Dedication... in bodybuilding but not relationships

[BBbox]

This is just something sorta random I noticed...

There seems to be alot of trouble with guys on here having/maintaing successfull/healthy relationships

I find it odd that so many are so dedicated and motivated to eat right/maintain hormone levels/workout etc

and yet that perseverence and determination somehow cant be transfered into a relationship setting

why do you think that is?

[trainharder]

A lot of it might have to do with options. It's a lot easier to be faithful and stick be monogamous when you don't have many options...

When you're in shape and look good naked, there is a shitload more temptation every time you step out your front door..

It's not everything but I think that's a big part of it.

[LD4HW]

Perhaps some are too focused on their training etc. Rather than putting all efforts into a relationship it's being put into training. At least this is how I feel...the next man would come along and **** up what I'm trying to achieve.

[natenator]

It's about being selfish towards your own goals. Someone who truly is a bodybuilder has to be selfish because bodybuilding is a 24 hour a day sport. It is sad but true.

I used to be like this. This is no longer how I want to live my life. I want to have fun, I want to enjoy myself and if that means missing some meals or gym time then so be it.

[BBbox]

A lot of it might have to do with options. It's a lot easier to be faithful and stick be monogamous when you don't have many options...

When you're in shape and look good naked, there is a shitload more temptation every time you step out your front door..

It's not everything but I think that's a big part of it.

Yah but... thats exactly what im saying...

Guys are able to be dedicated enought to avoid temptation in terms of eating shit food and skipping workouts

But not when it comes to turning down other chicks for the one you love?

[L3]

doing strips sets and getting my 50p/50c/20f is WAY EASIER than dealing with subconscious urges and emotions

[natenator]

This is just something sorta random I noticed...

There seems to be alot of trouble with guys on here having/maintaing successfull/healthy relationships

I find it odd that so many are so dedicated and motivated to eat right/maintain hormone levels/workout etc

and yet that perseverence and determination somehow cant be transfered into a relationship setting

why do you think that is?
I seriously think you have a vagina

[LD4HW]

There is alot of temptation for a woman out there too married or not. Being in the gym 6 or 7 times a week and being surrounded by all those incredible men. Women's hormones can be out of control too lol.

My ex used to say that I was obsessed with the gym lol whatever I was trying to hide from him! haha

[Durk]

BBbox are you a teenager by chance?

[#8]

^^ lol

"its easy not to cheat when nobody wants to **** you"

totally true quote

[CanadianIron]

People in good relationships spend less time on the internet... so you're getting a tainted sample.

[#8]

^^ lol

[Adonis13]

i have found that with a good relationship and understanding are key for bbers, my girl and her family have helped and supported me. she makes some of my food and helps me on rough days, she is my strongest link and i dont think you can accomplish your goals without a strong group of people who support you. before i was in a stable relay i was too worried about looking ripped and tight that bulking was hard. now i can focus much more and bulking and getting bigger and watery doesnt matter now, i got my girl.

[BAM]

My relationship turns to shit when I am on cycle.

It is pretty much destroyed at this point.

[BBbox]

Durk... Im not a teenager.

Nate... I may have a vagina. Want me to send you pics?


^^ lol

"its easy not to cheat when nobody wants to **** you"

totally true quote

^ Interresting point of view... prolly the one that cost you your gf right?

The way I see it, someone will ALWAYS want to **** you. Someone will always want to **** your girl. It has nothing to do with what other people want, its what you want. Do you want to sacrifice the relationship for the one night stand or the attention from some random chick? Is that worth hurting a girl who loves you?

I didnt used to be like this, but slowly realized I was becoming my dad, who cheats on my mom like a fiend and is probably the lowest of low assholes. I dont want to wake up when im 40 having hurt every girl I loved.... I dont want to wake up alone everyday or beside a wife who hates me. Noone to care if Im happy or how my day was.

I guess it might be ghey but whatever, Im done treating girls like that, just needing validation from random whores who "want to ****", I lost the love of my life this way, I learned from my mistake and hopefully wont end up alone and old, ****ing old women who are cheating on their husbands, looking back at my "youth" and wishing I hadnt wasted it on whores.

[natenator]

Durk... Im not a teenager.

Nate... I may have a vagina. Want me to send you pics?



^ Interresting point of view... prolly the one that cost you your gf right?

The way I see it, someone will ALWAYS want to **** you. Someone will always want to **** your girl. It has nothing to do with what other people want, its what you want. Do you want to sacrifice the relationship for the one night stand or the attention from some random chick? Is that worth hurting a girl who loves you?

I didnt used to be like this, but slowly realized I was becoming my dad, who cheats on my mom like a fiend and is probably the lowest of low assholes. I dont want to wake up when im 40 having hurt every girl I loved.... I dont want to wake up alone everyday or beside a wife who hates me. Noone to care if Im happy or how my day was.

I guess it might be ghey but whatever, Im done treating girls like that, just needing validation from random whores who "want to ****", I lost the love of my life this way, I learned from my mistake and hopefully wont end up alone and old, ****ing old women who are cheating on their husbands, looking back at my "youth" and wishing I hadnt wasted it on whores.
there's a problem with you if you love every girl you'd been with.

