Ever wonder if you are biologically destined to be alone?

[Durk]

I once was a fairly monogomous type of guy. I had a four year relationship and such, but as I get older I am finding it harder, and harder to stay in a relationship. Not to say that I would cheat, but I tend to lose interest and move on very fast.

Although I never really knew my father at all, I get told all the time that I act just like him, and look more like him every day. I was told that he was a massive manwhore, and year by year I just keep getting worse.

After last months fiasco I really tried to clean up my act, and I did give that one girl an honest shot, but it really wasnt meant to be. I have decided to actually focus on getting something stable and meaningful instead of whoring it up, but I feel that I lack something in that department.

Genetically some people lack the same pair bonding chemicals as a normal person, and I am starting to think that I am one of them. Am I destined to be 50 and single just like my dad?

I dont see it as a completely bad thing right now, but eventually the booty train is going to slow down lol

[BBbox]

This is like Jerseys "never wanna get married" thread... maybe the two of you could become grumpy old men together???

On a more serious note, it may just be something you will grow out of
Work on making yourself happy before being with someone else

[#8]

dude.....

i know EXACTLY what you are talking about. holy shit. thats some serious parallel lives going on there dude. i hear you, and i know your pain.

[BBbox]

^^ what happened with that

I think if you "lose interest or want to move on" thats exactly what you should do

[#8]

my girl and i are trying to work things out. she really is amazing and i need to smarten up to keep her. i just know exactly what Durk is talking about. its ****ed up....

[Durk]

We are around the same weight and athletic build. You also Italian by chance? lol I kid, but if you ever feel like moving on pm me what uni you at and if its close I will stop by and we can tear that school appart.

[BBbox]

scientifically, the inital "infatuation/falling in love" chemicals in your brain start to wind down after youve been with someone between 2-3 years... after that its more of a "bonding" chemical

second chemical is more calming so some dudes find it gets boring after it hits. could be whats happening with you guys

But why would either of you stay with a girl if youre losing interest, or just wanna be on the "booty train"? Just cut your loses. Still young right... eventually you will find someone who will keep your attention.

[Durk]

What I logically want, and what I dont know any other word for it (emotionally drives me perhaps) are two completely different things. Logically I want to settle down, but it seems I am using that to reason with a drive that does not want to be changed. Like I said I wasnt like this when I was younger, the last couple of years have been a steady build up it seems.

[dremen]

I once was a fairly monogomous type of guy. I had a four year relationship and such, but as I get older I am finding it harder, and harder to stay in a relationship. Not to say that I would cheat, but I tend to lose interest and move on very fast.

Although I never really knew my father at all, I get told all the time that I act just like him, and look more like him every day. I was told that he was a massive manwhore, and year by year I just keep getting worse.

After last months fiasco I really tried to clean up my act, and I did give that one girl an honest shot, but it really wasnt meant to be. I have decided to actually focus on getting something stable and meaningful instead of whoring it up, but I feel that I lack something in that department.

Genetically some people lack the same pair bonding chemicals as a normal person, and I am starting to think that I am one of them. Am I destined to be 50 and single just like my dad?

I dont see it as a completely bad thing right now, but eventually the booty train is going to slow down lol


What is the problem here man. You say you want a meaningful relationship then you say you tend to lose interest quickly?

Either stay single and keep playing the field or settle down with a sweet honey and shut up already......LOL

I don't mean to be rude bro im just very tired of guys blowing it with awesome woman then bitching about it, not to mention it makes it all that much harder for the next guy to get any booty....LOL:lick:D

[BBbox]

dremens got it... if you want to settle down, do it... if not, just enjoy the single life for now!

Durk, dont **** over some nice chick just because youre messed about about what you want. If youre "driven" right now to play the field, thats what you should do. You will have plenty of time to settle down in the future.

