View Full Version : Mixed messages with new girl
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 02:38 PM
I've known this girl for a little but only really started talking to her the last few months. I see her about three times a week at work and she's always throwing mixed messages and signals.
One day she took me into the back room where she told me she wanted me to take off clothes. I was all for this and then she said she wanted to weigh me (there is a scale back there). Once she was complaining about her husband saying that he plays videogames all the time and it's annoying. She said she needs a man who does manly things. Last night she showed me some pics of her daughter and then one popped up of her husband and she said "he can jump off a building for all I care". She also mentioned her birthday was coming up and she's a size 7 (again with these ****ing women wanting something...) and winked at me a whole bunch. I think she just wanted to wink seductively at me.
This woman is married so I haven't said anything or made any moves. If I knew her marriage was on the rocks then maybe I would but I also know that a lot of married women like teasing guys to get a thrill.
She's super hot though. I've noticed her for a long time.
RagingRandy
21-10-2009, 02:43 PM
Married=Trouble
Sounds like she is trying to manipulate you. The taking off the clothes to weigh you is simply weird.
BBbox
21-10-2009, 02:43 PM
steer clear
sounds like a psycho
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 02:46 PM
She doesn't seem like a psycho. She's really sweet, unless that's just superficial charm. I'm still thinking it could be just playing games while at work because she's bored and she is married and doesn't get to flirt like a single girl does.
When she wanted me to take my clothes off it went like this. She said she wanted to talk to me in the back room. So I go with her and she starts smiling and says "take off your clothes" I took off my sweater and was just about to say "now you" when she said "I'm going to weigh you".
wtf? I`m going to weight you?
RagingRandy
21-10-2009, 02:51 PM
When she wanted me to take my clothes off it went like this. She said she wanted to talk to me in the back room. So I go with her and she starts smiling and says "take off your clothes" I took off my sweater and was just about to say "now you" when she said "I'm going to weigh you".
Still sounds weird.
69challenger
21-10-2009, 03:03 PM
Married=Trouble
Bingo!
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 03:21 PM
Seems everyone is thinking the same thing.
Good thing is, I've never once said anything flirting to her so if I just never make a move there will be no workplace politics or fighting or whatever.
omg this is so easy.
Take off your clothes. Your response should of been = But I barelly know you! Do you think I am easy or something? I would never take my clothes off for a girl until they got me flowers first. (Something along the shes trying to **** me but im playing hard to get line)
"He can jump off a building for all I care" your response = so where are we going for dinner after we push him off?
For the birthday. tell her you will make dinner for her at your place.
If she wants you to give a little compliance make sure she gives it back. Its all about dominance. Dont be her bitch and she will want you.
RagingRandy
21-10-2009, 03:49 PM
Good thing is, I've never once said anything flirting to her
.....I just got naked for her.
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 04:05 PM
.....I just got naked for her.
Getting in my underwear for someone isn't flirting in my books.
Be careful. She sounds like drama.....
Andre
21-10-2009, 04:22 PM
Bingo!
DING DING DING
We have a winner :rofl
Honestly, cheesesteak your posts crack me up :a+
I don't know where you live... but I suggest you move to a town with more normal folks :ilu
DING DING DING
We have a winner :rofl
Honestly, cheesesteak your posts crack me up :a+
I don't know where you live... but I suggest you move to a town with more normal folks :ilu
Durham region like you? :rofl
natenator
21-10-2009, 04:35 PM
Durham region like you? :rofl
beat me to it. Then Shwa girls are fuken nasty.
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 04:49 PM
DING DING DING
We have a winner :rofl
Honestly, cheesesteak your posts crack me up :a+
I don't know where you live... but I suggest you move to a town with more normal folks :ilu
I'm glad someone finds humor in the trainwreck of my life. I don't have enough prospects going to get a non-crazy girl. I'm stuck with welfares and nut jobs. At this point I'm thinking of just marrying my right hand. At least then I wouldn't have all this confusion with women. I'd just ignore them. Besides, when you have ED, sex can turn out to be a career wrecker.
Did you read my post on page one? You should be balls deep right now. Think about the consequences afterwards or ignore them all together lol
Houstonbc
21-10-2009, 04:55 PM
Did you read my post on page one? You should be balls deep right now. Think about the consequences afterwards or ignore them all together lol
X2
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 05:00 PM
Did you read my post on page one? You should be balls deep right now. Think about the consequences afterwards or ignore them all together lol
I read that post, but everyone else seems to be against it. I'm on the fence, I''ll see her tonight anyway. I know a relationship is not what I want, and even sex could be a disaster if things don't go right. Kinda don't wanna shit where I eat. Banging girls I don't know is different as I can just avoid them later. This girl I see everyday almost.
marino
21-10-2009, 05:46 PM
don't mess with someone who is married this can only lead to problems.
