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[daande]

Soo last night my one friend and I went out with some girls that we have been hanging out with abit for the past couple days. There was one girl who caught my eye and my friends eye haha. Anyways, last night her and I were talking at the bar and she was like to her one gf lets go dance. Her friend was like nah maybe in abit so I was like I will go dance with you. So her and I danced tons had a blast it even got to the point were her and I were slow dancing to like fast songs and everyone around us was probably like wtf hahaha. So this girl and her 3 friends came back to my place so I could "make us all some food" - got it from the game (the book). That one girl ended up sleeping with me in my bed I didnt bang her because I didnt want to since she seems really nice and normal. We madeout abit and basically cuddled all night hahaha. Anyways, I thought I would share it with you guys since my last two threads in her this past week have been about me basically crying about my ex gf.

[massabsamurai]

glad its working out for u bro. time to move on :)

[BBbox]

that was fast

[daande]

I make quick moves bud.

[PdH]

I make quick moves bud.

Good luck with that daande. I predict another desperate set of writings within three weeks.

[daande]

Good luck with that daande. I predict another desperate set of writings within three weeks.

Why because I clicked with a girl I have hung out with a few times over the past couple weeks and she ended up sleeping over and we didnt even fool around or anything?

[BBbox]

^^ No because you just broke up with your gf who you were apparently so "heartbroken" over and moved on within days to some new girl to desperately fill the void instead of staying single and spending time working on the underlying personal problem

[natenator]

Why because I clicked with a girl I have hung out with a few times over the past couple weeks and she ended up sleeping over and we didnt even fool around or anything?
I think what he's getting at is before you seek out someone else you should try to spend a bit more time with yourself.

You've done nothing to try and fix you. It doesn't happen in a day or two or a week. it takes time and effort.

In other words: those who fail to their history are doomed to repeat it.

[Mr Ontario]

We have a counsellor on the board :)


I think what he's getting at is before you seek out someone else you should try to spend a bit more time with yourself.

You've done nothing to try and fix you. It doesn't happen in a day or two or a week. it takes time and effort.

In other words: those who fail to their history are doomed to repeat it.

[daande]

We have a counsellor on the board :)

apparently.

[daande]

Don't hate me bro, but I'd have to agree. Please don't think I'm trying to spread salt in the wound.. but when you made your post about the break up, you listed several negative things concerning your character and attitude and things you'd done which potentially caused her to leave. You're already one step ahead of the game.. you know what's wrong.. but it's gonna take thought, time and a lot of reflection to change. Perhaps this girl is the one.. I hope it works out for you! But learn from your past mistakes and adjust accordingly.. then this one might just go the distance..

I understand I have realized these things. I do have very strong will power and I am confident I can fix them. This one girl I barely know but I think I made some progress by not attempting to bang her at all.

[PdH]

I understand I have realized these things. I do have very strong will power and I am confident I can fix them. This one girl I barely know but I think I made some progress by not attempting to bang her at all.

Bro this is not a personal attack, so don't take it that way. I'm just trying to provide you with some insight so you can make informed decisions, instead of running on autopilot. Our previous discussions are unfinished.

You are so self-absorbed that you can't see past your own desires and self imposed illusions. It's readily apparent in much of what you write. For example, the fact that YOU didn't want to bang this girl doesn't mean she's nice and normal. You completely dismiss the reality that this girl comes from the same pattern of behaviour that you talk so much about. So why should she be different? Because YOU didn't want to bang her? What if you did try to bang her? You'll never know b/c you're trying to delude yourself that she is a nice girl b/c of what YOU either do or do not do.

This girl is with you right now b/c dysfunction attracts similar dysfunction so it can be played out and live on. Until you change, the type of women you attract will not change. I can tell you how this will turn out. You will find out she's either not a nice girl or she'll dump your ass and you'll proclaim that you've tried dating nice girls and they **** you over too, so you'll go back to ****ing randoms and skanks b/c it's easier, all the while denying that you had any part in the matter.

[daande]

Bro this is not a personal attack, so don't take it that way. I'm just trying to provide you with some insight so you can make informed decisions, instead of running on autopilot. Our previous discussions are unfinished.