And Jersey if youre feeling the same way, why bother being with the girl? Seems like you might hurt her in the end if your underlying feelings are that you dont want to be settling down. Its fairer to both of you if you let her go so she can find a guy who wants to be long-term and you can get out there and be the single guy till youre ready.

I had a similar situation with a gf, loved her but always had this underlying urge to be with other chicks. We ended up breaking up and it sucked but was for the best... let me figure my shit out and now I know 100% what I want.

The point is if youre messed up/undecided about what you want you shouldnt commit yourself to someone at all.

[ironwill]

It took me until my mid thirties to want to settle down, I thought i was going to be an old man, rockin the ol fogie homes....lol....I seriously did......
Then things started clicking in, and one thing led to another, and i happened to meet the right lady at the right time in my life.......
CC and i talked about it, and she is glad, and im glad we never met earlier, she would have just thought i was a pig, and a drunkard etc....I might have got a one nighter out of her anyway, because i am pretty damn sexy and hard to resist....lol...But i wouldnt have her in my life now......
I think it hits us all at one point and the stars align, its important to have stuff in common, im sure of that....Youre still young, hell have fun, it will happen when you least expect it...

[Durk]

To Dremen and BBox

Getting laid is super easy. I can get the average young dumb skank that is willing to hold a conversation with me naked the same night 90% of the time. I can beat them at their own childish mind games, and that makes them easy.

I have had a few dates with extremely grounded women, and it went like a normal date should, but I knew I wasnt able, due to a lot of things to give them what they wanted.

I have never tricked a girl into anything. I am thinking of trying some more normal dates and kicking girls that try to jump me the first night they meet me to the curb. I somehow have a knack for knowing when a girl is good to go and how to capitilize on it.

For now I just want to go out a few times and decide where I am at instead of having sex right away like always.

[natenator]

To Dremen and BBox

Getting laid is super easy. I can get the average young dumb skank that is willing to hold a conversation with me naked the same night 90% of the time. I can beat them at their own childish mind games, and that makes them easy.

I have had a few dates with extremely grounded women, and it went like a normal date should, but I knew I wasnt able, due to a lot of things to give them what they wanted.

I have never tricked a girl into anything. I am thinking of trying some more normal dates and kicking girls that try to jump me the first night they meet me to the curb. I somehow have a knack for knowing when a girl is good to go and how to capitilize on it.

For now I just want to go out a few times and decide where I am at instead of having sex right away like always.
that's where I'm at... trying dating first before jumping in the sack right away. The ones you think are decent girls... you naturally want to hold off or at least I do. Any relationship that starts out with sex is bound to end quickly once *that* part wears off.

[BBbox]

Getting laid is super easy. I can get the average young dumb skank that is willing to hold a conversation with me naked the same night 90% of the time. I can beat them at their own childish mind games, and that makes them easy.


I agree dude. I CANNOT stand guys who think they are suave players because they can easily get laid. They think they are special because they can pick up a drunk slut at a bar... which pretty much anyone can do. When guys brag about this I want to punch them in the throat.

Anyways like IW said, you will figure it out with time. Just make sure you dont get into a relationship with anyone unless youre ready.

[dremen]

What's with all the slut and skank talk?

[Durk]

that's where I'm at... trying dating first before jumping in the sack right away. The ones you think are decent girls... you naturally want to hold off or at least I do. Any relationship that starts out with sex is bound to end quickly once *that* part wears off.

I am starting to realize that same thing.

[Durk]

What's with all the slut and skank talk?

I use it as a term of emdearment for this new generation of 19-23 y/o girls. God bless them.

[natenator]

I use it as a term of emdearment for this new generation of 19-23 y/o girls. God bless them.
lmao so true

actually we can extend it a bit to the 26 year olds too.

I met a girl at the bar Sat night. Chatted, did the number exchange thing... leave get up the next morning and I got texts from her with pics using the phrase "thinking of you while I took these" bahaha

So I sent her one back off a pic I found on online of some dude with a horse dick hahaha she hasn't responded yet hehe

[theboss]

So I sent her one back off a pic I found on online of some dude with a horse dick hahaha she hasn't responded yet hehe


LMFAO!

