Lost my ability to get excited??

[HoliTheCat]

Hey All,

More of a serious thread here...or...more serious then my usual homoshit.

But, i've noticed over the past few years...that I have honestly lost almost all of my ability to get excited...or whatever it is that would make one excited.

I very rarely look forward to anything. I'm not sad, or down by any means...I just don't get jacked up about shit.

Example - everyones been to a concert i'm sure. You know how people are often standing and waving their hands in the air...singing and shit? I would never do that. No music could ever make me wave my hands in the air. (and i'm an avid guitar player and music lover). And all i think of the entire time is stfu, stop singing, sit down so i can enjoy the music.

I've been to a few ufc's and a couple other smaller live shows...and everyone is screaming and cheering...and i love to be there, and am passionate about the sport but the whole time all i can think of the is stfu, sit down so i can enjoy the fights. I don't understand how people can get so excited about something that they yell and scream and holler and wave their hands around, etc, etc, etc


Has anyone else noticed this as they've gotten older? I love my life, i'm extremely fortunate...but so many people always tell me that i look so 'unenthused' or unintersted or that i'm not having fun...

Not sure if im explaining the above correctly...but...am I depressed? The last time I remember getting truly excited about something was when my brother Rane and I took my boat and drove it over to Victoria (from Vancouver) and got ****ed up for 3 days straight while we were moored at the Coast in the harbour. Is that wrong? I feel like more shit should excite me. I spent 4 weeks in Thailand last christmas...and while it was beautiful...I just didn't really care...

Insights please.

On a side note. I'm almost too good looking...

[Durk]

My diagnosis is "grouchitus"

[pseclint]

Hey man Im the exact same way..... nothing pumps me up like it used to..... I dont seem to be interested in going to concerts or anything of that sort.... I wouldnt call this depression either..... I find it hard and rare to get excited over lots of things.....

I dunno why that is either.....

maybe if I suck on your hammer while BDH sits in his "old folks recliner chair" and jerks off while making chocolate chip cookies that will get you excited

[ubcpower]

Dude youre describing me ... think alot of the times those excited clowns are being fake or just trying to fit in....

[Shortdave]

On a side note. I'm almost too good looking...

No almost about it buddy.

[HoliTheCat]

My diagnosis is "grouchitus"

You're a homo. I'm not a grouchy dude at all...quite the opposite. I am a good nature d fun loving holicat

[theboss]

ditto.............right there with ya Holi...let me know if you find a cure.

[kloan]

It could be depression... there are many levels of depression. All it's describing is a chemical imbalance in the brain. If you're low on serotonin, it could affect how excited you feel towards situations, and life in general.

I'm the same way, though I know I have depression... the only excitement I feel these days is a temporary giddiness when I'm buying something cool. Other than that, I'm pretty blase about most things.

Do you ever find people accuse you of being in a bad mood or being grouchy? THAT puts me in a bad mood when someone does that.... Hey asshole! I was fine til you said something!! Sorrrrrrry if I'm not giggling like a 12 year old girl 24/7.

[MMASTAR]

i also suffer from this.. and i think a lot of people excitment at events and such involves alcohol, and i dont drink so maybe that plays a part... i too would love a cure for this....

[HoliTheCat]

Interesting discussion here brothers - I appreciate the honesty and that i'm not alone in this one...

Good point regarding the seretonin. Anyone know a way to increase this? Can this be achieved? I will do some reading tonight.

Kloan - I am the same - if I am going to get something cool I get excited for a bit. But then it dies back down. And yeah...I get accused of that a lot as well...

Also, I thought that perhaps it could be slight depression...but again I don't feel depressed...

[turboturist]

Hey All,

More of a serious thread here...or...more serious then my usual homoshit.

But, i've noticed over the past few years...that I have honestly lost almost all of my ability to get excited...or whatever it is that would make one excited.

I very rarely look forward to anything. I'm not sad, or down by any means...I just don't get jacked up about shit.

Example - everyones been to a concert i'm sure. You know how people are often standing and waving their hands in the air...singing and shit? I would never do that. No music could ever make me wave my hands in the air. (and i'm an avid guitar player and music lover). And all i think of the entire time is stfu, stop singing, sit down so i can enjoy the music.