Love is for the special ones and those should be few and far between.

[warlock]

If you take bodybuilding seriously it takes a lot of time and commitments, if you want to built a serious long term relationship it takes time and commitment as well.

Most people don't have much time after they live work so if the priority in life is BB them having a real relationship is quite hard.

Society finds weird a guy that actually is worried with what type of food he is eating, exercises in a daily basis, goes to bed at a decent time and have partying as a secondary thing in life if he is in his 20's.

Plus BBing attracts a lot of borderline OCD people

[BBbox]

Society finds weird a guy that actually is worried with what type of food he is eating, exercises in a daily basis, goes to bed at a decent time and have partying as a secondary thing in life if he is in his 20's.



Lol i dont think alot of guys here put partying secondary far as i can tell

[#8]

i just think the reality of the situation is that most guys are as faithful as their options.

[Chaps]

I've come to the conclusion that i need to find someone who's also into lifting, as it's a big part of my life and I want to be able to share that interest. Women love guys in shape but unless they aren't into lifting themselves they don't like all the work that goes into it.

[BBbox]

i just think the reality of the situation is that most guys are as faithful as their options.

thats kinda pathetic to act that way though... so weak that you cant turn down any pussy because you have some other "options".... im just saying if ppl wanna do that they should stay single and not complain when their relationship doesnt work out

[#8]

it is pathetic to not turn down your options for sure but its also a hell of a lot easier for some guys to be faithful when they get no attention and like to talk shit to other people for making human mistakes.

most people like to harmlessly flirt and have friendships with the opposite sex, just dont take it past the line. i think a big part of growing up is learning where that line is and not putting yourself in a situation where the line appears.

[PdH]

I dated a stripper once. Big lesson for me. She dated a bodybuilder once. Big lesson for her.

[monkey]

Durk... Im not a teenager.

Nate... I may have a vagina. Want me to send you pics?



^ Interresting point of view... prolly the one that cost you your gf right?

The way I see it, someone will ALWAYS want to **** you. Someone will always want to **** your girl. It has nothing to do with what other people want, its what you want. Do you want to sacrifice the relationship for the one night stand or the attention from some random chick? Is that worth hurting a girl who loves you?

I didnt used to be like this, but slowly realized I was becoming my dad, who cheats on my mom like a fiend and is probably the lowest of low assholes. I dont want to wake up when im 40 having hurt every girl I loved.... I dont want to wake up alone everyday or beside a wife who hates me. Noone to care if Im happy or how my day was.

I guess it might be ghey but whatever, Im done treating girls like that, just needing validation from random whores who "want to ****", I lost the love of my life this way, I learned from my mistake and hopefully wont end up alone and old, ****ing old women who are cheating on their husbands, looking back at my "youth" and wishing I hadnt wasted it on whores.

You on PCT or what??

[JonnyO]

My family is what keeps me grounded. I train, diet, prepare for contests and eat the same foods day in and day out. I fit my training and meals around my family life, not the other way around. And if you have troubles doing that then maybe its not something your cut out for.

As for temptations with the opposite sex, there is none for me. Temptation comes when you put yourself into a situation that brings out that temptation. Stay out of those situations to avoid any temptation.

[Chunk]

My family is what keeps me grounded. I train, diet, prepare for contests and eat the same foods day in and day out. I fit my training and meals around my family life, not the other way around. And if you have troubles doing that then maybe its not something your cut out for.

As for temptations with the opposite sex, there is none for me. Temptation comes when you put yourself into a situation that brings out that temptation. Stay out of those situations to avoid any temptation.

ding ding ding...we have a winner.

"turning down options" and "it's hard when you look this good" are cop outs people use when they don't want to grow up or just aren't interested in relationships but don't want to admit it for some dumb reason.

I've miraculously found a way to turn down chicks when i'm in a relationship...and it doesn't ****ing matter what you look like, chicks will always want to bone guys (especially ones with girlfriends already!) please, get over yourselves if you think that's not true!

If you want to be with a chick, keep your dick in your pants...if you can't do that, there is something seriously wrong with you!

[BBbox]

ding ding ding...we have a winner.

"turning down options" and "it's hard when you look this good" are cop outs people use when they don't want to grow up or just aren't interested in relationships but don't want to admit it for some dumb reason.

I've miraculously found a way to turn down chicks when i'm in a relationship...and it doesn't ****ing matter what you look like, chicks will always want to bone guys (especially ones with girlfriends already!) please, get over yourselves if you think that's not true!

If you want to be with a chick, keep your dick in your pants...if you can't do that, there is something seriously wrong with you!


This is exactly what Im trying to say... I hate guys who think theyre the shit and theyre doing their gfs a FAVOUR by turning down pussy... you seriously dont deserve to have a girl if you act that way

[monkey]

Well.. I think you guys have a point.. I've been engaged and happily turned down everything because I valued what I had...
As of now, I know I couldn't be faithful and dont even engage in anything serious... my mind is not set that way and I have to meet the right pussy to even consider turning down my awesome, selfish lifestyle...

[Pullverisor]

My relationship turns to shit when I am on cycle.

It is pretty much destroyed at this point.
I can imagine. After all, you certainly can't count on your gleaming personality to carry you, eh?