.....................now lets see hers! :bd << to me!

[BBbox]

lol

I feel somewhat sorry for the girls that end up with you dudes! They may have to create a support group amongst themselves. I wonder how Jerseys girl does it? Maybe by "working it out" he meant hes keeping her in a cage cuz she smartened up enough to ditch him :D

[natenator]

lol

I feel somewhat sorry for the girls that end up with you dudes! They may have to create a support group amongst themselves. I wonder how Jerseys girl does it? Maybe by "working it out" he meant hes keeping her in a cage cuz she smartened up enough to ditch him :D
uhh dude... what's to feel sorry for? Girl in my bar story sent me picvs of her in various states of undress and other positions lol. How have I done anything to her which would make you feel sorry for her?

Women can be just as big, if not bigger, whores than guys and there's nothing wrong with that if that's their thing but lets not paint all woman as saints and all men as pigs. They know how to play the game and usually play it better than us.

[BBbox]

^^ I meant in terms of ****ing around in relationships when a large part of you still wants to be the single player

[natenator]

^^ I meant in terms of ****ing around in relationships when a large part of you still wants to be the single player
just because you *want* to doesn't mean you do.

The want to bang different women will always be there but just because you want to doesn't mean you will do it. Big difference.

[Durk]

^^ I meant in terms of ****ing around in relationships when a large part of you still wants to be the single player

Never ****ed around in a relationship. I am told that I am very blunt with my intentions from the start.

Heres the deal on how girls really want to be treated and there is not to much science or thinking behind it.

You get a girl who tells you that she has been through a lot. Her last 4 boyfriends cheated on her and although you are a nice guy she isnt ready to trust guys again because she is so hurt. Then you go around mad at guys like that because they ruined the chances a decent guy like you had with her.

WRONG heres whats really going on

You never actually had a chance. Logically she wanted the nice guy like you, but emotionally she wanted the exact same guy as the last 4 guys shes been with. Women who date doucebags will always want doucebags. Most girls look for a certain type good or bad and tend to stick with them. Ever wonder why a girl who seems so nice and sweet is always getting hurt because she can never find a decent guy? The truth is she doesnt want a decent guy lol

[BBbox]

^^ So what youre saying is... just treat girls like shit and youll be better off?

[Durk]

^^ So what youre saying is... just treat girls like shit and youll be better off?

It depends, if thats the kind of girl that you are looking for that will be the only way that you will be able to keep her interested. Some girls crave the drama more than anything else.

I am looking for girls that dont want that so I dont have to be like that, but who you think someone is and what they turn out to be when you meet them can be decieving.

[natenator]

It depends, if thats the kind of girl that you are looking for that will be the only way that you will be able to keep her interested. Some girls crave the drama more than anything else.

I am looking for girls that dont want that so I dont have to be like that, but who you think someone is and what they turn out to be when you meet them can be decieving.
aint that the truth.

[BBbox]

It depends, if thats the kind of girl that you are looking for that will be the only way that you will be able to keep her interested. Some girls crave the drama more than anything else.

I am looking for girls that dont want that so I dont have to be like that, but who you think someone is and what they turn out to be when you meet them can be decieving.

OK I have to admit I am confused... you want a girl that will in a sense make you a better guy right? But at the same time you do not want a relationship/are driven to play the field?

[CanadianIron]

I never wonder this... If you're looking for a serious commitment and women know this, they'll latch on. Women want a father for their kids, be a man and provide and you're gold.

[Durk]

OK I have to admit I am confused... you want a girl that will in a sense make you a better guy right? But at the same time you do not want a relationship/are driven to play the field?

I just want to see if I am making a mistake by going after the same types over and over. I have never taken it slow so I just want to see if it will make me feel different about my stance on relationships.

