Felinecougar
29-09-2009, 05:25 PM
Long story..I'm now finding out his Mexican family is now living with h im in the city in his condo. She want's to have her daughter put on his benefits plans and for him to divorce me.
We were married 20 yrs..together 25. Mexican mistress became part of his fun while on work in Mexico. I found out about her..she wanted me to find out about her, I'm sure of that now. He lost his job and didn't see her again in Mexico.
Well...he gets a new job..half of what he use to make. We stuck it out living in the same house for 6 months till he had income but in the mean time we lived off savings.
We started to get along again but decided that to patch it up we needed to start over..so he gets a condo in the city that way we were not on top of each other and he moved out on great terms. I even helped him move in..put candle sticks on the table with place mats, made his beds , found toasters and such at second hand stores and made the place look great. It looks gay or has a womens touch, I made sure of. We were to start hanging out on Sat nights and he was to see the kids here for dinner on Sundays.
We didn't change the locks, bank accounts or anything because it was not to be permanent, it was short term.
This sunday was a Memorial Tree Planting ceremony for those who have passed away this past year. We lost his mother to cancer last year. He came to pick myself and the girls up and we went together. We sat with his father and brothers at the ceremony and went to Timmys after.
Seems she was furious that he didn't take her and again let me know she existed. I had NO fricken idea she was in Canada or with him still..only this time she did it drunk from his his work cell phone and she texted me.
."i'm your husbands girl friend and I'm living with him, please give him a divorce quickly please, I might be pregnant. I mean you no harm"
He sees all this on his phone the next morning and calls me he told me she was a crazy bitch that he moved her and her 6 yr old in with him..now he can't get rid of her..OMG.:popc2
He had purchased her air plane tickets here and back but canceled the return a few weeks ago..now it's going to take 2-3 weeks to re purchase those tickets with his air miles points..but he says he wants her gone...but...
Due to his "Use" I know he can't get her pregnant....so what now? If she is pregnant at all..or if she is how can it be his?
I was just feeling great about myself and him not around for the last 3 months because he did nothing to win me back so I was moving on..I was ready to start dating and tired of being alone...now more lies and pain again. ?
I need a lawyer but he says no that i"m still on everything and he wants it that way..I want for very little but live off of 1/2 of what I was use to. I'm still on all investments and such but now I see debt growing again. Like cash advances on our Visa etc. Danger lights are starting to go off...
I"m going to Texas to stay with family next week..the trip was booked a month ago and has nothing to do with the mistress being in Canada but it has perfect timing. sigh..
We were married 20 yrs..together 25. Mexican mistress became part of his fun while on work in Mexico. I found out about her..she wanted me to find out about her, I'm sure of that now. He lost his job and didn't see her again in Mexico.
Well...he gets a new job..half of what he use to make. We stuck it out living in the same house for 6 months till he had income but in the mean time we lived off savings.
We started to get along again but decided that to patch it up we needed to start over..so he gets a condo in the city that way we were not on top of each other and he moved out on great terms. I even helped him move in..put candle sticks on the table with place mats, made his beds , found toasters and such at second hand stores and made the place look great. It looks gay or has a womens touch, I made sure of. We were to start hanging out on Sat nights and he was to see the kids here for dinner on Sundays.
We didn't change the locks, bank accounts or anything because it was not to be permanent, it was short term.
This sunday was a Memorial Tree Planting ceremony for those who have passed away this past year. We lost his mother to cancer last year. He came to pick myself and the girls up and we went together. We sat with his father and brothers at the ceremony and went to Timmys after.
Seems she was furious that he didn't take her and again let me know she existed. I had NO fricken idea she was in Canada or with him still..only this time she did it drunk from his his work cell phone and she texted me.
."i'm your husbands girl friend and I'm living with him, please give him a divorce quickly please, I might be pregnant. I mean you no harm"
He sees all this on his phone the next morning and calls me he told me she was a crazy bitch that he moved her and her 6 yr old in with him..now he can't get rid of her..OMG.:popc2
He had purchased her air plane tickets here and back but canceled the return a few weeks ago..now it's going to take 2-3 weeks to re purchase those tickets with his air miles points..but he says he wants her gone...but...
Due to his "Use" I know he can't get her pregnant....so what now? If she is pregnant at all..or if she is how can it be his?
I was just feeling great about myself and him not around for the last 3 months because he did nothing to win me back so I was moving on..I was ready to start dating and tired of being alone...now more lies and pain again. ?
I need a lawyer but he says no that i"m still on everything and he wants it that way..I want for very little but live off of 1/2 of what I was use to. I'm still on all investments and such but now I see debt growing again. Like cash advances on our Visa etc. Danger lights are starting to go off...
I"m going to Texas to stay with family next week..the trip was booked a month ago and has nothing to do with the mistress being in Canada but it has perfect timing. sigh..