less pressure. The fact that you're only out to have fun with friends makes it a lot easier to create a bond with a girl you're interested in. Just easier to build comfort and rapport between the two of you compared to a date where it's just you in her and the main goal is to determine if you're boyfriend/girlfriend material.

[Gilmour]

Ever heard of a thing callled a roofie?

[cog]

OP should have loosened her up first...

[BAM]

comedy club

problem solved.