I've been to a few ufc's and a couple other smaller live shows...and everyone is screaming and cheering...and i love to be there, and am passionate about the sport but the whole time all i can think of the is stfu, sit down so i can enjoy the fights. I don't understand how people can get so excited about something that they yell and scream and holler and wave their hands around, etc, etc, etc


Has anyone else noticed this as they've gotten older? I love my life, i'm extremely fortunate...but so many people always tell me that i look so 'unenthused' or unintersted or that i'm not having fun...

Not sure if im explaining the above correctly...but...am I depressed? The last time I remember getting truly excited about something was when my brother Rane and I took my boat and drove it over to Victoria (from Vancouver) and got ****ed up for 3 days straight while we were moored at the Coast in the harbour. Is that wrong? I feel like more shit should excite me. I spent 4 weeks in Thailand last christmas...and while it was beautiful...I just didn't really care...

Insights please.

On a side note. I'm almost too good looking...

I dont think it has anything to do with age, I have always been like this..... minus the good looking part.

[Durk]

You doing anything different like getting drunk less? I find sporting events and the like really sucked if I wasnt hammered.

I dunno man I wish I had kind of a balance. I either feel kinda shitty or feel on top of the world. I am barelly in between.

[t-bone]

adrenal burnout....

[BAM]

Have you considered booze & drugs in combination?

[kloan]

man thats why i got so hooked on C...... felt the happy outgoing rush i lack in my everyday life. slippery slope that one is.

[GYMBRAT]

You doing anything different like getting drunk less? I find sporting events and the like really sucked if I wasnt hammered.

I dunno man I wish I had kind of a balance. I either feel kinda shitty or feel on top of the world. I am barelly in between.

same here, sucks but true...maybe give big game hunting a "shot" if you haven't already, it works for me every yr...Buck Fever ;)

[guest]

i feel the same also. maybe its because things were always new when we were young, our view wasnt so coated with reality and anything seemed possible.

as i get older i definitely find myself looking for a sense of purpose. i think a lot of people try to fill this need by having children. Mr Ontario fills it by sleeping with the elderly.

maybe you need a new hobby? ......have you seen 'Mr. Brooks'?

[HoliTheCat]

You doing anything different like getting drunk less? I find sporting events and the like really sucked if I wasnt hammered.

I dunno man I wish I had kind of a balance. I either feel kinda shitty or feel on top of the world. I am barelly in between.


I actually very rarely drink anymore...I think I was happier when I was a drunk...

[HoliTheCat]

man thats why i got so hooked on C...... felt the happy outgoing rush i lack in my everyday life. slippery slope that one is.

Hmmmm....fair enough

[Bowlcut]

I suggest you old ****s read about "appreciate inquiry".
It is basically rephrasing life and focusing on positive aspects. So Holi instead of focusing on why you can't get laid at Celebrities, focus on developing a strategy for success (like taking your fashion cues from Bana). Also if you hang around with people as rad as you are then you will be more successful so ditch the weaklings.

[faller]

Do you ever find people accuse you of being in a bad mood or being grouchy? THAT puts me in a bad mood when someone does that.... Hey asshole! I was fine til you said something!! Sorrrrrrry if I'm not giggling like a 12 year old girl 24/7.

Or how about "SMILE!!"........It's all i can do not to punch him OR her right in the face.

I'm the same, shit even when i get hammered now all i want to do is sleep... I can say without a doubt that i am not depressed. I'm very content, love my wife, kids, grandson, dog if i had one. I do not get all giddy and excited about anything, i have fun, but i'm not one of those that stands up at a concert and waves their arms around. I chalked it up to age, but now is see thats not the case at all.

[tripleA]

i've always been like that. part of my character i guess. i've done a lot of fun things but never been crazy excited. to me it's cool and fun but not a huge deal. it also depends if you're an expressive person or not.

[turboturist]

Do you ever find people accuse you of being in a bad mood or being grouchy? THAT puts me in a bad mood when someone does that.... Hey asshole! I was fine til you said something!! Sorrrrrrry if I'm not giggling like a 12 year old girl 24/7.

Exactly, I was ****in happy until you opened your mouth is the usual response.

I have been told my whole life that I am a hard person to get to know and to read because of it. Dont know... I guess I know my self and I am the way I am

[HoliTheCat]

adrenal burnout....