[dremen]

I've had enough bush in my time to know it's just better to wack off rather then bang the easy chicks, especially bar chicks. I've taken my fair share of antibiotics over the years and im ****ing lucky i did'nt pick up something that was serious:lick

Gawd years ago 2 of my buddies banged the same chick in a nightclub bathroom without eachother knowing and for the next 2 weeks they cried like lil babies when they pissed.....LOL

**** man good times:yeah

[CanadianIron]

Sounds like shit times to me...

[dremen]

Sounds like shit times to me...


Your just a grumpy grump....lol;)

[ironwill]

It must be a war within yourself going through this shit durk.....No offense , but i banged to many chicks in my time, and it was all intentional, i knew i was young, and knew i had to get it out of my system, had a lot of guilt about other crap going on while growing up etc., and had to prove myself, to myself......BUT, i never fought with myself about it, not once, i knew i was good with the ladies and didnt have to go to bars to pick up, christ i can honestly say ive been picked up on way more than i ever tried to pick up, on the street, in safeway etc all over the place, Never had an insecurity about it.....Sounds like some of you guys are just trying to tell yourselves you are studs, and want verification of your conquests... ...

Now in a relation that is serious, i dont wonder what its like to bang this broad, and bang that broad etc....lol...sounds funny saying it, i know we had these discussions and some guys say if you dont want to **** a hottie you see on the street, you are gay...Thats simply not true, ive banged hundreds, yes, with an s.....many hundreds...Never had 1 disease, not 1.....Never had a guilty thought about it , but i also realized i dont need that anymore, and im not gay because ive not wanted to bang any that i see on the street...lol...
I look, yes i do....But dont want to be with them,....Maybe as gaty as this sounds, maybe falling in love, you love your partner so m uch, you would never want to hurt them, and in turn that part of your brain doesnt need to bang as much because the hurt outweighs the little bit of pleasure you will receive...??I dont have the answer, i just dont know why we see so many threads like this, **** man, go get laid and have fun, when the right one comes along it will, until then **** away, just be honest about it.....
It seems these threads appear a lot on mondays, alcohol is a depressant, after drinking comes a few days of a down period, thats what i attribute this thinking to....So go get head, get laid, have fun, be honest, wrap it up, and dont lead on innocent ladies and ruin them for future studs...

[waderow]

^^^ true. I have no intentions ever of cheating. My brain wont let me do it, nor will I put myself in a situations where it could happen (example: drunk with bar sluts in my hot tub ia asking for trouble).
I will admit though, that if your girl doesn't keep you satisfied, the grass begins to look greener, so a small degree of onus is on the girl to maintain herself, just as we are all supposed to be doing here.

[ironwill]

^^^ true. I have no intentions ever of cheating. My brain wont let me do it, nor will I put myself in a situations where it could happen (example: drunk with bar sluts in my hot tub ia asking for trouble).
I will admit though, that if your girl doesn't keep you satisfied, the grass begins to look greener, so a small degree of onus is on the girl to maintain herself, just as we are all supposed to be doing here.

very true, that is the biggest thing i believe.....not putting yourself in the situation to begin with....And the couple keeping things spicy.....:shock

[Danger]

I think Ironwills got his shit figured out, I always figured I would end up being with a ton of women before I would ever find one worth staying with. I mean really if you seriously want to be with a quality woman is it really strange to think it might take years and meeting a ton of women to find the one or do people really expect exceptional things to just fall into their lap without any work or something?

[BBbox]

Alright so for clarification Durk, the problem you have is that you feel like you cant find a girl you can really build a connection with? And so therefore you have turned to manwhoring?

Im largely confused as to where Jersey comes into having the same situation... arent you already with a girl who you feel is "amazing"? Your problem is then different cuz you already have a girl but still want to be a manwhore right?

[natenator]

I think Ironwills got his shit figured out, I always figured I would end up being with a ton of women before I would ever find one worth staying with. I mean really if you seriously want to be with a quality woman is it really strange to think it might take years and meeting a ton of women to find the one or do people really expect exceptional things to just fall into their lap without any work or something?
how is going out and banging randoms at the bar "work"??