You are so self-absorbed that you can't see past your own desires and self imposed illusions. It's readily apparent in much of what you write. For example, the fact that YOU didn't want to bang this girl doesn't mean she's nice and normal. You completely dismiss the reality that this girl comes from the same pattern of behaviour that you talk so much about. So why should she be different? Because YOU didn't want to bang her? What if you did try to bang her? You'll never know b/c you're trying to delude yourself that she is a nice girl b/c of what YOU either do or do not do.

This girl is with you right now b/c dysfunction attracts similar dysfunction so it can be played out and live on. Until you change, the type of women you attract will not change. I can tell you how this will turn out. You will find out she's either not a nice girl or she'll dump your ass and you'll proclaim that you've tried dating nice girls and they **** you over too, so you'll go back to ****ing randoms and skanks b/c it's easier, all the while denying that you had any part in the matter.

I wanted to bang her but I didn't. There is no delusion. All I said was she seems nice and normal. I don't think I have a major dysfunction problem as you suggest. If any girl dumps me it is their loss. Good-****ing-luck finding a guy like me who will be able to support a family plus is extremely nice, kind and caring. All of my friends think its normal to ask a girl who she was with when she went out so if that is my big problem than oh well. In my entire life I went through a 4 month stint of ****ing random girls. I think this was because when my ex gf dumped me it crushed my self esteem, so what. I have never cheated on a girl and I never would. I ****ed alot of random girls for 4 months and now I regret but live and learn. I don't ever see myself going to that type of extreme behavior. It would be one thing to maybe meet some random girl one night and bang her if I had some sort of connection with her. Anyways, I am extremely bombed right now so this is the end of my rant. You can analyze this tomorrow and tell me I got drunk to get over my own fear of having to deal with my so called "problems".

[kloan]

I dunno man.. you sound fine to me.

[L3]

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[Durk]

lol this thread needs a tampon.

[BBbox]

I dont think hes THAT messed up... just has some jealousy issues and is a big slut with little respect for women... which hopefully he will learn to change/deal with with time...

However I think some other shit that has been posted on this board that people have done in terms of relationships (one dude being with a stripper while talking about how much he truly "loves" his gf, another talking about how he religiously cheats on every girl but is somehow still a great bf) has been way worse and yet this is the only guy getting psychoanalyzed so harshly which is odd

[JacktheThriller]

slow dancing eh......

i grind girls into DUST!!!

[daande]

slow dancing eh......

i grind girls into DUST!!!

We were grinding dirty, but I was super drunk and I thought it would be hilarious to see if the girl would slow dance with me in the middle of some ****ing hip-hop room and she did! It was like a fairytale.

[Chunk]

lol this thread needs a tampon.

i gotta say man, you're the king of one-liners!

[Durk]

i gotta say man, you're the king of one-liners!

Ha nice sig.

I get told that alot in real life if you could imagine lol.

[Durk]

We were grinding dirty, but I was super drunk and I thought it would be hilarious to see if the girl would slow dance with me in the middle of some ****ing hip-hop room and she did! It was like a fairytale.

I feel happy for you. Take it a little slower and dont give it up to easy. You are more than just a piece of meat sir. Dont let what PDH says let you down I think he means well, but I think he reflects some of his own anger on other people. have fun and learn from your mistakes.

[PdH]

Dont let what PDH says let you down I think he means well, but I think he reflects some of his own anger on other people.

I don't get emotionally involved in any type of analysis. That would be highly unprofessional and result in an invalid assessment. My communication style varies from individual to individual based upon what I believe to have the greatest impact for that person. :)

[BBbox]

... pics?

[daande]

No pics...

She asked me to go see a movie tonight. So I said sure to get over my one-itis and because maybe I would have a good time. So it was alright. Anyways, I felt almost guilty afterwards like I was cheating on my ex how ****ing weird is that?

[countrychic]

I thought women were drama queens :D ;)

[69challenger]

^^^LOL!

[Millennium Drop]

No pics...

She asked me to go see a movie tonight. So I said sure to get over my one-itis and because maybe I would have a good time. So it was alright. Anyways, I felt almost guilty afterwards like I was cheating on my ex how ****ing weird is that?

I say bang her, the new one, it will give you something else to focus on.:sex

[ab_chic25]

I thought women were drama queens :D ;)


hehehe same here