Interesting - possibly I suppose. Although I don't feel tired, no lower back or joint pains...and I am a happy individual...

i'm gonna read about it some more though. I possibly have some deficiency's in my diet as well.

[HoliTheCat]

I suggest you old ****s read about "appreciate inquiry".
It is basically rephrasing life and focusing on positive aspects. So Holi instead of focusing on why you can't get laid at Celebrities, focus on developing a strategy for success (like taking your fashion cues from Bana). Also if you hang around with people as rad as you are then you will be more successful so ditch the weaklings.

i hate you

[HoliTheCat]

i've always been like that. part of my character i guess. i've done a lot of fun things but never been crazy excited. to me it's cool and fun but not a huge deal. it also depends if you're an expressive person or not.

You're ****en jacked brother...well done.

(off topic I know...but it's my topic)

[_Ragnar_]

I was like this too, then I tried testosterone. Now I get jacked up about everything!!

[kloan]

I was like this too, then I tried testosterone. Now I get jacked up about everything!!
Test makes me a sleepy lion.

[Bowlcut]

i hate you

You are just mad because when you go to Celebrities on every other night than Tuesday nobody even looks at you.

[Talo]

I'm the same way ALL the time about EVERYTHING . To a point it sucks , but it also works the other way for me to . I don't get very upset at things either. I'm basically emotionless !

[Ritch]

Holy crap, so many replies that describe me and how I feel here. People always ask me if I`m ok as well. Whenever I get to work people ask me if I`m tired or what`s wrong... I swear the more involved and serious I seem to get into bodybuilding the less fun I seem to be having. I gotta start going out and having fun again. But for me that means going to after hour clubs. I ****ing hate drinking and bars. Too many clowns. But being up for 2 days also has it`s down sides...

But (and I feel like a broken record because I say this so often here) l-tyrosine really helps me. 3 grams twice a day 1 hour after a meal is a must for me. I seriously lack motivation it`s just rediculous. Even this cycle didn`t get me out of this rut. I hear test makes some guys lazy, maybe that applies to me. I can pretty much say I feel even lazier.

So me either bro. Nothing gets me excited these days. To help your serotinin levels 5htp can be taken before bed. 50-100mg works pretty good. St John`s wort works nice as well and dosen`t have any negative effects 5htp can have when you stop.

[Ritch]

You are just mad because when you go to Celebrities on every other night than Tuesday nobody even looks at you.

If you notce that nobody is looking at him, does that mean you are? Lol...

[Bowlcut]

If you notce that nobody is looking at him, does that mean you are? Lol...

Celebrities est un bar commet Unity ou Meat Market.

[Durk]

Celebrities est un bar commet Unity ou Meat Market.

I think it would be really hard getting laid in a french bar unless somehow saying

voulez vous coucher avec moi?

To every girl I meet would eventually get me laid.

[HoliTheCat]

You are just mad because when you go to Celebrities on every other night than Tuesday nobody even looks at you.

lets hang out sometime...

[Ritch]

Celebrities est un bar commet Unity ou Meat Market.

Il a un bar au nom de Meat Market pour de vrai? Je suis pas "In" avec qu`est ce qu`il se passe aujourd`hui. Parcontre le Stereo est ouvert encore, je devrais y aller dans les prochaines semaines...

[Ritch]

I think it would be really hard getting laid in a french bar unless somehow saying

voulez vous coucher avec moi?

To every girl I meet would eventually get me laid.

That my friend would be the ultimate fail plan...

[Durk]

That my friend would be the ultimate fail plan...

Then tell me how to say you are my future ex whife in french?

[#8]

Did you used to do a lot of coke or E in the past?

Someone mentioned a chemical imbalanace already, which is quite possible. Illicit drugs can alter your brain chemistry so much so that Dopamine, and Serotonin no longer release properly or even at all.

Depression isnt always what people think it is. One can be depressed emotionally without being classified as "clinically depressed" where it would be in your best interests to take medication to help you through your daily life.

I lost one of my best friends to suicide last year. He battled with serious depression for most of his life and eventually just gave up.