What is true is that you need to have relationships with women to truly understand what you do and don't want in a partner. What are the deal breakers? You won't figure that out until you've actually dated women and by dating I don't mean 1 or 2 week "relationships" that are based solely on sex.

And I do think there are people out there that find the one early on in life. The problem is we grow and what might be the one for you at 25 or 35 or 45 may not be the one for you at other ages or stages in your life.

Being in a relationship is about sharing your life with someone. Victories sweetened and defeats softened because it was done together. Someone you see after a bad day and instantly you forget about your issues. Someone who makes you smile when they aren't even in the same country as you. That's a relationship. You don't discover that after one night of sex with some random bar babe.

[waderow]

Being in a relationship is about sharing your life with someone. Victories sweetened and defeats softened because it was done together. Someone you see after a bad day and instantly you forget about your issues. Someone who makes you smile when they aren't even in the same country as you. That's a relationship. You don't discover that after one night of sex with some random bar babe.

you bring a ****ing tear to my eye bro

[gsxr750]

I don't know i'm kind of the same. I am just a selfish person when it comes to relationships. I think i'll end up being single eventually, and will stay like that for a long time..

If I need sex i'll go out, if I need companionship i'll get a puppy

[BBbox]

^^ :a+

[kloan]

biologically, no. psychologically, yes.

[ironwill]

good shit.....


how is going out and banging randoms at the bar "work"??

What is true is that you need to have relationships with women to truly understand what you do and don't want in a partner. What are the deal breakers? You won't figure that out until you've actually dated women and by dating I don't mean 1 or 2 week "relationships" that are based solely on sex.

And I do think there are people out there that find the one early on in life. The problem is we grow and what might be the one for you at 25 or 35 or 45 may not be the one for you at other ages or stages in your life.

Being in a relationship is about sharing your life with someone. Victories sweetened and defeats softened because it was done together. Someone you see after a bad day and instantly you forget about your issues. Someone who makes you smile when they aren't even in the same country as you. That's a relationship. You don't discover that after one night of sex with some random bar babe.

[Danger]

Weird, What is meant by "Work" is exactly what you typed out I never meant to say banging randoms at the bar is nessecary to find someone worth spending your life with.

I just meant nothing comes for free in this life so you gotta "work" to get what you want, seems like everyone these days has this bizzare sense of entitlement where they feel like they should be rewarded for just existing.

[BBbox]

seems like everyone these days has this bizzare sense of entitlement where they feel like they should be rewarded for just existing.


true

[ab_chic25]

you know, not everyone in the age group 19-27 is easy when they go out to the bar ad have a few drinks....Take time find out what makes you love yourself, then you can work on loving someone else..Everyone gets to the point at some age where they are ready to settle down. I know I have started thinking about it myself now at 26. But then again, I also finally know myself and love myself.

One other thing though, Don't be someone who gets in a relationship then lets themselves go. I hate it when guys and girls do this. Manly the girls, its like they get you then gain about 30lbs in four months, wtf????

[WonderWoman]

It took me until my mid thirties to want to settle down, I thought i was going to be an old man, rockin the ol fogie homes....lol....I seriously did......
Then things started clicking in, and one thing led to another, and i happened to meet the right lady at the right time in my life.......
CC and i talked about it, and she is glad, and im glad we never met earlier, she would have just thought i was a pig, and a drunkard etc....I might have got a one nighter out of her anyway, because i am pretty damn sexy and hard to resist....lol...But i wouldnt have her in my life now......
I think it hits us all at one point and the stars align, its important to have stuff in common, im sure of that....Youre still young, hell have fun, it will happen when you least expect it...

....I agree, timing has alot to do with it and common interests do help. The love bug will bite you in the a*s when u least expect it and when it does, you will know!! Good-luck!!