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goatman
08-01-2010, 01:48 PM
i have been seeing this girl for about 6 months, shes real sweet kinda, she has met my whole family which is a huge step, and i work with her.. even worse. i have tried to train her, i tell her "no you shouldn't say things like that" prime example she is in university, wants to go to england for 6 months for some exchange shit in a year. im supportive i ask, what will happen to us, i don't do breaks its just stupid. so is long distance ok? (mind you she was the one who kept suggesting we get kinda serious) she goes well you know if we are still together i guess we would see where were at if we take a break or do long distance (i have explained break to me means BREAK-UP) so that just changed how im going to take this relationship for the next year.. and she is that girl who when you go out to the bar with your buddies and her friends all that you will all be sitting around talking, my girl friend is off meeting new people i have seen her buy sooo many guys drinks at the bar and get them bought for her, she knows this bothers me but thinks its more then ok.. shes always saying things that are totally just stupid the other night she saw her ex at the gym and told me "oh he knows he messed up and feels real sorry about what he did" and today was just awful i wont get into what happened when we were in bed... i dont know if u guys wana hear that..

pretty much im debating on leaving her.. think she can be fixed lol

Memo
08-01-2010, 01:52 PM
low quality chicks like that are no potential for long term. She might change in the future but right now.. she will make you miserable.

goatman
08-01-2010, 01:57 PM
it seems like she is giving me more grief then its worth im hardly ever happy anymore and i just started AAS on wendsday too. not sure if ill be able to contain myself on cycle

fitnurss
08-01-2010, 02:00 PM
Aw that's sad, it sounds like you really like her. She obviously likes the male attention if she's out at the bar buying guys drinks and letting guys buy her drinks. That's disrespectful to you. If she's telling you about her ex wanting her back, she's likely really insecure and feels the need to make it obvious to you that she is desirable. She's trying to make you jealous, she's playing games. In the meantime, she's making you look like a chump for sticking around. She's testing you to see how far she can push.

PdH
08-01-2010, 02:04 PM
She's pulling you into her dysfunctional games Bro. Call her on it and if she does not agree to some compromises (on both of your parts) and make an effort to change, then you need to re-evaluate the relationship. It will just get more dramatic and unhealthy if you leave it as is.

fitnurss
08-01-2010, 02:04 PM
how old are you OP?

goatman
08-01-2010, 02:12 PM
22 this would be my second serious relationship first one was 4 years she left me 1.5 years ago when i lost my job as a tool and die maker and cheated on me with some fat slob.... she is totally insecure ill give you that and i tell her everyday how good she looks etc

L3
08-01-2010, 02:24 PM
imo girl has low self esteem if she needs to have guys buy her drinks when she has a BF, even lower if shes buying other guys drinks. i would begin to start emotionally unattaching yourself now, before the AAS affects your alpha male "no shes mine you cant have her"... keep her aroudn tho, you're gonna be one horny mother****er very soon, and trust me blowing a load in a tissue 5 times a day gets old real fast

waderow
08-01-2010, 02:29 PM
turf her

u want serious, she wants cockS <---plural

Memo
08-01-2010, 02:32 PM
keep her aroudn tho, you're gonna be one horny mother****er very soon, and trust me blowing a load in a tissue 5 times a day gets old real fast

smart advice.. since i started juicing i NEED to **** my gf twice a day at least.

goatman
08-01-2010, 02:40 PM
i blow a load in a tissue 5x a day already our sex life is AWFUL and i dont foresee it getting any better. im ****ed.. i gotta go to work and see her for 5 hours now.. ill update how that does

daande
08-01-2010, 02:43 PM
I know if she goes to england she will cheat on you 100% and most likely she will tell you about it to see how you react. She buys guys drinks infront of you, tells you that her ex bf knows he ****ed up etc.. all to see how you react. I think she is a timebomb of mental illness waiting to go off.

natenator
08-01-2010, 02:43 PM
your barely getting laid?

get out the pitch fork...

monkey
08-01-2010, 09:49 PM
****ing relax!

Be the man, don't let her **** with you.
I've been there... done that...it gets easier when your relationship experience progresses..

You will never be happy if you try to train a girl or get upset about having drinks with other people..
IMO.. the key to happiness in a relationship is to take it easy... let her live her life and you yours..

She goes to England.. .. SHe is young, so are you. You can;t expect her to stay here cuz of you.. let her live life! If you even mention breakup and etc.. she might feel boxed in and stuf.
SHe comes back and you guys still like each other, good.. if not. well, not meant to be.