It doesnt sound like you have an actual clinical problem to me, but Im not a psychologist or a psychiatrist. If you find that your attitude or energy level (or lack there of) is effecting your life, you might want to seek the help of a certified practitioner.

[Ritch]

Then tell me how to say you are my future ex whife in french?

That`s getting more clever... You could say " Je prévois que tu seras ma futur X femme" Or "Tu a l`air d`une fille qui sera bientôt mon ex"

[Ritch]

Did you used to do a lot of coke or E in the past?

.

In my case lot`s of blow yes, but was like this before the mountains of dust I put up my nose. I know X ****ed me up too much after the trip so avoided it and never did it on a consistent baisis. But when I did that stuff, I couldn`t remember dates or phone numbers. It does a number on your brain.

[HoliTheCat]

Did you used to do a lot of coke or E in the past?

Someone mentioned a chemical imbalanace already, which is quite possible. Illicit drugs can alter your brain chemistry so much so that Dopamine, and Serotonin no longer release properly or even at all.

Depression isnt always what people think it is. One can be depressed emotionally without being classified as "clinically depressed" where it would be in your best interests to take medication to help you through your daily life.

I lost one of my best friends to suicide last year. He battled with serious depression for most of his life and eventually just gave up.

It doesnt sound like you have an actual clinical problem to me, but Im not a psychologist or a psychiatrist. If you find that your attitude or energy level (or lack there of) is effecting your life, you might want to seek the help of a certified practitioner.

You asking me this Sir? No, i've done neither a lot of coke or a lot of 'e'.

And i'm not tired, and my attitude is fantastic always. I do well at my job, I motivate a large group of people everyday in my company, I have lots of energy to go the gym and martial arts throughout the week...and I enjoy spending time with my family and friends...

Perhaps my outwardly emotions, or ability to show a lot of emotions...are supressed or 'depressed' i guess?

What's ****ing whack though...is i'll watch Extreme Home Make Over...and almost cry everytime...demented....

Interesting though...that so many of us experience similar 'symptoms' here on this board...

[pseclint]

You asking me this Sir? No, i've done neither a lot of coke or a lot of 'e'.

And i'm not tired, and my attitude is fantastic always. I do well at my job, I motivate a large group of people everyday in my company, I have lots of energy to go the gym and martial arts throughout the week...and I enjoy spending time with my family and friends...

Perhaps my outwardly emotions, or ability to show a lot of emotions...are supressed or 'depressed' i guess?

What's ****ing whack though...is i'll watch Extreme Home Make Over...and almost cry everytime...demented....

Interesting though...that so many of us experience similar 'symptoms' here on this board...

Holy shit man your kidding me Im the same way..... I've never touched coke or e in my life actually so it is completely out of the question for me

I watched Men of Honour the other day and almost cried during that movie, I dunno wtf that is about...

Also sometimes I'll get excited for a new video game or gadget and I'll buy it, leave it around the house still in the wrap just so when I see it I get excited again lol.....

This is some weird condition for sure, tough to get excited now but I think a lot of it has to do with getting older, more pressure and stress as you get older and less time doing things you enjoy....... but I dunno

[CanadianIron]

This is why people have kids.... i hadnt been crazy excited for anything til the day my kid was born, a kid is like a rebirth... brings all the joy back into life.

Once you hit your mid 20's its natural to have kids, natural life cycle... im not saying go have kids... but think about it.

[#8]

You asking me this Sir? No, i've done neither a lot of coke or a lot of 'e'.

And i'm not tired, and my attitude is fantastic always. I do well at my job, I motivate a large group of people everyday in my company, I have lots of energy to go the gym and martial arts throughout the week...and I enjoy spending time with my family and friends...

Perhaps my outwardly emotions, or ability to show a lot of emotions...are supressed or 'depressed' i guess?

What's ****ing whack though...is i'll watch Extreme Home Make Over...and almost cry everytime...demented....

Interesting though...that so many of us experience similar 'symptoms' here on this board...

I think you might be able to benefit from seeing a counselor. There are lots of free services (in Ontario at least, Im not sure where you live) that can help you try to get to the root problem of what MIGHT be wrong.

I have ZERO formal training other than several University and College level psych and sociology courses so take my opinion for what it is worth. I know you have been around on the boards a while, and a lot of guys look up to and respect you ( I remember you from MN, I was HockeyMonster back then).