Andre
21-10-2009, 06:18 PM
I'm glad someone finds humor in the trainwreck of my life. I don't have enough prospects going to get a non-crazy girl. I'm stuck with welfares and nut jobs. At this point I'm thinking of just marrying my right hand. At least then I wouldn't have all this confusion with women. I'd just ignore them. Besides, when you have ED, sex can turn out to be a career wrecker.
I am not laughing at you... I am laughing with you... honestly, when you post this stuff up you most be chuckling to yourself...
You need new 'prospects'... sorry about the ED issue, go to a Dr. and get it taken care of...
faller
21-10-2009, 06:40 PM
You guys dissapoint me..... Not ONE request for a pic??!!! WTF??
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 06:53 PM
I am not laughing at you... I am laughing with you... honestly, when you post this stuff up you most be chuckling to yourself...
You need new 'prospects'... sorry about the ED issue, go to a Dr. and get it taken care of...
ED issue will only result in getting prescribed medication that isn't covered for me. I can't afford to buy it. I'm seriously, dead seriously, thinking about never being intimate again, for the pure fact that I know that if they ever wanted to ruin my rep all they gotta say is what goes on in the bedroom.
ED issue is a big reason why I'm not afraid to take steroids. Lose my erections? Not like I have them all the time anyways. Inability to have kids? Don't want them anyways because my neurological disorder will pass on 100%. There aren't many side effects of AAS usage that will have a big impact on my life.
pseclint
21-10-2009, 06:53 PM
I personally dont like the marriage fact...... Im gonna give Durk kudos for the technique on the girl because its flawless..... It seems that girls like the novelty of getting married, after they have their big day they go back on the prowl, most of the time.......... why is this girl with her man if she cant stand him, she should leave his ass because clearly its a failed marriage sooner than later..... also nothing wrong with some flirt action back, she is clearly looking for a play friend to take her out of her shitty relationship......
Now I dont see cheating as a respectable move on her part but she should be out of there.... tell the man he cant keep her happy and move on.... this shit happens all the time and wayyyy to often, but if she cheats and you start dating, always keep in mind you are dating a cheater......
also we need picks man, you know our advice is useless without pics
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 06:55 PM
I don't take pictures of girls anymore. It's bound to backfire on me.
natenator
21-10-2009, 07:04 PM
I don't take pictures of girls anymore. It's bound to backfire on me.
you mean "balloon" up on you lol
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 07:08 PM
When fat girls don't want anything to do with you... you know you lost at life
RagingRandy
21-10-2009, 07:27 PM
^^^^^Buddy, all joking aside you seem like you need to get your self-esteem up. Girls find that very attractive. They want guys with confidence.
About the ED, it could have to do with the above as well but have you had your test levels checked? HRT is doing wonders for my sex life. Helps with the confidence too.
JacktheThriller
21-10-2009, 07:28 PM
yea not a good thing to get into, husband could be psychotic and if u end up liking her its all this drama over her leaving her husband and the kid, steer clear,
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 07:31 PM
I have low self esteem but I don't let it show in public. I'm told from a lot of people that I'm quite arrogant. I learned long ago that if you let someone see your weakness they will exploit it. Part of which if I go around with a limp noodle I'm gonna be the butt of all jokes.
My doctor won't check my test levels unless I pay $80, even then she said she won't HRT no matter what (know a guy who tried for HRT with her). I am interested at what my levels are, as I never had sex until I became a huge alcoholic.
umm....i have soo many things to say....cheesesteak.....holy ****.....nm.....your posts are like shock and awe.....kinda like watching meatloaffarts.com video....there's no words.....
You need to move to a nice city and start from scratch. New job, new friends, new gym & some Ikea furniture.
champcar99
21-10-2009, 10:19 PM
I never hit on a married women, BUT if she coming on to me, then it's a different story...If I was you the NEXT TIME she's is being all flirty ask her out for a few drinks or even better ask her to come over to watch a movie, if she takes the invite then make some moves to get her into bed..sooner the better..then get rid of her...who wants a lady like that to be your women..one night stand sure...she sounds like the type that's probably already had a few one nighters
countrychic
21-10-2009, 10:26 PM
I read that post, but everyone else seems to be against it. I'm on the fence, I''ll see her tonight anyway. I know a relationship is not what I want, and even sex could be a disaster if things don't go right. Kinda don't wanna shit where I eat. Banging girls I don't know is different as I can just avoid them later. This girl I see everyday almost.
cheesesteak make a decision for yourself. You know what's right and what's wrong. Married ..... drama ..... ect.... it's a pretty easy decision, it all depends on what you want to deal with if everything were to go wrong.