You seem kinda insecure yourself.. she wants to be with you, she will do what neccesary.. but she won't if you hold on to her, ask her like a wimp
" whats gonna be with us etc.. "

The problem is.. you love her more than she loves you = she has the upper hand, plays with you. Turn it around if possible, if not.. you might be ****ed.

BTW .. agreeing with Nate. If your sex life sucks at the age of 22.. well, you shouldn't bother anyways.. drop her when your about to hit PCT, lol

goatman
08-01-2010, 10:03 PM
yeah im pretty sure i let her take advantage of me.. im supportive on the whole England thing.. she is the one who wanted this to be on the "next level" so i assumed we were a little more serious.. the drink thing i was able to get over, she can go have fun, but when then end of the night comes and its time to pay my tab for 1 water and 7 of her drinks and she thinks i should cover it i get edgy.. i figured i could train her to keep her mouth shut.. there are just things that are irrelevant that don't need to be said. ill walk away, ive done it before i just thought she might be different. lets see if she comes crawling back.. after the whole England thing i can make this relationship into what i was looking for in the first place FUN.. i just dont know how she will take to my approach of not being serious lol!

kawikaratekid
08-01-2010, 10:09 PM
If you're not happy and you know there may not be a chance until she "changes" why waste each others time. Easier said than done though.

pw154
09-01-2010, 12:21 AM
I think you know what you have to do bud. You've answered your own question already, you just need to act now.

Personally I would never date girl that gives other men that sort of attention. It's disrespectful IMO.

Your sex life sucks? This one's already dead in the water

rob66679
09-01-2010, 12:37 AM
i have been seeing this girl for about 6 months, shes real sweet kinda, she has met my whole family which is a huge step, and i work with her.. even worse. i have tried to train her, i tell her "no you shouldn't say things like that" prime example she is in university, wants to go to england for 6 months for some exchange shit in a year. im supportive i ask, what will happen to us, i don't do breaks its just stupid. so is long distance ok? (mind you she was the one who kept suggesting we get kinda serious) she goes well you know if we are still together i guess we would see where were at if we take a break or do long distance (i have explained break to me means BREAK-UP) so that just changed how im going to take this relationship for the next year.. and she is that girl who when you go out to the bar with your buddies and her friends all that you will all be sitting around talking, my girl friend is off meeting new people i have seen her buy sooo many guys drinks at the bar and get them bought for her, she knows this bothers me but thinks its more then ok.. shes always saying things that are totally just stupid the other night she saw her ex at the gym and told me "oh he knows he messed up and feels real sorry about what he did" and today was just awful i wont get into what happened when we were in bed... i dont know if u guys wana hear that..

pretty much im debating on leaving her.. think she can be fixed lol

Cut your losses.... But try to **** her best friend or sister first.

monkey
09-01-2010, 12:54 AM
Cut your losses.... But try to **** her best friend or sister first.


You only loose what you invest.. you stop investing.. trying to please her and make things go your way.. well, you can have the best of it and no loose anything..

It's when you open yourself like he does.. when you can get hurt. Opening up is smt he might want to reconsider with somebody like her.

Just **** her while your cycling, treat her good but stay in control of this relationship and your emotions and you'll be fine

L3
09-01-2010, 01:30 AM
Your sex life sucks? This one's already dead in the water

qft

goatman
09-01-2010, 04:47 PM
Cut your losses.... But try to **** her best friend or sister first.

hahah ohh man i ****ed my exs 2 best friends and fooled around with her sister.. it feels SOOOOO good too... this one im not sure ill have to work on it her friends are to much effort... i told her today we need to talk in person she knows exactly whats up and called me on it.. she seems to be taking it a lot worse then me.. lets see if i can get the ball in my court here and start ****ing her around like she did too me, i always have better luck when i treat women like shit give them an inch and they take a mile

monkey
09-01-2010, 07:56 PM
hahah ohh man i ****ed my exs 2 best friends and fooled around with her sister.. it feels SOOOOO good too... this one im not sure ill have to work on it her friends are to much effort... i told her today we need to talk in person she knows exactly whats up and called me on it.. she seems to be taking it a lot worse then me.. lets see if i can get the ball in my court here and start ****ing her around like she did too me, i always have better luck when i treat women like shit give them an inch and they take a mile

That a boy// go give her your INCH