Maybe you just need a change of venue. Move to a new area, make some new friends. From your outward expression of emtions during those shows, I think A LOT of people can relate to you. I have been choked up a couple times watching Extreme Makeover: Home Edition. Thats just you being human bro.

Look into counselling at least. I did.

[HoliTheCat]

I think you might be able to benefit from seeing a counselor. There are lots of free services (in Ontario at least, Im not sure where you live) that can help you try to get to the root problem of what MIGHT be wrong.

I have ZERO formal training other than several University and College level psych and sociology courses so take my opinion for what it is worth. I know you have been around on the boards a while, and a lot of guys look up to and respect you ( I remember you from MN, I was HockeyMonster back then).

Maybe you just need a change of venue. Move to a new area, make some new friends. From your outward expression of emtions during those shows, I think A LOT of people can relate to you. I have been choked up a couple times watching Extreme Makeover: Home Edition. Thats just you being human bro.

Look into counselling at least. I did.

Fair advice, and thanks for the compliment brother. With so many other people here claiming similar issues - I honestly wouldn't mind trying to find out what the problem could be...or if there even is a problem...or perhaps some of us just don't show much excitement...

lol - i've been around the boards for 9+yrs now...time flies!!

I also don't disagree with the change of venue. Something that has been on my mind for sometime now.

Also, to the one who mentioned kids above - that has crossed my mind a lot...my future and whether or not I can see myself raising children...couple of lil' holis running around!!

[Durk]

I will adopt a chinese babie with you holi

[#8]

I cant believe its been 4+ years for me too.

:)

I love this place.

[HoliTheCat]

I will adopt a chinese babie with you holi

Hmmm...solid idea brother.

[Durk]

Move to Toronto. Its a city full of girl lacking in Holicat lovin.

[CanadianIron]

I dont think people should expect to get excited about everything when they grow up... i dont get excited about much anymore and I concider myself very normal. What you're describing about yourself sounds totally normal. I wouldnt overthink it. Life gets boring... thats normal. Mix some shit up.

[HoliTheCat]

I cant believe its been 4+ years for me too.

:)

I love this place.

Good communities online for sure. Boards come and go, but the good people are always around.

It's funny that you, though, that you mention speaking to a councilor...I don't even know what I would say lol.

Happy with your job? yes
sucessful? yes
do you exercise? yes
overall health? excellent
good friends and family? yes
goals? lots
sleep well? yes
tired ever? not really
drink much? not really
rec drugs? no

probably it would get much more in depth though...perhaps next week i'll search one out...pretend i'm tony soprano...

[HoliTheCat]

Move to Toronto. Its a city full of girl lacking in Holicat lovin.

i'm in toronto for about a week every month bro - most of my business is in t.o. - always have a ****en good time...and thats actually somthing i always look forward too...

[HoliTheCat]

I dont think people should expect to get excited about everything when they grow up... i dont get excited about much anymore and I concider myself very normal. What you're describing about yourself sounds totally normal. I wouldnt overthink it. Life gets boring... thats normal. Mix some shit up.

Thanks brother.

[Durk]

i'm in toronto for about a week every month bro - most of my business is in t.o. - always have a ****en good time...and thats actually somthing i always look forward too...

WTF pm me with some msnage

[juggybuggy]

This is an interesting thread. I have the same problem, and I think a lot of men do.
I think it is because of the society we live in.
the movie Fight Club covers this issue very nicely.
If its been awhile since you seen it, you should watch it again.

[baza]

Often is a sign of depression. But you don't seem to have any other signs of depression.
I've been like this for as long as I can remember.
I remember being about 14, playing in championship football game, we lost by one point. Some guys were crying, pissed off, I didn't give a shit.
When I was about 19 or 20, we won the championship, everyone was jumping around, I could care less.

I am not depressed, but I have little emotion as well. And lack motivation.

[CanadianIron]

Often is a sign of depression. But you don't seem to have any other signs of depression.
I've been like this for as long as I can remember.
I remember being about 14, playing in championship football game, we lost by one point. Some guys were crying, pissed off, I didn't give a shit.
When I was about 19 or 20, we won the championship, everyone was jumping around, I could care less.