You say you get all the welfare, drama queens, well this should a big alarm!!
natenator
21-10-2009, 10:28 PM
I have a question: She's not 300+lbs is she? lol
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 10:46 PM
I have a question: She's not 300+lbs is she? lol
5'7 or so, 135lbs, trains 5x a week.
I've decided to not pursue her. If it turned out back it would screw up a lot of my life.
Just ask her if she wants to **** if she says no then you've lost nothing , but if she says yes...then you have to make a choice.
champcar99
21-10-2009, 11:14 PM
I have a question: She's not 300+lbs is she? lol
I was waiting for someone too ask....lmao
cheesesteak
21-10-2009, 11:39 PM
Just ask her if she wants to **** if she says no then you've lost nothing , but if she says yes...then you have to make a choice.
That's exactly what my brother said. He said next time she's flirting with me just to look her in the eyes and say "you wanna **** or what?". He says worst comes to worst you get a black eye from her husband.
But I've decided not to do anything unless she gives me a real big sign (like inviting me for food or drinks alone). Then I'd make a move.
Andre
21-10-2009, 11:39 PM
5'7 or so, 135lbs, trains 5x a week.
I've decided to not pursue her. If it turned out back it would screw up a lot of my life.
By the way you have described your life you got nothing to lose... Pop a viagra and give her what she wants !
champcar99
22-10-2009, 12:07 AM
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But I've decided not to do anything unless she gives me a real big sign (like inviting me for food or drinks alone). Then I'd make a move.
from hunting down hungry hippos a few weeks ago to this chick cheesesteak...you better take this one to make up for the last one...it's called making karma right..lol.. next time she gets flirty just ask bro..plus we want to hear the details...
Houstonbc
22-10-2009, 12:21 AM
5'7 or so, 135lbs, trains 5x a week.
I've decided to not pursue her. If it turned out back it would screw up a lot of my life.
PICS
:pstfu
No offense bro but given your previous track record (300LBers) we need to see this!
faller
22-10-2009, 12:35 AM
PICS
:pstfu
No offense bro but given your previous track record (300LBers) we need to see this!
How quickly we forget
http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o113/faller11/Picture20217.jpg
natenator
22-10-2009, 11:22 AM
How quickly we forget
http://i118.photobucket.com/albums/o113/faller11/Picture20217.jpg
good point! lol
natenator
22-10-2009, 11:23 AM
By the way you have described your life you got nothing to lose... Pop a viagra and give her what she wants !
atta boy Andre! lol
CanadianIron
22-10-2009, 12:56 PM
You havent met with Tony Robbins anytime lately? This is sounding an awful lot like that incident Shallow Hal had... size 7? You sure she isn't a 700 pounder?
Regardless I think you should leave her the **** alone, shes married and you're not respecting that. I actually think marrying your right hand would be a good idea, you have no idea what to do with women. Hit the gym, train. And forget them.... maybe after all that, you will be ready.
Andre
22-10-2009, 01:17 PM
You havent met with Tony Robbins anytime lately? This is sounding an awful lot like that incident Shallow Hal had... size 7? You sure she isn't a 700 pounder?
Regardless I think you should leave her the **** alone, shes married and you're not respecting that. I actually think marrying your right hand would be a good idea, you have no idea what to do with women. Hit the gym, train. And forget them.... maybe after all that, you will be ready.
Take it easy on the poor guy... the chick he is talking about deserves no respect... honestly, respect must be earned!
I think this could a much needed confidence booster...
CanadianIron
22-10-2009, 02:55 PM
The chick may not, but who are we to judge their marriage, maybe shes just a flirt. I think anyone going after married women deserves whatever they get...
Andre
22-10-2009, 03:08 PM
The chick may not, but who are we to judge their marriage, maybe shes just a flirt. I think anyone going after married women deserves whatever they get...
I am not telling him to run after married women... he said this women (who happens to be married) is making the moves on him... in this scenario, I think this women will end up sleeping with someone (aside from her husband), so it might as well be cheesesteak... Marriage is what people make it... obviously, this women is not 'happily married' so she might as well be single...