I am not depressed, but I have little emotion as well. And lack motivation.

Again, totally normal... thats just not what you're into... i tried to eat in a restaurant last year when the canucks played game 7, i dont even know/care what round.. every person in the joint was emotionally higher than a kite and I couldnt give less of a shit.

Unless the notion of suicide is becoming appealing, I wouldnt start self diagnosing... seriously... pick up a new hobbie. If you've been BBing for 5-10 years and you arent huge getting anywhere, that could be a contributing factor.

[baza]

But the thing is, I really enjoyed playing football, and was damn good. So you'd think it would be something I'd be 'in to'.

[CanadianIron]

You can enjoy something and not be competitive... im not competitive in sports/games at all... i dont get the point.... i would concider myself competitive professionally or with the way I live my life....

You might not care if you lose a game, how about if someone shafted you at work or stole from you?

[baza]

I work from home.
I'm extremely competitive in everything I do.

[CanadianIron]

Its hard to believe you're competitive if you dont care when you have a positive/negative outcome... isnt that the definition? Id say if you lose a game, and you dont care... you arent very competitive in that sport.

[baza]

Competitive with myself. I can only do so much on the field. If I'm the best on the field, and we lose because the offense can't score, there's nothing I can do about that.

[Bowlcut]

Il a un bar au nom de Meat Market pour de vrai? Je suis pas "In" avec qu`est ce qu`il se passe aujourd`hui. Parcontre le Stereo est ouvert encore, je devrais y aller dans les prochaines semaines...

Meat Market existe. Mon je pense k il a complainte avec le commission des droits de le persone et drots de le jeunesse parce une femme a ete expulse parce elle avait une pussy.

[Bowlcut]

Move to Toronto. Its a city full of girl lacking in Holicat lovin.

Don't expect him to deliver on that.

[HoliTheCat]

Don't expect him to deliver on that.

lol - wtf?

[HoliTheCat]

Again, totally normal... thats just not what you're into... i tried to eat in a restaurant last year when the canucks played game 7, i dont even know/care what round.. every person in the joint was emotionally higher than a kite and I couldnt give less of a shit.

Unless the notion of suicide is becoming appealing, I wouldnt start self diagnosing... seriously... pick up a new hobbie. If you've been BBing for 5-10 years and you arent huge getting anywhere, that could be a contributing factor.

Great post here bro. I'm identical here. I just often assume people are faking excitment regarding the canucks...lol

[ironwill]

Maybe you have to much money holi....
I find when we buy a new toy or something its exciting looking for stuff, making the deal, waiting for delivery...Awesome to use for awhile, then poof, gone....
Then it starts again...lol..Do you get excited when planning a vacation, then get there and its like WTF, its not that exciting...??
Or do you just not even get excited planning stuff??
Interesting...I find as i get older little things get less exciting...
I still get excited about things, just less of a euphoric high as when i was younger....Maybe your young years were to much fun....

[RagingRandy]

You asking me this Sir? No, i've done neither a lot of coke or a lot of 'e'.

And i'm not tired, and my attitude is fantastic always. I do well at my job, I motivate a large group of people everyday in my company, I have lots of energy to go the gym and martial arts throughout the week...and I enjoy spending time with my family and friends...

Perhaps my outwardly emotions, or ability to show a lot of emotions...are supressed or 'depressed' i guess?

What's ****ing whack though...is i'll watch Extreme Home Make Over...and almost cry everytime...demented....

Interesting though...that so many of us experience similar 'symptoms' here on this board...

WOW....This is ME. This and what you originally wrote. I have always been like this and chalk it up to that everyone is different. This was happening well before I started using AAS. My Mom has told me that even as a kid I was the "deep thinker" type. I can not understand why people just can't sit down at concerts and enjoy the music. Instead I get some whale shaking their ass in my face the whole time. I have teared up at TV commercials. It can be a little embarrassing when in a group. I often get the comment that I am or look too serious. It is more that I do not like frivolous BS. I seem to be able to get wound up about some incompetent moron screwing me over as I see this as a challenge but not about the good things that seem to come easily. Maybe that is it......maybe we just need greater challenges to feel a real sense of accomplishment.

[nitrous]

so holithecat is a guy that frequences celebreties? does he live on davie?

on a serious note just try new hobbies..

[HoliTheCat]

so holithecat is a guy that frequences celebreties? does he live on davie?

on a serious note just try new hobbies..

**** me.

Holithecat doesn't roll at celebrities...and I don't live on Davie Asshats.

Yeah, I do need some new hobbies. Like killing hookers or something.

[JifeLacket]

Its called 'maturity' - or being sober

[marino]

I don't want to advise you to become an adrenalin junkie but try somethng outside of the norm. Do or join a club that is outside the comfort zone just to stir up some emotion. Go on a vacation, no work, gym or commitments. We all get in ruts and we need something to jumpstart us again. The older we get responsibilty is bestowed upon us and we have a hard time looking back at the care free days of youth.

[HoliTheCat]

Maybe you have to much money holi....
I find when we buy a new toy or something its exciting looking for stuff, making the deal, waiting for delivery...Awesome to use for awhile, then poof, gone....
Then it starts again...lol..Do you get excited when planning a vacation, then get there and its like WTF, its not that exciting...??
Or do you just not even get excited planning stuff??
Interesting...I find as i get older little things get less exciting...
I still get excited about things, just less of a euphoric high as when i was younger....Maybe your young years were to much fun....

Hmm - the money thing is an interesting comment IW. Somewhat fair too. When I was 22 my business just took off...and I was making too much money for a kid that age with no responsibility or understanding of money...me and my boys just did retarded shit all the time...it was exciting and fun...

Not like that now...business is good...but I have a long term gf, responsibilities and I feel that I have to act a certain way now due to personal committments...cannot get crazy anymore...perhaps I need to again...

and you're dead on about the vaca part lol. too funny.

maybe this is just getting older...and I need to accept it? Hmmm...

[HoliTheCat]

I don't want to advise you to become an adrenalin junkie but try somethng outside of the norm. Do or join a club that is outside the comfort zone just to stir up some emotion. Go on a vacation, no work, gym or commitments. We all get in ruts and we need something to jumpstart us again. The older we get responsibilty is bestowed upon us and we have a hard time looking back at the care free days of youth.

Good advice brother.

[CanadianIron]

How old are you?

[HoliTheCat]

How old are you?

27 Sir.

[CanadianIron]

Yeah, you should have some kids.

http://www.canadabodybuilding.com/forums/showthread.php?t=11652

[simone]

^Holi, i haven't read the whole thread..

but i'm similar to you... 30 years old... went into business young and successful....

you're in marketing..so you should already know.. MOST people are bored with life!! lol that's why marketing works so well lol.

take on new challenges.. something different than you're doing now..

hang out with NEW people.. dont' forget your bros.. but definitely mix it up..

get some hobbies.. if you're with a girl, then something you both can do..

travel..

just have to realize life is waaaayyy too short.. and need to remember when you're doing shit like hitting a UFC in vegas at 750 bucks a ticket.. that you are very fortunate to be able to do so.. cause most guys can't!!!!

for me just starting to really appreciate the small things in life.. like family, friends.. my dog.. and stop focussing on what i can buy next.. made a huge difference...

[Durk]

Come nov we shall do some retarded shit to bring back your youth.


On a side note I am gunna look rediculously sexy tonight. I would post a pic, but your all gay. later

[Bowlcut]

**** me.

Holithecat doesn't roll at celebrities...and I don't live on Davie Asshats.

Yeah, I do need some new hobbies. Like killing hookers or something.

Try taking up masturbation. Why do you think Durk is too busy to call you?

[tony_canuck]

you're just becoming more de-sensitized to stuff because you've either done it or just don't put people or things on a pedastal... i'm the same way. i remember when i was a kid my buddy's dad invited us to an event where are the NHL players were, and i was awestruck by these guys, a few years later when i was more grown up and went to the same event i was thinking more along the lines of 'big deal, so you play hockey'... same with movie stars and this Toronto film fesival, like i'm going to line up and wait to see some guy who pretends to be someone in a movie, big freaking deal...

for me anyway, i just try to do whatever i think will make me happy, not just spending money because those things never last but experieces that you can enjoy. and you know i'm getting older when i say i really enjoy a great meal (yea over the years i've become more of a food guy instead of the shooter guy at a club LOL) and picking up new hobbies or enjoying old ones. one thing i've noticed is that i'm more into sports now (my 30's) than my 20's when all i did was go out party, meet chicks etc.. but i really enjoy it and i don't care what anyone else thinks.