CanadianIron
22-10-2009, 03:10 PM
Sounds to me like she was messing with him... "take off your shirt and jump on the scale"... i dunno about that.. not quite... "take off your pants and hop into bed"
Andre
22-10-2009, 03:17 PM
Sounds to me like she was messing with him... "take off your shirt and jump on the scale"... i dunno about that.. not quite... "take off your pants and hop into bed"
Only one way to find out :fb
natenator
22-10-2009, 03:32 PM
Only one way to find out :fb
someone's on some test... lol
Andre
22-10-2009, 05:31 PM
Any updates... out of curiosity, where does this girl happen to work? :lick
cheesesteak
22-10-2009, 06:01 PM
Any updates... out of curiosity, where does this girl happen to work? :lick
I talked to her last night. She was giving me the cold shoulder. When I was leaving she said that her husband brought her flowers today. So I'm just gonna write this up as she wasn't getting along with him and that's how she gets her revenge. Now that she's not fighting with him anymore she has no time for anyone.
Win some, lose some. It was most likely gonna turn bad if I had of made any moves anyway.
I won't say where she works as there is someone else from my city on these forums.
Andre
22-10-2009, 07:10 PM
I was kidding about where she works... my wife checks out this forum sometimes :help
Be confident... that's the #1 rule of life...
HoliTheCat
22-10-2009, 07:57 PM
I would invite her over to your house for some chicken and sex. Be a man about it. Call her on her games.
"Crystal, I want you to come over for some chicken and sex! How's tonight @ 4:30 for you? I like to eat and **** early so I can catch the new 30 Rock".
Nothing else to say after that...
Or...ask her if she is a fan of Amy Fisher...
(30 Rock is on tonight, as an fyi).
ubcpower
22-10-2009, 09:31 PM
I just found this thread now....again I both thank and applaud you for sharing Cheesesteak...keep these coming
kloan
22-10-2009, 09:37 PM
The one cheating is the one to blame... I'd **** a married chick. Her damn fault for cheating on her husband, it's got nothing to do with me. If not me, she'll **** someone else. Sure I'd feel bad for the poor bastard who married a bitch of a wife, but that's not my problem.
Though this chick sounds a bit nuts, good for some romping.. but might make things complicated in the workplace, which would not be cool. Not worth losing your job over.
scubadiver
24-10-2009, 12:57 PM
It has happened countless times that right after the marriage and kids, a couple will get bored, stop having sex, put on weight and not be as intimate as they were when they were dating. I guess it's as they get accustomed to the boring, mundane, everyday existence of seeing each other on a daily basis.
Married women flirt all the time to get a sense of 'still having market value'. After all, the guy they're flirting with hasn't seen her in her grandma undies once a month, getting cranky with PMS, bent over with cramps, or not putting out because she's 'got a headache', 'not in the mood', 'tired and just wants to sleep', 'just wants to cuddle' or any of the other countless excuses that eventually make the husband decide he would rather just not beg for sex any more. More likely than not, she just wants to know you would do her, for her own self-esteem.
I would say the same psychology applies for married guys who go to strip clubs, get horny then go home and do it with the wife (or by themselves, if she's not in the mood). You're not going to want a blowjob right after you've just changed the baby's diaper or cleaned the puke off your shirt.
Anyway - I think she would never have left her husband for you, thank goodness for you(you don't want that baggage), so you have to take it for what it is. She wanted to know she was still attractive and could get a man if she wanted to.
Someone once told me it's safer to have a discrete affair with a married person because they have more to lose and are therefore more careful about leaving an evidence trail.
monkey
06-11-2009, 02:51 AM
I'd hit it IF I WERE YOU.. I wouldn't say that to somebody else.. but seeing what you banged before and listening to you.. you almost need to do it.
you probably missed the opportunity.. she probably was horny, mad at her husband.. chances are she doesnt even like you but just felt like having sex..
you see an opportuniy, jump on it... on anything... you'll build confidence that way and ****ing practice... practice , get loose so you don't piss yoursefl everytime a girl sees you..
and get some viagra , youll have it on you and can use it if needed... at least you won't be ruinning away like a little girl anymore and blame it on your ED,,
Chunk
13-11-2009, 02:43 PM
i know this is old, but it's been bumped so i'll let you in on a secret cheese.
don't fool with chicks who are married...the last dumb bitch i was with fooled around on me and it ended up messy! it can ruin someone's relationships for years to come...i'm a product of it. i've been through it first hand and third person, when you see a grown woman cry and in so much pain (esp. when it's family) when the man she was married to for 18 years and had a child with went outside of the marriage...you will never think of being involved in this kind of thing.
not to mention, if she's doing it to her husband...what kind of woman is she really? she'd most likely get bored with you if you ended up with her by the looks of her current situation. If you've got self esteem issues, that will only make it worse!
on a side note, for all the woman trouble you supposedly have, you sure seem to be able to find women who want on easily.
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