[guest]

**** me.

Holithecat doesn't roll at celebrities...and I don't live on Davie Asshats.

Yeah, I do need some new hobbies. Like killing hookers or something.

jesus Holi, did you miss my post?

[HoliTheCat]

i feel the same also. maybe its because things were always new when we were young, our view wasnt so coated with reality and anything seemed possible.

as i get older i definitely find myself looking for a sense of purpose. i think a lot of people try to fill this need by having children. Mr Ontario fills it by sleeping with the elderly.

maybe you need a new hobby? ......have you seen 'Mr. Brooks'?

I think I did miss this. Sorry brother.

I have not seen 'Mr.Brooks' though. What is it about Love?

[guest]

I think I did miss this. Sorry brother.

I have not seen 'Mr.Brooks' though. What is it about Love?

Mr Brooks is about a highly intelligent, seemingly successful business and family man who is ultimately bored with life. He has a secret alter ego who's hobby is killing random people. The murders seem to be his only way to experience excitement.

i was serious about feeling the need for a sense of purpose, the need to be a part of something....and about a hobby(or new interest). that's how it is for me anyway.

[Bowlcut]

No need to pull a Robert Pickton because you can't get your shit together. Try World of Warcraft.

[nisser]

I find that BBing has killed excitement for a lot of things for me. Wing night used to be so ****ing fun and I'd look forward to it. While I still 'like' it, the entire day during work i'm thinking "damn that's a lot of cals". I can enjoy things but I always seem to see the bad things in going out to anywhere and I think it's contributing to less excitement.

[Bowlcut]

I find that BBing has killed excitement for a lot of things for me. Wing night used to be so ****ing fun and I'd look forward to it. While I still 'like' it, the entire day during work i'm thinking "damn that's a lot of cals". I can enjoy things but I always seem to see the bad things in going out to anywhere and I think it's contributing to less excitement.

Come powerlift. My level of happiness is much better because I am more concerned about gaining weight than losing it. You still gotta look good naked, but most chicks these are fat so it is not like they can judge.

[deletedandgone]

Wow, this thread describes me a lot, I can really relate to this. It could be a case of smarticis, commonly known as being smart, or just smarter than others. The only things that excite me are challenging problems that I solve, nothing else, and I have been like this all my life. I just don't get the point of bouncing in a club all drunk and wasted, seems pointless to me, plus alcohol and bbing don't mix.

This could also be the mentality of a bodybuilder, since a lot of guys here said "me too" at some point.

It doesn't sound like you have depression. But maybe read Kloan's thread on depression if you think it might help.


Move to Toronto. Its a city full of girl lacking in Holicat lovin.
Where!? Seriously, I've not had much problems finding drunken bar sluts, but rarely true girlfriend material in Toronto (where I live).

[warlock]

Where!? Seriously, I've not had much problems finding drunken bar sluts, but rarely true girlfriend material in Toronto (where I live).

Maybe if you change one thing or two in your lyfestyle it will happen.

[manfreakca]

move to toronto there is alot of single woman all ages and races wanna get laid.but get back to not bein excited bout stuff when i go do sumtin i love or a event i do get excited but im not jumpin or wavin around,i been quiet laid back person all my life,people actually think im pissed off all day

[GYMBRAT]

I only feel 100% when I'm doing something over the edge adrenaline wise, "working out", sledding, skiing, hunting, moto-x etc., that's when I feel most alive.....if I don't add any of that to my life often then I feel like crap...lets go sledding in the Mountains Holi mang!!

book a trip lets do this bud! you'll love it........seriously!!!

[tony_canuck]

Where!? Seriously, I've not had much problems finding drunken bar sluts, but rarely true girlfriend material in Toronto (where I live).


buddy, it's freakin hard to find a good gf! They're either super slutty, which is fun at the bar and for the night ;) or want to be a spoiled princess, which I'm not into at all! Either way, I don't sweat it, when the time comes it will come, until then I do all the fun stuff I like and relax. Life is too short to worry about stuff you can't control, enjoy your time on earth!